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Opinions please

Goodie2shoes — Fri, 01 Oct 2021 18:42:43 GMT

A 5 yo child (not yours) tells you he or she is about to lose a tooth. So you look at the child and with a serious look on your face you tell the child that after the tooth falls out to run and get some of his or her's white play dough and stick it in the hole to make a new tooth. You don't know the child or his parents on a personal level. This actually happened and for me it was a shock. Children are very vulnerable and I think that was very inappropriate. Just curious as to what others think. Now the person may have been kidding but under the circumstances (school) I just don't think that was appropriate. Opinions please, thanks

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Imaoldhippie — Fri, 01 Oct 2021 18:44:35 GMT

No wonder the future generations are so messed up.

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Puppy Lips — Fri, 01 Oct 2021 18:58:46 GMT

I don't think that was appropriate either. You never know if the child got the joke or would actually go do that.

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luvmybeetle — Fri, 01 Oct 2021 19:03:26 GMT

@Imaoldhippie You are sooooo right. Children are very susceptible, you have to be very careful what you suggest to them. People are so ignorant. I'm afraid for our future.

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Porcelain — Fri, 01 Oct 2021 19:04:46 GMT

I'd consider it an opportunity to teach your child some street smarts as well as social graces.

I think it's a good chance to teach the child that sometimes people are just joking with you, pulling your leg or in this case your tooth, and the response is to wave them off. Not take them literally or seriously. And not get overly upset at what is meant to be a joke, even if it's clumsy and not particularly funny.

"Nooooooo. We can't do thaaaat. That's so silly!" would be my response to someone saying that to a child in my presence.

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Carmie — Fri, 01 Oct 2021 19:08:11 GMT

That was very inapproperiate and the adult that told the child to do that is an idiot.

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Sooner — Fri, 01 Oct 2021 19:09:40 GMT

I think it doesn't matter what anyone thinks. People do stupid stuff.

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Puppy Lips — Fri, 01 Oct 2021 19:10:55 GMT

@Porcelain wrote:
I'd consider it an opportunity to teach your child some street smarts as well as social graces.

I think it's a good chance to teach the child that sometimes people are just joking with you, pulling your leg or in this case your tooth, and the response is to wave them off. Not take them literally or seriously. And not get overly upset at what is meant to be a joke, even if it's clumsy and not particularly funny.

"Nooooooo. We can't do thaaaat. That's so silly!" would be my response to someone saying that to a child in my presence.

@Porcelain You make a good point. My parents never "kidded" or "joked" with us, or at least me. I went out into the world believing everything that everyone said to me. You have to have some confidence to think to yourself, "Wait a minute......", lol.

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D Kay — Fri, 01 Oct 2021 19:13:12 GMT

No different than telling them the tooth fairy will put money under their pillow.

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x Hedge — Fri, 01 Oct 2021 19:17:47 GMT

@Goodie2shoes wrote:

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My opinion is it's stupid and reckless to tell a gullible child to put anything inedible into their mouth.

Period. No exceptions.

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Porcelain — Fri, 01 Oct 2021 19:36:04 GMT

@Puppy Lips wrote:
@Porcelain wrote:
I'd consider it an opportunity to teach your child some street smarts as well as social graces.

I think it's a good chance to teach the child that sometimes people are just joking with you, pulling your leg or in this case your tooth, and the response is to wave them off. Not take them literally or seriously. And not get overly upset at what is meant to be a joke, even if it's clumsy and not particularly funny.

"Nooooooo. We can't do thaaaat. That's so silly!" would be my response to someone saying that to a child in my presence.
@Porcelain You make a good point. My parents never "kidded" or "joked" with us, or at least me. I went out into the world believing everything that everyone said to me. You have to have some confidence to think to yourself, "Wait a minute......", lol.

My paternal grandfather joked with me that way quite a bit. And at first I took him stone cold seriously.

He was deaf in one ear from scarlet fever as a child. Well he told me it was because he poured glue in his ear as a child so I must never do that. (He would pull one of my pigtails too. Not hard. It was his extremely old fashioned and annoying way of expressing affection.)

So in preschool and kindergarten I was ridiculously cautious with the glue and paste, terrified I might get some on my ears. Only a little later my mom and grandmother noticed grandpa's joking and explained the concept of pulling my leg to me.

Kids understand the concept of being silly. When you let them know that sometimes adults are being silly too, they can get it I think.

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Carmie — Fri, 01 Oct 2021 19:39:30 GMT

@D Kay wrote:
No different than telling them the tooth fairy will put money under their pillow.

Play dough that has been played with is extremely dirty and contains bacteria and heaven knows what else.. Putting something dirty into an open wound in your mouth could cause an infection. Oral infections can cause heart trouble. This could lead to a serious problem.

It is very different than the tooth fairy story.

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occasionalrain — Fri, 01 Oct 2021 22:09:15 GMT

Young children are literal, they don't have the language skills or experience to get that tone of voice can mean the opposite or that pulling your leg doesn't actually mean just that. That person was way out of line. Setting children up, laughing at them when they take comments literally is cruel. It can make them reluctant to ask when they don't understand and sometimes cause unnecessary fear.

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Othereeeen — Fri, 01 Oct 2021 22:15:48 GMT

Ewwwww......used play dough!!!

I would have suggested a Chiclet !!!!

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Kachina624 — Fri, 01 Oct 2021 22:20:46 GMT

@x Hedge wrote:
@Goodie2shoes wrote:
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Opinions please, thanks

My opinion is it's stupid and reckless to tell a gullible child to put anything inedible into their mouth.
Period. No exceptions.

@x Hedge Play Doh is non-toxic just in case a guillable child puts it into his mouth.

I'm guessing the adult who made the tooth suggestion was joking with a child who understood it was a joke. Somebody is making a mountain out of a molehill.

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mom2four0418 — Fri, 01 Oct 2021 22:26:34 GMT

@Goodie2shoes

The child just might know that the person who said it is a moron.

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Goodie2shoes — Fri, 01 Oct 2021 22:58:18 GMT

@Kachina624

@x Hedge wrote:
@Goodie2shoes wrote:
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Opinions please, thanks

My opinion is it's stupid and reckless to tell a gullible child to put anything inedible into their mouth.
Period. No exceptions.

@x Hedge Play Doh is non-toxic just in case a guillable child puts it into his mouth.

I'm guessing the adult who made the tooth suggestion was joking with a child who understood it was a joke. Somebody is making a mountain out of a molehill.

To assume a 5 yo child would understand whats real and whats a joke about everything or some things that are said to them is reckless. To guess that the adult was only kidding is also reckless in my opinion. These are our precious babies and they should be kept safe. If that child would have choked on that playdough or had some type of reaction (even if it is non toxic, some may still have a reaction ) that would not be a molehill situation

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mistriTsquirrel — Sat, 02 Oct 2021 00:16:50 GMT

I don't think it's that big of a deal, honestly. Play Doh is nontoxic.

The more harmful thing is to raise a child with the mentality that they are delicate like a piece of china, and that they live in a world where even the Play Doh they play with could harm them. A person who allows their anxiety to dictate their parenting style will raise a neurotic child.

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mom2four0418 — Sat, 02 Oct 2021 00:37:47 GMT

@mistriTsquirrel wrote:
I don't think it's that big of a deal, honestly. Play Doh is nontoxic.

The more harmful thing is to raise a child with the mentality that they are delicate like a piece of china, and that they live in a world where even the Play Doh they play with could harm them. A person who allows their anxiety to dictate their parenting style will raise a neurotic child.

Play-Doh and modeling clay are minimally toxic. If swallowed, a child could experience vomiting and/or constipation. Explaining to my child that it is not a good idea to eat it is an act of love.

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jannabelle1 — Sat, 02 Oct 2021 00:51:33 GMT

This sounds like something my Grandpa would have told me! Sometimes we need to teach our children that there is such a thing as a joke!