topic Re: Are You Driving? in Community Chat

Are You Driving?

Desert Lily — Tue, 28 Dec 2021 02:46:46 GMT

When I've been on the Forums recently, I've seen as many as 1,530 online here at the same time. But only a small percent of those people are posting, and only a tiny percent start threads.

Your ideas, discoveries, and thoughts are valuable, and it would be wonderful if you would share them and enrich the Forums. We want to hear and learn from you. Do you have something interesting to share about a new Home product? Have you seen something in fashion that we'd love to see, too? Do you have a special recipe to share? Do you have a Q product that you love and recommend? Do you have an enlightening experience to share? Do you have a great book you'd like to tell us about? What about a beauty secret or some sports event?

I've read some complaints that the Forums are "dead" or "boring." That's such an easy fix with your contribution.

Maybe the Forums are like a tour bus. There are a few people who volunteer to do the driving (and create threads). Some passengers make comments about the route. And, some passengers look out the window and are there only for the ride. But, all the passengers have amazing thoughts and ideas. We just need more of them to volunteer and drive.

Will you volunteer to take the wheel?

Re: Are You Driving?

ThinkingOutLoud — Tue, 28 Dec 2021 03:16:53 GMT

I agree with what you're saying but for me, I've been piled on too many times. I now think twice about commenting or starting threads. If those doing the complaining have been part of the pile on, they have their own selves to blame.

Perhaps another angle that needs to be addressed is the maturity needed to agree to disagree, remain civil, give the benefit of the doubt, etc.

Re: Are You Driving?

KathyM23 — Tue, 28 Dec 2021 03:17:49 GMT

@Desert Lily My turn to drive. The day before Christmas Eve I had at least 3 great things happen to me.

I went out to lunch and was waiting for my bill. The waitress came over and told me the family that just left had paid my bill and wished me a Merry Christmas. I wasn't even aware of the family behind me, never saw them before.

That afternoon a friend that I had met many years ago thru my DH as they had gone to school together since first grade called and said she was stopping over for a few minutes to wish us Merry Christmas. We all had been to lunch together and back to her house a couple weeks ago and she had the most beautiful vintage lamp which I exclaimed over. Well she came bearing the same lamp for me. Hers was green with roses and she found me a white one with roses (my favorite). I was stunned at her generosity as this was a pretty expensive gift. I then gave two of my living room lamps to my neighbor and moved another vintage lamp from the family room to my living room, so now all lamps in my living room are vintage which I love.

Then that evening I made a new friend. DH had helped a friend of his with a remodel job for this couple. They were so pleased they took us all out to dinner, gave me a gift of delicious candy and bought a new tool for DH. The woman and I enjoyed each other's company and have plans to get together for lunch. We went back to their house to play cards.

Quite a surprising and enjoyable day. Does someone else have a great story to tell us here!

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Love my grandkids — Tue, 28 Dec 2021 03:27:21 GMT

@KathyM23 I love your post! How lovely.

Re: Are You Driving?

lovescats — Tue, 28 Dec 2021 03:48:05 GMT

no I'm not driving but I don't agree that there are few people who start threads and few people who respond

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rms1954 — Tue, 28 Dec 2021 03:49:20 GMT

@ThinkingOutLoud wrote:
I agree with what you're saying but for me, I've been piled on too many times. I now think twice about commenting or starting threads. If those doing the complaining have been part of the pile on, they have their own selves to blame.

Perhaps another angle that needs to be addressed is the maturity needed to agree to disagree, remain civil, give the benefit of the doubt, etc.

I'm with you. I've been called out and piled on so I try to refrain from posting. Getting too hard and worrisome for me.

Re: Are You Driving?

Desert Lily — Tue, 28 Dec 2021 04:23:18 GMT

@KathyM23Great post!

@ThinkingOutLoud @rms1954 This is a positive thread to encourage others to post and to start new threads. I believe that there are endless things to learn from each other and to share with each other. This site has been a place of support for many people. I'd like to see more people do their share of the "driving" so we can hear the magnificent things that are on their minds.

Re: Are You Driving?

Kachina624 — Tue, 28 Dec 2021 04:25:31 GMT

@KathyM23 You've had a run of great luck! Better get to a casino immediately.

Yours was such a happy thread full of hope and optimism. I hope lovely things continue for one who sounds like a lovely person. I'm sure you deserve all the good things that have come to you.

Re: Are You Driving?

lovescats — Tue, 28 Dec 2021 04:47:02 GMT

@Desert Lily

I know this is rude but do you think people need to be told twice that this is a positive thread? people are just giving their opinions

Re: Are You Driving?

lovescats — Tue, 28 Dec 2021 04:51:42 GMT

complaints about the number of likes? huh?

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Sooner — Tue, 28 Dec 2021 04:52:44 GMT

@lovescats wrote:
@Desert Lily
I know this is rude but do you think people need to be told twice that this is a positive thread? people are just giving their opinions

@lovescats "I know this is rude but" I'm going to post it anyway?

I had to laugh at that one!

Re: Are You Driving?

KathyM23 — Tue, 28 Dec 2021 04:56:01 GMT

@Kachina624 Thank you. I got up and started out that day with no idea of how wonderful it was going to end up.

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lovescats — Tue, 28 Dec 2021 04:57:44 GMT

@Sooner wrote:
@lovescats wrote:
@Desert Lily
I know this is rude but do you think people need to be told twice that this is a positive thread? people are just giving their opinions
@lovescats "I know this is rude but" I'm going to post it anyway?
@Sooner
I had to laugh at that one!

well I didn't think she knew her reply was rude at least me it was

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Foxxee — Tue, 28 Dec 2021 05:33:24 GMT

I think it's the nastiness, sarcastic, and rude replies.

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QVCkitty1 — Tue, 28 Dec 2021 05:48:39 GMT

It is tiresome to read posters who default to negative, then tun around and complain about negativity. Self awareness is a wonderful thing.

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Desert Lily — Tue, 28 Dec 2021 06:30:08 GMT

How can we encourage more riders to drive the bus? How can we encourage others to start great threads and post thoughtful replies? Perhaps by modeling what we'd like to see in replies/threads is one way, but what else could we do?

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Desert Lily — Tue, 28 Dec 2021 06:33:50 GMT

@lovescats I don't believe that negativity will attract new posters, and the goal of this thread again is to encourage not discourage.

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San Antonio Gal — Tue, 28 Dec 2021 10:32:37 GMT

I almost passed on opening this thread. I thought it was about someone no longer driving their car.

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qualitygal — Tue, 28 Dec 2021 11:09:43 GMT

I like the way this was put forth, thank you. It reminded me of the visits I once had with my grandmother. She couldn't hear much, and lived to be 101. But she had stories she told me about her earlier life, I had no idea about. She told me things I'd never imagined that there were questions back then, I could have asked her about, since I had no knowledge either of these things or that they even existed. Mostly this occured when she was in the nursing home & I visited. The visits were great for us both.

By sharing, we can learn so much. Granted, there are some attackers here, take them with a grain of salt and let them have their say. Everyone's entitled. I'd rather communicate and create a conversation than an argument. Makes for a better life.

Re: Are You Driving?

AngelPuppy1 — Tue, 28 Dec 2021 12:12:23 GMT

@KathyM23

Goodness --- the sun was certainly shining on you! How nice to hear such wonderful stories.