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Don't take it for granted, be grateful instead.

qualitygal — Sun, 22 Nov 2020 11:21:32 GMT

Think about it!

" I complained because I had no shoes, until I met a man, who had no feet."

(my world, as I experience today.)

How's your world going?

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Lilysmom1 — Sun, 22 Nov 2020 11:54:27 GMT

@qualitygal a trip to the hospital can give you a whole new perspective. I was complaining about a broken foot until I went to the hospital and saw injuries far more serious than mine. Puts it in perspective for sure! LM

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AngelPuppy1 — Sun, 22 Nov 2020 12:03:12 GMT

When I was complaining a while back because I could barely walk due to a chronic ankle and foot problem, DH said the same thing to me --- at least you have a foot! I try to remember there are always people worse off, way worse off! At times you feel so poorly, you do tend to forget this.

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Pook — Sun, 22 Nov 2020 12:20:45 GMT

I recently had a broken humerous, 2 bad hand brakes with complications which resulted in long term pt and ot. It was rough especially because I could not use my hand and still cannot make a fist but the appointment after me at ot was a young man in his early 20's learning to use a prosthetic arm who had his whole life ahead and he was always in such good spirits. What an attitude changer for me!

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tends2dogs — Sun, 22 Nov 2020 12:38:52 GMT

My husband has always been a good inspiration of this for me. One time he was in an accident (he raced stockcars as a hobby). There was a fire and he had a severe fuel burn on his hand. He had to go daily and have the dead skin abraided and it hurt like crazy. While he was waiting they wheeled a young girl in that was going in for the same thing only she had burns over 90% of her body. She was screaming and he said the experience of seeing that was horrifying. He was thankful he only had to have his hand done and he prayed for that dear girl.

Later in life he got cancer and took chemo treatments for 10 years. He nearly died 3 times because of the side effects of it. He finally was able to have a bone marrow transplant and the part of the hospital where the transplant doctors were shared the same waiting room with the children's cancer center. My husband has a weak spot for children who are suffering or in need. It was hard on him because he had to go there many many times.

I have seen him in a hospital bed, in pain and near death, and yet when the nurses would come in and ask him how he was doing, he would say ,"Great, how are you?"

He always said, "You can always find someone that is much worse off than yourself." That is very true.

Good thread.

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PamfromCT — Sun, 22 Nov 2020 12:39:00 GMT

I have spent a bit of time in nursing homes. First, with my dear mom as a patient. Second, as a volunteer in a skilled nursing unit in one for years. There is much suffering, both physical and psychological. It’s a touchstone for me. It made me realize one big regret, that my education should have been directed working with the elderly poor in such a facility.

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godi — Sun, 22 Nov 2020 12:46:49 GMT

Somedays the complaints are many and I ground myself by always saying someone else has had it a lot worse today. I also thank any worker in a store that I may encounter. They work so hard for us through this whole nightmare. ❤️🙏

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amyb — Sun, 22 Nov 2020 13:12:58 GMT

@AngelPuppy1 wrote:
When I was complaining a while back because I could barely walk due to a chronic ankle and foot problem, DH said the same thing to me --- at least you have a foot! I try to remember there are always people worse off, way worse off! At times you feel so poorly, you do tend to forget this.

Sooo so true...I try to remember this...when I do, I feel so blessed. So many poor souls dealing with chronic illnesses, fatal ones...pain, suffering...makes me sad.

And makes me want to shut my mouth from all the petty whining I might be doing!

My catch phrases when I start to complain over "little things": "first world problems!!" or "it's not cancer.". (God forbid)

🙏's to all for whatever you may be going through.

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findingnemo — Sun, 22 Nov 2020 14:02:48 GMT

I lost my mom when she was only 55. She had breast cancer. I am grateful for everyday, every doctor appointment and quiet moments she slept in my lap-I got to be with this amazing , wonderful person until she past. Fast forward twenty years, my dad has dementia which has progressed rapidly the last few years. I find ways to see him even now because I know the days are numbered when he will still remember me. Some days he looks at me and says"I know you" with the simplest grin on his face. Life is hard and sometimes we need to really dig to find our happy but man is it worth it even if it's a simple grin from a loved one. I check myself daily to keep the negative out and put out the things I want to receive, most days I am successful!

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willdob3 — Sun, 22 Nov 2020 14:06:43 GMT

@qualitygal

I hate that kind of saying. It makes people think that the way they feel doesn’t matter. How everyone feels matters. The fact that someone has no feet doesn’t make the situation for the person who has no shoes all better.

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LindaSal — Sun, 22 Nov 2020 14:19:46 GMT

@tends2dogs I totally get your hubby's attitude! I had the same one when I went through my cancer treatment, I would always smile and say thank you to my nurses.

But the most emotional part was during radiation treatment when I had to go everyday,

5 days a week for 7 weeks........There was a 9 year old boy going through treatment, I saw him everyday as it was the same patients at the same times so we would all see each other each day and wait in the same area. You got to know people. My heart broke for that little boy and during my last week of treatment he passed away. Very sad and I remember thinking how blessed am I?!

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IMW — Sun, 22 Nov 2020 17:23:57 GMT

Absolutely! I

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RedTop — Sun, 22 Nov 2020 17:32:26 GMT

The older I get, the more I understand, and accept, that life happens and I deal with it.

I don't take anyone, or anything for granted, and always find a blessing in every day. I save my complaining for situations that warrant it, and don't walk around looking for things to complain about.

I really feel I've learned to pick my battles, but mainly I've learned that not everything is a battle. I don't make my life harder than it has to be.

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SandySparkles — Sun, 22 Nov 2020 17:50:31 GMT

As bad as things are, they can always be WORSE! We should always count our blessings, instead of our hardships; even in our darkest hour.🙏😊

I don't recall where I read this, but it is perhaps one of the most powerful concepts I have come to know--Someone is in the hospital, begging for the life you are wasting.

It certainly puts one's life, into it's proper perspective!😀

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

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ROMARY — Sun, 22 Nov 2020 21:15:21 GMT

As I said somewhere else, I'm just glad that I even wake up each morning...........

Awakening each morning is a gift.

Good luck to all.

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hckynut — Mon, 23 Nov 2020 08:12:39 GMT

"How's your world going"?

@qualitygal

My wife is not in the hospital/our furry kids are mostly all well, and! This coming week I will be able to skate Wednesday and Friday.

I am happy and my world is better than fine. Thank you for asking.

hckynut

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hckynut — Mon, 23 Nov 2020 08:17:42 GMT

@Lilysmom1 wrote:
@qualitygal a trip to the hospital can give you a whole new perspective. I was complaining about a broken foot until I went to the hospital and saw injuries far more serious than mine. Puts it in perspective for sure! LM

@Lilysmom1

And some of the most serious health issues cannot be seen. Broken bones and bleeding cuts are visible, internal major issues are not.

I hope your foot heals well for you. Nice of you to see how things are for others.

hckynut

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hckynut — Mon, 23 Nov 2020 08:26:23 GMT

@willdob3 wrote:
@qualitygal

I hate that kind of saying. It makes people think that the way they feel doesn’t matter. How everyone feels matters. The fact that someone has no feet doesn’t make the situation for the person who has no shoes all better.

@willdob3

Guess you just don't get it!

hckynut

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tends2dogs — Mon, 23 Nov 2020 12:43:30 GMT

@willdob3 wrote:
@qualitygal

I hate that kind of saying. It makes people think that the way they feel doesn’t matter. How everyone feels matters. The fact that someone has no feet doesn’t make the situation for the person who has no shoes all better.

@willdob3 No, but the point of the saying is that hopefully it will give the shoeless person a different perspective about their own problems. There is always someone that has it worse than you. That is when you say a prayer of thanksgiving for you AND a prayer for help for the footless person.