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Bad Dream

QVCkitty1 — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 13:39:57 GMT

I hardly ever remember my dreams, and if I do they fade quickly. Last night I had a real nightmare that involved my former job. I was due at another hospital about 1/2 hour away, and for some reason I couldn't get get there. I'll skip the gory details, but I can't shake it. I'm retired, so it doesn't make any sense that this feeling of dread won't go away. Have you had this experience ? I'm trying to keep busy, but it seems to follow me around. 🥺

Re: Bad Dream

Cakers3 — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 13:45:45 GMT

@QVCkitty1 It was a bad dream that left you with negative feelings.

Negative feelings are not prophecy.

Bad dreams are scary but there could be many reasons why that dream was set off by something you saw, read, or thought about during the day.

I look at a bad dream as "Wow where did that come from" and let it be.

You'll be fine.

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Desertdi — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 13:54:57 GMT

I had a FOREIGN LANGUAGE dream in the early a.m. hours today. Never had that happen before...

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software — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 14:03:33 GMT

I am curious about your experience. I have nightmares almost every night. In fact I had one last night. In most of them I am lost, either in a building or in a city. Some are violent but I've cut way back on reading or watching anything that might trigger violence in my dreams, including the news

The dreams I have of deceased loved ones seem to linger in my mind the next day. I have those dreams because I miss them. The dreams are bittersweet, but I don't consider them nightmares although they are bizarre.

The random dreams I just try to forget them. I don't know or care the meaning, I'm just trying to live in the here & now. Any dream I have that wakes me in the middle of the night with anxiety is what I call a nightmare, even if the dream would not be considered horrible

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phoenixbrd — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 14:46:21 GMT

@QVCkitty1 Dreams. are a gift. There are no filters on your subconscious. Time to reflect and learn about yourself. There is nothing to fear. Sometimes things that appear negative can be a positive...i,e, a death or loss of job/retirement can be a gateway to the birth of a long awaited change in your life.

Only you can interpret your dreams. (You might want to keep a journal and write down your dreams in the future...quickly after awakening without judgement or concern for grammar.) The dream that you had has now had time for your mind to alter and shift the contents. Dreams are an opportunity to learn more about yourself, then you have the ability to choose and act upon that knowledge. Being aware of your shadows gives you the opportunity to live your life more fully in the present..

Be creative and open to looking at your dream from different perspectives. Enjoy that you had this experience....welcome it...having more insight is a powerful tool and opportunity for change and knowledge.

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QVCkitty1 — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 14:46:04 GMT

@software , I ordinarily don't give my dreams a second thought, but this one was disturbing because I couldn't fulfill my responsibilities and was fired. I tried so hard to get where I needed to be to no avail.

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SilleeMee — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 14:53:20 GMT

I have recurring bad dreams about being late or absent from work and then I get in trouble. I'm also a retired medical professional and being late or absent is not something good for the job and can get you suspended or fired. I feared that happening to me even though I was never late or absent...I was just concerned of that happening to anyone b/c I've seen it happen more than once to some of my co-workers.

When I wake up from those kinds of dreams I feel horrible and the feeling lasts too long into my day. I hate it.

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QVCkitty1 — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 15:11:18 GMT

@SilleeMee wrote:
I have recurring bad dreams about being late or absent from work and then I get in trouble. I'm also a retired medical professional and being late or absent is not something good for the job and can get you suspended or fired. I feared that happening to me even though I was never late or absent...I was just concerned of that happening to anyone b/c I've seen it happen more than once to some of my co-workers.

When I wake up from those kinds of dreams I feel horrible and the feeling lasts too long into my day. I hate it.

@SilleeMee , Thank you for your response. You get how responsible you feel in a hospital setting.

Re: Bad Dream

Bri369 — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 15:15:52 GMT

@Cakers3 wrote:
@QVCkitty1 It was a bad dream that left you with negative feelings.

Negative feelings are not prophecy.

Bad dreams are scary but there could be many reasons why that dream was set off by something you saw, read, or thought about during the day.

I look at a bad dream as "Wow where did that come from" and let it be.

You'll be fine.

Why do you have to be so dismissive of how other people are feeling at that particular moment? The OP never said she wasn't going to be fine. She's coming here to share her thoughts and feelings.

You are really something else...

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Mersha — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 15:30:15 GMT

@Bri369 wrote:
@Cakers3 wrote:
@QVCkitty1 It was a bad dream that left you with negative feelings.

Negative feelings are not prophecy.

Bad dreams are scary but there could be many reasons why that dream was set off by something you saw, read, or thought about during the day.

I look at a bad dream as "Wow where did that come from" and let it be.

You'll be fine.
Why do you have to be so dismissive of how other people are feeling at that particular moment? The OP never said she wasn't going to be fine. She's coming here to share her thoughts and feelings.

You are really something else...

@Bri369 I did not get "dismissive" at all in @Cakers3 post.

I thought it was thoughtful and well intentioned.

Amazing how we all interpret things differently.

Re: Bad Dream

Bri369 — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 15:34:06 GMT

@Mersha

I respect your opinion. I did not get that impression from her post at all.

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occasionalrain — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 16:02:27 GMT

@QVCkitty1

I believe your dream was brought on by the situation with overwhelmed hospitals and understaffing. You feel a need to help but, because your retired, you can't get there to help. The dread is that people will die and you can't do anything to prevent it.

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maximillian — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 16:19:58 GMT

@QVCkitty1

I can relate to what you are writing about. I am a retired school teacher. Sometimes I dream about being a teacher in the classroom again, but it is usually a situation where I am a SUBSTITUTE teacher. Now, being a teacher in secondary schools is hard enough, but being a substitute is pretty much a thankless job. So, my dreams about this are always pretty much "downers." When I get up in the morning and think about what I dreamt, I just thank the good Lord above that I am now retired and actually have a life!

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Mominohio — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 16:45:00 GMT

@QVCkitty1

I, like you, rarely remember my dreams or for more than a few minutes after getting awake.

When a stressful one stays with me, I believe it has some message for me. It can be a warning, it can be a way of processing something that is going on in my life, or even some insight into stresses that are lying under the surface and I'm not dealing with them fully.

Especially if you rarely are affected by your dreams, I can see where this one following you might have you a bit on edge. Try to think what it might be trying to tell you or what it might be revealing in your life right now. Could you have some stresses from retirement, that working and having your job kept at bay (like financial, security, age etc.).

Hopefully the feeling will pass quickly.

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suzyQ3 — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 17:30:11 GMT

It sounds to me like a variant of the school dreams that affect so many of us. It's always about something going terribly awry.

Now I have more dreams about my teaching career, and it's the same thing -- e.g. I'm standing before my class totally unprepared.

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jlkz — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 18:14:40 GMT

@Desertdi

Interesting dream !

Although I have an MA in French Literature, I have never used it per se. My career has been totally corporate or entrepreneurial.

At one point, I was in a very difficult situation. Finally, after a strange dream I woke up and remembered the last sentence: It was in French and the only time ever that that had happened. When I thought about the sentence, I realized it held the answer as to the steps I needed to take.

Because the steps were so unique, the dream allowed the steps to avoid being rejected by my conscious mind. There was also symbolism in the dream that pinpointed the particular person I needed contact.

It ended months of my walking a tightrope suspended in mid air. The situation was resolved and my group was protected from unearned vindictiveness.

Months later the vindictive one tried to sabotage me even though I had been promoted and out of his organization. He made the mistake of mentioning someone's name in my performance appraisal that just happened to be a good friend of my AVP. The AVP called the guy and got the true story: he then deleted anything Mr. Vindictive had input.

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qualitygal — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 18:23:23 GMT

You know what, I think these times are super stressful. Most of us have not known this kind of stress as we see it in the news now a days. It's no wonder some dreams may come out as wierd, far-out and leave us in a state of disbelief. Just remember it's a dream not reality. It's probably how our subconscious is getting us through tough times by using familiar objects, but not making a real sense of most things now. It's ok, it's just a bad dream. You can't solve it, don't try to figure it out.

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Desertdi — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 18:34:59 GMT

@jlkz What a story you have! Well, in my case, I needed to speak Spanish at my former job, but in TODAY'S dream, the language was similar to Spanish, but "not quite the same". I was trying so hard to understand what was being spoken......and then woke up. di

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PA Mom-mom — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 18:36:19 GMT

@QVCkitty1 I often have these kinds of frustrating dreams. Either I can't get somewhere, or I'm cooking for a crowd and my ingredients keep disappearing. Sometimes I'm trying to write down important, life changing information and the pen/pencil won't work or I can't type it into my computer. I've heard that our dreams are our sub-conscious communicating with our conscious self. So, I try to think of what is frustrating me at the moment and try to come to grips with it. Right now, it's home renovation. The worst recurring dream I've had is needing to go to the bathroom and finding out that the only toilet is in the center of a room full of people. Sometimes it is also out of order. I finally looked it up, and found out that I wasn't taking enough time for myself. Who knew? Those toilet dreams have faded since I've been retired. Crazy huh?

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jellyBEAN — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 18:48:11 GMT

Aren't dreams weird? I very rarely have a good dream. The bad dreams wake me up and I feel such relief to know "it was only a dream". I often dream of water. I also dream in color.

Even if the op wanted an interpretation of her dream, everyone would have a different opinion. Our subconscious minds are really bizarre. But, I think all the bad news everywhere we turn affects us on a much deeper level than we would normally assume.