topic Re: I Really Want to Know! in Community Chat

I Really Want to Know!

on the bay — Mon, 15 Feb 2021 10:52:29 GMT

I admit to being pretty naive and or gullable for a lot of my life. Not so much as of late.

I find I am very skeptical about many of these posters and want to know what you all think.

The ones who "haven't been here for so long but where is ...???"

Ask many questions about various products and opinions and never comment, thanks or returns.

are they getting paid to do some kind of survey?

Have one post and it is to slam QVC

over something or other.

The ones who have one or few posts and say-please bring back item number bla bla bla like from Lisa Rinna, maybe just to see if people are interested or to promote interest.

The one and only post is to slam a QVC host. Yeah right. Someone makes an account to slam a host.

This is ridiculous.

I just wish people who are not real or not what they are would get off. But I know that is the entire internet social media world.

And yeah we could all say, who is to know who is real or not?! I think you know, don't you?!

At any rate, the upside of all this for any of us who are naive is, I am learning, I am real, I am no longer that gullible and I am glad about that. Not overly judging, giving someone the benefit of the doubt at first but not being clueless either, more wisdom. That's a good feeling.

I know many here are much more savy and have been from the start; maybe some overly skeptical or cynical, and everything in between.

Anyway , we carry on in all our multiple personalities i guess.

That is why animals are so precious,

and those who we share pictures of them. They can only and ever be themselves. Isn't that a wonderful thing?!

Re: I Really Want to Know!

on the bay — Mon, 15 Feb 2021 12:42:42 GMT

I guess there are just so many intricacies to human beings.

I actually admire those who are sometimes derided for their harsh opinions but say what they think, calling out bs.

I had a best friend who always told you what she thought of you and called anyone out who hurt her. Yet then she also ended up ditching anyone for the most popular. Weird, and hurtful in the long run.

I still believe that kindness and compassion are the best of us all.

How are some so mean to some and so warm and compassionate to others I don't know.

In the end, humans are fascinating and I've learned so much about human behavior from reading and posting on here through the years.

And still somehow know that there are so many with good hearts and there are those lights of human kindness, genuine people who care

deeply about others. That is something to give hope and to give thanks for, and to rejoice in.

To keep finding those points of life in this weird scary world.

Re: I Really Want to Know!

qbetzforreal — Mon, 15 Feb 2021 12:19:48 GMT

Some are genuine posters who happen to wander in and find the forums.

Some are trolls.

Some are longtime posters with multiple nics.

Re: I Really Want to Know!

on the bay — Mon, 15 Feb 2021 12:36:05 GMT

@qbetzforreal -

That's a good succinct explanation

Re: I Really Want to Know!

on the bay — Mon, 15 Feb 2021 12:37:13 GMT

@mspatmac ,

I love your dog!

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Shanus — Mon, 15 Feb 2021 13:21:18 GMT

Is there not a way the mods or the forums are regulated to prohibit people from having multiple accounts/nics?

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on the bay — Mon, 15 Feb 2021 13:26:27 GMT

@Shanus wrote:
Is there not a way the mods or the forums are regulated to prohibit people from having multiple accounts/nics?

@Shanus ,

I always wondered that too.

Maybe it isn't important enough or too time consuming to QVC.

I don't know but I wish they could.

I can't imagine spending the time to have multiple nicks unless to conceal or create controversy or conflict or just a game to people? Creating different personalities for themselves and others? I don't know.

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goldensrbest — Mon, 15 Feb 2021 13:31:15 GMT

@on the bay , I don't see a post from @mspat.

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Shanus — Mon, 15 Feb 2021 13:35:04 GMT

@on the bay wrote:
@Shanus wrote:
Is there not a way the mods or the forums are regulated to prohibit people from having multiple accounts/nics?
@Shanus ,
I always wondered that too.
Maybe it isn't important enough or too time consuming to QVC.
I don't know but I wish they could.
I can't imagine spending the time to have multiple nicks unless to conceal or create controversy or conflict or just a game to people? Creating different personalities for themselves and others? I don't know.

@on the bay It's strange to me that the purchasing portion of Q is not co-ordinated with the forums. I know you can't have have multple QVC accts. because they're monitored or registered by email accounts. I thought signing up here was the same. When my email adress changed a few weeks ago whe we changed cable companies and internet, it was a hassle changing my account HERE.

Re: I Really Want to Know!

amyb — Mon, 15 Feb 2021 13:43:45 GMT

In additon to the things everyone's mentioned, trolls, etc..

I've always just assumed it's part of someone's job at the Q...whether it's buyers, reps, mods, or a combination...to ask marketing type questions to figure out certain buying or selling strategies. Maybe not, but certain posts when I see them seem like that's what it could be.

Re: I Really Want to Know!

CalminHeart — Mon, 15 Feb 2021 14:08:37 GMT

I find the vast majority of posters are good, genuine, people who enjoy other people's questions, answers, opinions.

A lot of people don't say thank you. It's not a big deal. Expecting a thank you is, IMO, like donating a clothes to a shelter and demanding the recipients model them for you. That wasn't the purpose of your donation just like thank you isn't the purpose of you responding to a post.

There are always a few who bash, will report you if they don't like your opinion, and those who don't think about others. It's the same thing that happens in real life...and what was done in the original post. We all do it sometimes.

People who post have to put on their big girl/big boy panties. Sometimes you get what you want and sometimes you don't. You have to be able to ignore the comments and things you don't like.

Relax and enjoy what's good and ignore the rest.

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dooBdoo — Mon, 15 Feb 2021 19:41:41 GMT

@on the bay wrote:
@Shanus wrote:
Is there not a way the mods or the forums are regulated to prohibit people from having multiple accounts/nics?
@Shanus ,
I always wondered that too.
Maybe it isn't important enough or too time consuming to QVC.
I don't know but I wish they could.
I can't imagine spending the time to have multiple nicks unless to conceal or create controversy or conflict or just a game to people? Creating different personalities for themselves and others? I don't know.

@Shanus and @on the bay, Yes, it's possible to at least severely limit the use of multiple or bogus accounts on forums, in general, but from my perspective it's not a priority on QVC's site. From what I've seen the very limited and (in my opinion) unsophisticated and archaic "canned" software used by QVC doesn't focus on it, and the many other complicated and challenging demands on the moderators' time take precedence over such a time-consuming manual task.

I used to help moderate an international forum associated with our medical and IT arena, and we had training and software to spot the "tells."

Why people do it, or why people "troll" forums, etc., is a big discussion. I was interested because of the forums we were managing, and my late husband (a psychiatrist) also was interested in the psychology and the personalities behind it all. There's plenty of insightful information, articles, online about it, compiled over the years.

Interesting thread, @on the bay.😊

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LindaSal — Mon, 15 Feb 2021 14:10:03 GMT

It's interesting isn't it? I have wondered many times if people just make up stories like "you'll never guess what happened to me today....." I think we have all probably experienced those people who get snarky if they don't like what you had to say or report you for no reason at all. And yes, there's the undercover people posting on here for sure. But as said, most people are genuine and I learn a lot so I try to skip over the nonsense and the posters that are just dying for attention. Sad.

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Shanus — Mon, 15 Feb 2021 14:18:42 GMT

@dooBdoo I don't pretend to know the true psychology of trolls, but because I've had the same one following me from thread to thread for over 10 years I can only assume it's jealousy that I received reponses or her need for attention. She's very nasty and is snarky. I report those remarks that are baiting and try not to "get into it" with her.

Trolls like the attention even if it's, negative like a child, and get no response, but enjoy that their words are out there. Other than that, I see no reason to pay attention to them...a useless waste of space and it breaks up the conversation.

I know that duplicates must exist here and agree about the outdated software.

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on the bay — Mon, 15 Feb 2021 14:21:06 GMT

@goldensrbest -

I know It was a heart and then I noticed her sweet dog

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Johnnyeager — Mon, 15 Feb 2021 14:23:01 GMT

QVC employees post here "undercover", not as moderators. The most prolific one has essentially admitted to this fact.

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Shanus — Mon, 15 Feb 2021 14:32:55 GMT

Let's not forget that some people are lonely, reaching out and maybe need contact. If their thread is suspect, not harmful, I will reply.

This last year has isolated many people. I keep that in the back of my mind.

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mamaslittlepotato — Mon, 15 Feb 2021 15:01:40 GMT

I come here as a diversion, I don’t try to figure out who’s real and who’s fake. I treat everyone as though they're real. If sometimes I get an impression that someone’s fake or lying, then I just stay away from them, but I honestly don’t care much, as long as they’re not hurting me. Also, if I read someone’s posts and see that they’re pretty nasty most of the time, I tend to stay away from them...... A number of years ago I was accused of being two people, and it absolutely was not true. Many people believe what they want to believe, though, and there’s no convincing them. I think the best thing to do is if a person isn’t happy here or is overly suspicious of other posters, they should just leave for a while and take a break.

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GrailSeeker — Mon, 15 Feb 2021 15:15:54 GMT

Something I have been more concerned about in the last few years - not here, but other message boards, is the concern over "chat bots" that are artificial intelligence and merely re-word and mirror whatever one says. It's hard to know exactly what artificial intelligence is capable of.

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mamaslittlepotato — Mon, 15 Feb 2021 15:28:10 GMT

What does bother me though is when I read nasty posts from one poster to another, for no good reason at all. It’s as though they just came on the thread to try to make people miserable.