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How Sad !! what are people thinking ???

Goodie2shoes — Sat, 27 Mar 2021 03:44:46 GMT

I am watching the local news, there is a amber alert for a 3 mo baby missing. The mom pulled into the driveway of a friend's home left the baby in the van, keys in the ignition and someone stole the van with the baby in it. She was being interviewed by the news media and crying for the return of the baby saying they could keep the van. I feel so bad for her and praying the baby is found safe and returned to her mom.

But I can't help wondering why people in this day and age would be so careless and leave a baby or child in a car and leave the keys in the ignition to go in anywhere !! I don't care if it's for a split second. Idiots are everywhere !! I pray for that baby's safe return to her mom. You never hear about someone stealing a car with a vicious dog left in it !

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Sushismom — Sat, 27 Mar 2021 03:47:15 GMT

I rather wonder if a woman who would leave her baby AND car keys in the van is a worthwhile mother.

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Linmo — Sat, 27 Mar 2021 03:49:14 GMT

@Goodie2shoes It also happened not too long ago here in the SF Bay Area. Once the car thief learns figures out that a baby is on board, they will probably ditch the car or drop the baby off at a safe location.

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Mominohio — Sat, 27 Mar 2021 03:53:47 GMT

I was always so careful with this kind of thing when I had a young child. I wouldn't even lock the car at the gas station and go in to pay. I'd get gas when he wasn't with me, or use a credit card at the pump.

I think people do things like this, nothing goes wrong.......until it does.

How terrifying, when you know you have messed up and caused something bad to happen to your child. I don't wish that on anyone. We all make mistakes and cut corners. It only takes one time for things to go terribly wrong.

Hope it is resolved positively.

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maximillian — Sat, 27 Mar 2021 03:55:31 GMT

Stupidity.

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Nonametoday — Sat, 27 Mar 2021 04:42:13 GMT

Many, many years ago people did not have to worry about such. When I was a youngster, we traveled a lot. There were 4 of us. Mom had to drive all hours day and night, often, to reach her destination. There were no motel 6 areas and motels were scarce and lodging on the road almost non-existent.

We had left Arkansas on our way to Tacoma, Washington. My siblings and I were left in the car while Mom got gas at a small station (I think if memory serves) in Colorado. The siblings went to the bathroom and I wanted some candy (those days service stations had little candy stands). I was about 3-4. Mom was back in the car after paying and my siblings all went to sleep. When she arrived in Idaho, she realized she needed more gas and wanted to check to see if anyone needed to potty. The kids all piled out and she asked "Where is Baby?" "I think she is in that service station..." said the oldest one of the siblings. Mom had not realized she had left me in the station and driven off. She was panic-stricken. She remembered the name of the town and called the police department.

It was said I was sitting on the counter with the very nice little man, the owner. I don't remember all the details but I do remember her leaving me and I was not that upset. I guess I knew she would return. She did and it was a very happy moment. My mother cried and cried and I did not understand why she cried.

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beach-mom — Sat, 27 Mar 2021 04:50:10 GMT

@Nonametoday - You must have been frightened at the time, but thank goodness you were too young to be still dealing with it today! Your mom must have been frantic too.

My friends used to laugh because I wouldn't even park in front of our small post office, run in quickly, and leave my sleeping child in the car seat. I would never leave them in the car, even if it was locked, even if they were sound asleep. They always came with me, no matter what!

I will pray this baby is found soon, and I hope this mother will be more careful in the future!

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January121 — Sat, 27 Mar 2021 07:51:14 GMT

@Sushismom wrote:
I rather wonder if a woman who would leave her baby AND car keys in the van is a worthwhile mother.

@Sushismom ... my thoughts exactly 😪

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50Mickey — Sat, 27 Mar 2021 11:28:15 GMT

This sounds like what happened in the Atlanta area last week. The mom is a single mother who is trying support herself and her child by working for doordash. She said she delivers meals at night so that her child can go with her and sleep in her car seat. It was a residential neighborhood and she felt safe leaving the car running while she went to the door. She had her keys in her pocket. Turns out it was a set up. Fake meal order called in so that the car of the delivery driver could be stolen. Fourteen year old teen was arrested. Great news is that the baby was found hours later safe and sound on a neighborhood porch. The mom knows that she make a mistake and has since quit doordash.

This may be a different story but it sounds very similar.

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Marp — Sat, 27 Mar 2021 12:21:46 GMT

@Goodie2shoesasked: But I can't help wondering why people in this day and age would be so careless and leave a baby or child in a car and leave the keys in the ignition to go in anywhere !!

How many people think they live in a dangerous area or think this could happen to me?

To some degree when we are in familiar surroundings, going about normal day to day activities, we let our guard down and a false sense of security takes over.

Believe it or not there are still communities where people don't lock their doors, leave their vehicles unlocked often with the keys in the ignition and even pick up hitchhikers. Why? Because they live in "safe" places--things like that don't happen here.

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Spurt — Sat, 27 Mar 2021 12:36:41 GMT

no common sense.

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skatting44 — Sat, 27 Mar 2021 13:15:26 GMT

I remember as a child in the very early 1960's being left in the car if my Mother needed to make a quick stop in the grocery store or post office or gas station. When my daughter was young, I never left her in the car as by the 1980's there were reports of little children being abducted. At times it was very inconvenient to have to unbuckle her from the car seat especially when she was asleep , but I always thought I would never be able to forgive myself it anything ever happened to her. I nver left her alone in a store to look at toys either since there were stories of children being abducted in stores while their parents were not around. I so hope her child is returned safely .

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CrazyDaisy — Sat, 27 Mar 2021 13:21:46 GMT

I am always amazed at how many perfect people post on these boards. Us common people make mistakes. Most of the time it turns out fine and we are grateful and learn from that lesson. Unfortunately sometimes the consequences are not so positive.

Hope the child is found safe and lesson are learned.

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Cakers3 — Sat, 27 Mar 2021 13:32:34 GMT

@CrazyDaisy wrote:
I am always amazed at how many perfect people post on these boards. Us common people make mistakes. Most of the time it turns out fine and we are grateful and learn from that lesson. Unfortunately sometimes the consequences are not so positive.

Hope the child is found safe and lesson are learned.

@CrazyDaisyI was just about to post the same thing.

All y'all posting about your terrific parenting skills has nothing to do with this situation. It happens everytime-everyone is so much better than the poor woman who is frantic to find her child.

Name-calling this mother is equivalent to saying she gets what she deserves.

I'm sure she is distraught beyond words and of course everyone wants the baby to be returned safely.

This situation doesn't mean she doesn't deserve to be a mother.

"I never" can easily turn into a situation where "I made a mistake"-not just about a child but about any life situation.

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Kalli — Sat, 27 Mar 2021 14:37:50 GMT

When I was a young mom John Walsh's son, Adam, was kidnapped and killed. It was all over the news for months. The parents were interviewed on numerous shows, it was such a tragedy. That single incident made me paranoid.

I know parents leave their children in cars to run a quick errand but I never felt safe doing that. I was overprotective when my sons were little because of what happened to Adam Walsh.

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stevieb — Sat, 27 Mar 2021 14:49:03 GMT

@CrazyDaisy wrote:
I am always amazed at how many perfect people post on these boards. Us common people make mistakes. Most of the time it turns out fine and we are grateful and learn from that lesson. Unfortunately sometimes the consequences are not so positive.

Hope the child is found safe and lesson are learned.

@CrazyDaisy I get what you're saying and to some extent I agree, but I might also consider that there are mistakes and then there are mistakes... Leaving a car with keys in it and an unattended baby inside is a pretty egregious lapse in judgment, but yes, we all do remarkably stupid things at times, some way more stupid than others...

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Sage04 — Sat, 27 Mar 2021 15:38:03 GMT

@50Mickey wrote:
This sounds like what happened in the Atlanta area last week. The mom is a single mother who is trying support herself and her child by working for doordash. She said she delivers meals at night so that her child can go with her and sleep in her car seat. It was a residential neighborhood and she felt safe leaving the car running while she went to the door. She had her keys in her pocket. Turns out it was a set up. Fake meal order called in so that the car of the delivery driver could be stolen. Fourteen year old teen was arrested. Great news is that the baby was found hours later safe and sound on a neighborhood porch. The mom knows that she make a mistake and has since quit doordash.
This may be a different story but it sounds very similar.

@50Mickey This happened a few miles from where I live and everyone was so relieved when she was found. The baby's name is Royalty and she's one year old. Close to $28,000 was raised to help fix the van and replace a few things that were in the van.

Hope this turns out the same.

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suzyQ3 — Sat, 27 Mar 2021 16:11:12 GMT

I hope that they find the baby and that she/he is fine.

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SeaMaiden — Sat, 27 Mar 2021 16:12:56 GMT

we had a similar situation here in Seattle recently... a man who was a delivery person had his 5 year old with him doing the deliveries... he left the van running with the kid in it as he ran into the store to make the delivery... someone hopped into the van and drove off... taking the van AND the kid....

Who would leave a 5 year old in a RUNNING VAN... or leave them in a car alone ANYWAY?? A stupid Man..... What was he thinking? They did find the van a few miles down the road and the child inside unhurt. I do not know if that father got in trouble for BEING STUPID AND A BAD PARENT.... it is illegal to leave a child unattended in a car. ... hopefully at least the Mother of the child gave him a mouthful!

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Wsmom — Sat, 27 Mar 2021 16:29:34 GMT

This is very sad indeed. As stated as soon as the thief realizes there is a baby in the car they leave it. They don't want to kidnap, just steal the car. No judment here. Was she going to the door to drop something off or was she going in to visit for awhile. Definitely foolish not to have taken the keys but I will give her that she just had a baby three months ago and who knows how things are going, baby brain, so decision making is just not back yet. One of my kids never slept and cried 24/7. Lack of sleep was a real thing. I went to the store one morning (not with her) and not only left the keys in the car, but left it running. Halfway to the store I thought something's off...went back to the car and just looked at it and then thought ah! Keys in ignition and it's running!