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Life is Too Short...

wilma — Sat, 10 Oct 2020 18:31:35 GMT

Feeling more and more like this lately....

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amyb — Sat, 10 Oct 2020 18:33:05 GMT

Amen!

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Porcelain — Sat, 10 Oct 2020 18:38:08 GMT

What works for me is to behave in a way that completely confuses and repels anyone who wouldn't wish me well. It's kind of like a forcefield of wellbeing.

No matter what you do there will always be people who dislike you, so just make sure all of them are folks you want to repel.

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deepwaterdotter — Sat, 10 Oct 2020 18:52:13 GMT

My physical contact with other humans is very lmiited. I am able to avoid the 'happiness suckers' who might try to communicate with me via phone or internet. They are easily identified by their nics on this board or caller ID on the phone.

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withaK — Sat, 10 Oct 2020 20:18:19 GMT

Too True !!!!!! Its why I screen my calls....when I have a weekly chat with a family member I light a candle and center myself with positive light, holding rose quartz for Love helps me too....I came to the realization that I should pray for her bc she cannot see the many blessings she has in her life.......Actually it just occurrs to me that I need to do that for someone else in my life !!! Practice what you're preachimg WithaK !!!! lol

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pdlinda — Sat, 10 Oct 2020 19:30:13 GMT

1,000X YES !!!!!

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noodleann — Sat, 10 Oct 2020 19:42:28 GMT

@wilma wrote:
Feeling more and more like this lately....

I know what you mean, and I live alone.

When I saw the title of this thread, I finished in my head, " . . . to leave all that chocolate in the supermarket, unbought and unappreciated." And I'm not even a chocolate nut. I think my attempt to keep my blood sugars down is telling on me. Even getting a morning reading of 100 is not offsetting the lure of rich, dark chocolate. Especially with rasperry cream.

Back to the issue, I feel for you. I had a relative who could drain all the happiness in a room within two minutes of arriving. Made her feel good when others felt bad. Don't know how to deal with people like that apart from leaving, and if you can't leave and you can't sing "shaddup ya face" at them at top volume, you're in a tough spot.

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Carmie — Sun, 11 Oct 2020 00:54:18 GMT

I don't know anyone who sucks the happiness out of me.

Where are these crazies?

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Shanus — Sat, 10 Oct 2020 21:26:29 GMT

After about 8 months of restrictions, I've almost lost my ability for small talk, have less patience for B.S. in general. Without seeing people's expressions on their faces, I'm doubting if they're smirking or smiling. Social interactions have been quite limited.

Life's always been short...shorter now since the future can be uncertain. People who suck out my happiness? I got them out of my life many years ago. Why waste my time?

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Cakers3 — Sat, 10 Oct 2020 22:11:07 GMT

@Carmie wrote:
I don't know none who sucks the happiness out of me.

Where are these crazies?

@Carmie It's about perception and control.

Either we accept people for who they are as we would want to be accepted or we go through life not realizing that sometimes we are the ones who actually suck.

Detachment is a difficult but not impossible thing to do; but recognizing our unrealistic expectations is something many do not even see, let alone work through.

jmoymmv

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godi — Sat, 10 Oct 2020 22:17:35 GMT

💯🙌

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jeanlake — Sun, 11 Oct 2020 02:45:43 GMT

In 1996 I circled my wagons and let go of toxic people from a certain segment of my life. Painful, yet healthy. Glad I did it. In 2020, I made similar changes. Unfriended about 65 FB 'friends.' I know a lot of these friends were randoms from childhood, high school, neighbors, church friends, former work friends or cousins I never see. If I notice mysoginist or racist remarks, hateful remarks from religious folks, confederate flags or people going down the rabbit hole with conspiracy theories, I unfriend. Cathartic. Friends we used to travel with since our boys were in elementary school together won't be on my travel list. Retired police detective came out as a hateful racist in his remarks. Thirty years of friendship and I never noticed. Hubs told me it began showing up a couple of years ago after he retired. Our tribe certainly becomes smaller as we age.

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AngelPuppy1 — Sun, 11 Oct 2020 11:01:56 GMT

You only have so many cheeks to turn! So, after years of that, and turning myself inside out for people, and making excuses for their bad behavior and duplicity --- I wised up and walked away.

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tototwo — Sun, 11 Oct 2020 12:11:20 GMT

YES !!!!

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JYWilliams — Sun, 11 Oct 2020 13:57:11 GMT

Oh so true.

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Jordan2 — Sun, 11 Oct 2020 14:00:55 GMT

@Porcelain wrote:
What works for me is to behave in a way that completely confuses and repels anyone who wouldn't wish me well. It's kind of like a forcefield of wellbeing.

No matter what you do there will always be people who dislike you, so just make sure all of them are folks you want to repel.

@Porcelain my mother would always say to me " not everyone is going to like you, that's their problem."

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jubilant — Sun, 11 Oct 2020 14:16:59 GMT

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LindaSal — Sun, 11 Oct 2020 14:25:23 GMT

This is unfortunate but true. I've had a few people in my life over the years that were totally negative. You have to remove negativity from your life to find positivity. It's that simple, as difficult as the removal part can be.

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Lali1 — Sun, 11 Oct 2020 16:43:22 GMT

@Shanus wrote:
After about 8 months of restrictions, I've almost lost my ability for small talk, have less patience for B.S. in general. Without seeing people's expressions on their faces, I'm doubting if they're smirking or smiling. Social interactions have been quite limited.
Life's always been short...shorter now since the future can be uncertain. People who suck out my happiness? I got them out of my life many years ago. Why waste my time?

My husband and I walk every morning he pushes our dogs in a stroller. We see lots of people and speak to many of them. I feel like I talk to more people now than I did before the lockdown started. Several people come out to see us when we're out. It's kinda nice to get to know our neighbors more than just the ones on our street. And only one couple wear masks outside and they're walking. We all stand a distance away so we see a lot of smiles.

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spiderw — Sun, 11 Oct 2020 16:47:00 GMT

I have been most fortunate in that I have close long term friends and have most of my life. I managed along the way to shift out those who were not friends but just acquaintances. The people who surround me are positive, caring, loving and loyal. I couldn't ask for more. If I do meet someone who is negative, I sense it and the relationship is short. I had to learn who my true friends were and thankfully I am blessed.