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Trashy Neighbor

jellyBEAN — Mon, 02 Aug 2021 18:35:26 GMT

At about 6:30am, I was opening up my blinds and front door to get ready for the day, and I noticed the lady who lives across the street, carry over a large trash bag filled with her trash and dump it in my receptacle. Trash pickup here is Monday am.

I am not friendly with this woman. She is just a neighbor who lives across the way. She has other neighbors she is friendly with on either side of her. Why didn't she put her trash in one of their receptacles?

I was going to confront her about it, as I have enough of my own trash to deal with, but at 6:30 am I wasn't dressed (still in pj's) and I didn't want to begin my day with confrontation.

I wonder how many times she's done this. If she would have asked me nicely I would have told her fine, but she just dumped it in there without a care in the world. And like I stated, we are not friendly. She never waves or even bothers to look in my direction, so I have learned to treat her the same. I have no business with her at all.

What do you think? Should I file a complaint with the HOA? or just let it go, and if I catch her again, then deal with it. I could have pulled her big trash bag out of my can and threw it on her lawn, but I didn't. So far I am leaning towards just letting it go this time, but if she wants to be a rude crummy neighbor, I'll have to change my tune. What say you?

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Kachina624 — Mon, 02 Aug 2021 18:42:02 GMT

What are the chances of you catching her again? If you want it to stop, you'll have to confront her.... too bad you didn't do it this morning. I would have been tempted to put her bag of trash by her front door.

The nerve of people never ceases to amaze.

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FrostyBabe1 — Mon, 02 Aug 2021 18:41:29 GMT

Does she not have her own trash receptacle? If so, she should be notificed by the HOA that she needs to get one. Seems fairly simple to me.

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GenXmuse — Mon, 02 Aug 2021 18:44:55 GMT

I would let it go this time and if she does it again say something in case this was just an one off.

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On It — Mon, 02 Aug 2021 18:48:23 GMT

@jellyBEAN @FrostyBabe1 I like the idea of the HOA investigating whether she has her own trash receptacle. Is there a limit on how much trash will be collected? Or is she not moving hers to the front on collection day? The HOA has clout and can force her to comply with the rules.

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SilleeMee — Mon, 02 Aug 2021 18:48:42 GMT

Time to get a Ring.

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SoCal Bred — Mon, 02 Aug 2021 18:52:01 GMT

Just a suggestion.....maybe slip a note in her mailbox letting her know that you saw her put her trash in your receptable and did not appreciate it. If she continues with her routine I would inform the HOA. Good luck!

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Katcat1 — Mon, 02 Aug 2021 18:52:11 GMT

@jellyBEAN HOA should handle this. How dare she toss her garbage in your can? She doesn't want to pay for garbage pickup? She has a lot of nerve and I would not be intimidated by her -- that's what she wants. Call HOA.

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jellyBEAN — Mon, 02 Aug 2021 18:52:12 GMT

@Kachina624 wrote:
What are the chances of you catching her again? If you want it to stop, you'll have to confront her.... too bad you didn't do it this morning. I would have been tempted to put her bag of trash by her front door.

The nerve of people never ceases to amaze.

I know, I feel the same.

And everyone who lives in this community has their own trash receptacle. Her receptacle was sitting right at the curb in front of her home and it didn't appear to be over-filled, nor did her neighbors on either side of her.

Yes, I'm sorry I just didn't walk outside and confront her. It's not my nature to confront a person who is basically a stranger to me. I'll have to get bold in my old age!!

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Goodie2shoes — Mon, 02 Aug 2021 18:52:14 GMT

I would notify the HOA if she does it again which I would expect that will happen and she has most likely done that several times before, you just happened to see her this time.

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RedTop — Mon, 02 Aug 2021 18:53:44 GMT

My guess is she's already been caught putting her trash in her closest neighbors receptacles.

I would definitely let her know you saw her this morning, and that you don't want it to happen again, or you will report her to the HOA.

At least your trashy neighbor puts her trash in bags for pickup; my trashy neighbors just throw their bags in the yard, and draw rats.

After 2 years of us confirming to the county assessor that people do in fact live there, he must've said something, as a minimal, but noticeable, "cleanup effort", was attempted.

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NicksmomESQ — Mon, 02 Aug 2021 18:56:25 GMT

I think you should advise the HOA. This woman had no business entering your property let alone throwing her trash in your receptacle.She's probably done it before. I wouldn't give her a pass. JMO.

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Porcelain — Mon, 02 Aug 2021 18:56:38 GMT

I'd start a little "to-catch-a-trash-piggybacker" log and record the date and time I saw her do it. Put this down as the first item. Once you've got 3 or 4 recorded on there, then take it to the HOA. For it to be taken more seriously, it helps if you can show a pattern.

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Grand Happy — Mon, 02 Aug 2021 18:57:05 GMT

Invest in a ring camera that way when she does it again you can show her proof.
We have one above our garage. We knew our neighbors dog was using our beautiful well maintained front yard to go #2 but couldn't prove it, they denied it when we asked them kindly not to let their dog in our yard, their dog is outside in their front yard all day long. So after we installed the camera and have proof it was their dog I called animal control, they tried to deny it to the animal control officer but once they realize we have a camera showing it was their dog it took care of the problem. My husband doesn't have to clean up their dog mess or step in it anymore. BTW their yard isn't as well maintained as ours!

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Roscoe the Rascal — Mon, 02 Aug 2021 18:57:59 GMT

I would have confronted while she was doing it. Caught.

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nana59 — Mon, 02 Aug 2021 19:03:06 GMT

@jellyBEAN wrote:
@Kachina624 wrote:
What are the chances of you catching her again? If you want it to stop, you'll have to confront her.... too bad you didn't do it this morning. I would have been tempted to put her bag of trash by her front door.

The nerve of people never ceases to amaze.
I know, I feel the same.

And everyone who lives in this community has their own trash receptacle. Her receptacle was sitting right at the curb in front of her home and it didn't appear to be over-filled, nor did her neighbors on either side of her.

Yes, I'm sorry I just didn't walk outside and confront her. It's not my nature to confront a person who is basically a stranger to me. I'll have to get bold in my old age!!

Yup....time to get BOLD....this probably wasn't her first time.....and won't be her last....until you confront her.....just tell her you saw what she did....and not to do it again.....maybe you could ask her if she has her own receptacle.....and then as you walk away....you could tell her if she does it again....you're going to report her....li had a dear friend who used to say, "everyone is an a**hole!!" just read that she does have her own receptacle....what the heck is she thinking......

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nana59 — Mon, 02 Aug 2021 19:00:10 GMT

@GenXmuse wrote:
I would let it go this time and if she does it again say something in case this was just an one off.

all my life i've let things go....i'm 71....i don't let things go anymore......

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GenXmuse — Mon, 02 Aug 2021 19:03:11 GMT

@nana59 wrote:
@GenXmuse wrote:
I would let it go this time and if she does it again say something in case this was just an one off.
all my life i've let things go....i'm 71....i don't let things go anymore......

I've noticed.

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viva923 — Mon, 02 Aug 2021 19:05:36 GMT

hello,

i had something similar happen to me some years ago .

I spoke with the man neighbor about this, he was ignorant guy,the world owed him attitude.

anyway when it happened again, I called the higher up people to stop this garbage dumping in my cans, it stopped but he was also arrested for terrorist threatening to the neighbor hood, he went off the deep end.he moved shortly after this episode.

hope you can stop these episodes.

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ThinkingOutLoud — Mon, 02 Aug 2021 19:06:08 GMT

Maybe I'm missing something but this seems petty especially since you said you would have been fine with it had it been handled differently. My suggestion is to be the bigger person and let it go. It's trash. It will be picked up soon enough.

Also, instead of 'treating her the same', what's the harm in waving to her, etc just because she may not wave to you? The world needs more neighborliness, not less.