topic Re: Food for Thought in Community Chat

Food for Thought

tarsmom — Wed, 20 Jan 2021 16:07:30 GMT

20 years ago, my former boss said these two things that I still remember to this day -

1. When you discredit others, you discredit yourself.

2. NO ONE is 'all good or all bad'.

I keep reminding myself of these - especially in this past year.

Re: Food for Thought

kitty60 — Wed, 20 Jan 2021 16:13:25 GMT

I have always adhered to "you never make yourself look good by making someone else look bad." I have tried to instill this in my son.

Re: Food for Thought

deepwaterdotter — Wed, 20 Jan 2021 16:37:04 GMT

I have always believed no. 1 is true.

Civility, spread it around.

Re: Food for Thought

Foxxee — Wed, 20 Jan 2021 18:37:32 GMT

That depends. Statements like this are often used for guilt shaming.

For some, bad is subjective. What is thought to be bad for some is thought to be good, appropriate and justified behavior by others.

When personal opinions and moral values are similar, everyone agrees. Serious conflict arises when they don't.

Everyone does have at least one redeeming quality, but bad behavior may be so overwhelming it generally cancels redeeming qualities.

Discrediting people like this may be necessary to prevent them from harming others. Discrediting in this case is a good decision.

However, personal vendettas, revenge, jealousy, agendas, and critical of others opinions, says everything about those exhibiting this behavior, nothing about their targets.

Re: Food for Thought

hckynut — Wed, 20 Jan 2021 17:24:58 GMT

@tarsmom wrote:
20 years ago, my former boss said these two things that I still remember to this day -

1. When you discredit others, you discredit yourself.
2. NO ONE is 'all good or all bad'.

I keep reminding myself of these - especially in this past year.

@tarsmom

I disagree with both of them, don't see #1 as a mirror. Kinda like embarrassment, nobody can embarrass me, but myself.

As for #2! I believe some people are just plain evil. Call it bad or by any other name, I don't buy into that theory.

Now me working for that boss? Might have been interesting.

hckynut

Re: Food for Thought

Johnnyeager — Wed, 20 Jan 2021 17:23:56 GMT

Seems like a politically tinged and motivated thread not well disguised.

Re: Food for Thought

proudlyfromNJ — Wed, 20 Jan 2021 17:28:35 GMT

@Johnnyeager wrote:
Seems like a politically tinged and motivated thread not well disguised.

@Johnnyeager There are quite a few here. Some of the long running threads that some posters are on have some not disguised either. They think they're getting away with something and don't have to follow the quidelines here.

Re: Food for Thought

mamaslittlepotato — Wed, 20 Jan 2021 17:29:35 GMT

I think #1 is not necessarily true. It depends on the circumstances.
I don’t agree with #2. I believe there are some people who are completely evil.

Re: Food for Thought

mamaslittlepotato — Wed, 20 Jan 2021 17:30:47 GMT

Btw, my post had nothing to do with pol*tics.

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Anonymous — Wed, 20 Jan 2021 17:34:08 GMT

This post has been removed by QVC because it is baiting

Re: Food for Thought

Scooby Doo — Wed, 20 Jan 2021 17:39:37 GMT

Sounds naive to me.

Re: Food for Thought

candyagain — Wed, 20 Jan 2021 17:55:11 GMT

When working at an urban library I received two rules from my boss:

1. Trust no one (in regard to library card/ lost books)

2. Don't lend out the scissors.

Rules to live by........

Re: Food for Thought

ValuSkr — Wed, 20 Jan 2021 18:00:10 GMT

Those sayings are overly simplistic. But, if you need rules to live by, they aren't bad.

Re: Food for Thought

CelticCrafter — Wed, 20 Jan 2021 18:00:12 GMT

@candyagain wrote:
When working at an urban library I received two rules from my boss:

1. Trust no one (in regard to library card/ lost books)

2. Don't lend out the scissors.

Rules to live by........

@candyagain I sew and quilt, I hide the scissors!🤣🤣

Re: Food for Thought

candyagain — Wed, 20 Jan 2021 18:02:34 GMT

@CelticCrafter wrote:
@candyagain wrote:
When working at an urban library I received two rules from my boss:

1. Trust no one (in regard to library card/ lost books)

2. Don't lend out the scissors.

Rules to live by........
@candyagain I sew and quilt, I hide the scissors!🤣🤣

Yes, many reasons to hide the scissors!

Re: Food for Thought

hckynut — Wed, 20 Jan 2021 18:20:33 GMT

@Johnnyeager wrote:
Seems like a politically tinged and motivated thread not well disguised.

@Johnnyeager

Never entered my mind until I read this. Entered and exited almost simultaneously.

hckynut

Re: Food for Thought

tarsmom — Wed, 20 Jan 2021 18:25:23 GMT

@hckynut wrote:
@tarsmom wrote:
20 years ago, my former boss said these two things that I still remember to this day -

1. When you discredit others, you discredit yourself.
2. NO ONE is 'all good or all bad'.

I keep reminding myself of these - especially in this past year.

@tarsmom

I disagree with both of them, don't see #1 as a mirror. Kinda like embarrassment, nobody can embarrass me, but myself.

As for #2! I believe some people are just plain evil. Call it bad or by any other name, I don't buy into that theory.

Now me working for that boss? Might have been interesting.

hckynut

@hckynut

It's ok that we don't agree - because you're always fair and honest.

I prefer to think about these two because it helps me cope. Even a really crappy boss I had made an awesome casserole for us. Another bad one was too passive (which was incredibly frustrating) but he was kind and genuine. I worked in an environment (unlike my husband's) where we were expected to be positive all the time. No blaming, take responsibility for your actions, be passionate, exceed expectations all around, etc. I guess I lived and worked in a bubble. The people I knew that I very much disliked, I still could find one or two things that were good about them.

The discredit thing - I think about ducks that quack quack quack and gather quacking....it reminds me of people that have nothing to say except complain or spread their unpleasantness. Versus - eagles that soar........

I have managed over 150 employees in my career and I honestly can't say that one of them was 'all bad'.

Re: Food for Thought

hckynut — Wed, 20 Jan 2021 18:30:42 GMT

@candyagain wrote:
When working at an urban library I received two rules from my boss:

1. Trust no one (in regard to library card/ lost books)

2. Don't lend out the scissors.

Rules to live by........

@candyagain

Sounds like smart policy to me. Never got stung on scissors or library card, but! I know I still have a couple books and VHS tapes floating around out there somewhere.

I don't blame anyone but myself. Should'a kept better records instead of depending on my memory. Oh well, who the he!! even has a VHS player nowadays? Not me!

hckynut