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Worst Advice

QVCkitty1 — Mon, 12 Jul 2021 20:56:19 GMT

I can't take credit for this, because I saw it on Facebook today. The answers were interesting and I thought it might be thought provoking. I've given my answer a lot of thought and I think " be the bigger person, " was nonsense. How about you, it can be personal, medical, or really anything.

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Anonymous032819 — Mon, 12 Jul 2021 20:59:46 GMT

Everything happens for a reason

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ECBG — Mon, 12 Jul 2021 21:01:23 GMT

@QVCkitty1

Be the bigger person as long as you don't end up being a doormat!

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QVCkitty1 — Mon, 12 Jul 2021 21:02:37 GMT

@Anonymous032819 wrote:
Everything happens for a reason

@Anonymous032819 , That was one of the answers, and also nonsense in my opinion. People often say it in the most inappropriate times.

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ECBG — Mon, 12 Jul 2021 21:02:41 GMT

@Anonymous032819 wrote:
Everything happens for a reason

@Anonymous032819

Oh, don't you know it does! The only thing is, the reason is sometimes garbage!

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LillyandHobo — Mon, 12 Jul 2021 21:11:28 GMT

Some day this will all make sense to you and you'll be glad I did it!

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QVCkitty1 — Mon, 12 Jul 2021 21:12:29 GMT

@ECBG wrote:
@QVCkitty1
Be the bigger person as long as you don't end up being a doormat!

@ECBG It has been my experience that with most people it is a waste of my time.

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Quackeroo — Mon, 12 Jul 2021 21:13:41 GMT

"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me"

WHATTT?!?

~Quack

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Love my grandkids — Mon, 12 Jul 2021 21:14:32 GMT

I've heard this all my life and it's utter horse puckey: "You should love her just because she's your mother."

Obviously these people didn't have the horrible, awful "mother" we had. I want to gag whenever I hear that. I once told someone "That's easy for you to say."

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decaf — Mon, 12 Jul 2021 21:21:03 GMT

"God never puts more on your plate than you can handle" That one's a big grrrrrrrrrrrr for me.

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Foxxee — Mon, 12 Jul 2021 21:24:18 GMT

Telling people they are wrong for having a certain opinion. Moral Superiority.

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mspatmac — Mon, 12 Jul 2021 21:26:20 GMT

The ever popular "IT COULD BE WORSE" or "IT CAN ONLY GET BETTER!

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JamandBread — Mon, 12 Jul 2021 21:28:40 GMT

"You can't fight city hall"

Yes. Yes you can.

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tansy — Mon, 12 Jul 2021 21:31:27 GMT

When a door closes, a window opens.

LOL. Gag me😜

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ECBG — Mon, 12 Jul 2021 21:32:55 GMT

@QVCkitty1 wrote:
@ECBG wrote:
@QVCkitty1
Be the bigger person as long as you don't end up being a doormat!
@ECBG It has been my experience that with most people it is a waste of my time.

@QVCkitty1

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CrazyKittyLvr2 — Mon, 12 Jul 2021 21:41:31 GMT

@decaf wrote:
"God never puts more on your plate than you can handle" That one's a big grrrrrrrrrrrr for me.

I was going to respond with that phrase too.

Someone said one day and I said, "if that were true suicide wouldn't exist."

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occasionalrain — Mon, 12 Jul 2021 21:59:47 GMT

Oh. What did you do to deserve that?

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chickenbutt — Mon, 12 Jul 2021 22:21:45 GMT

The one that annoys me every time is when somebody, who has no idea how the 'thing' is going to come out, tells me "It's going to be ok". You don't know that. Stop it. If there was any evidence that the person knew that, fine. But that's never the case. It's just something to say. I'd rather they said nothing.

I could go on about another category of bad advice but I'll keep that to myself.

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deedledeedeedle — Mon, 12 Jul 2021 23:09:21 GMT

True Confession:

I've fallen in to the trap of using some of these ridiculous adages that have been shared in this post when I'm in an awkward or uncomfortable position.

Now, I just let them know I do care and am willing to talk if they wish. I just hug the person or pat them on the back, or shake their hand. That's all. No need to put my spin on the situation for what they themselves are experiencing.

Most of the time they are grateful for your appearance, not for what you've said.

dee

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suzyQ3 — Mon, 12 Jul 2021 23:20:21 GMT

When someone is going through a horrible time, it really is hard to come up with the exact words that would be of any help. So I gladly accept any effort, barring something that is outright insensitive.