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Advice

Marcy1904 — Mon, 31 Aug 2020 11:29:32 GMT

Knowing what you know now, what advice would you give your 20 year old self?

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CalminHeart — Mon, 31 Aug 2020 11:38:41 GMT

I'd tell my 20 year old self -

Education is critical. Go to college right out of high school and get your degree.

Be yourself.

Relax. Being Type A isn't all there is.

Do your best at whatever you do.

Take some risks. Don't beat yourself up when you make a mistake. Every human makes mistakes.

Enjoy life. Stop and smell the roses. Life goes so fast. Take time to live it.

Be kind, inclusive, charitable, accepting, peaceful, patient, loving, gentle, tolerant (even to stupid people), and the like.

Get a dog. (Waiting until I was 60 was a mistake.)

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Miss Pepsi — Mon, 31 Aug 2020 12:04:17 GMT

Always tell the people that you love, you love them

Smile more

I would tell myself to worry less

Take delight in little things such as: butterflies, small children playing and laughing. Holding hands with someone you love.

it's ok to say NO

Don't try to be all things to all people because because it's impossible.

If there is a toxic person in your life, get them out of your life sooner rather than later

In a world where you can be anything, BE KIND

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catter70 — Mon, 31 Aug 2020 12:06:57 GMT

Along with others have said, I'd never have gotten married, ever.

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Oznell — Mon, 31 Aug 2020 12:07:35 GMT

There are aspects of my 20 year old self that I remember to savor and enjoy, but oh, boy, since you are asking, there are some deficits that I could have addressed sooner. I do think youth has certain blind spots in general, and in particular, I personally had plenty.

Work harder, play harder.

Have a plan for the future. Exercise thrift, and save responsibly.

Don't take my faith for granted. Make worship and relationship to my Creator the most central aspect of my life. (I trust this doesn't violate any QVC rules-- I'm not advocating this for anyone else, just answering the question as to what I, personally, would do differently in my life.)

Understand that due to simple lack of experience, I don't have all the wisdom I'd like, and therefore: listen more to trusted mentors who have my best interest at heart.

Exercise charity, love and understanding, even when that comes hard.

Cherish even more every second with my parents; never lose even one opportunity with them.

Meet my husband sooner than I did, ha!

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millieshops — Mon, 31 Aug 2020 12:32:32 GMT

work to make your part of the world a better place but start with yourself.

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LindaSal — Mon, 31 Aug 2020 12:35:49 GMT

I would suggest to have listened more to my elders, parents and grandparents.

They had such a history and knowledge that you will never have the opportunity to learn once they are gone from this earth.

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software — Mon, 31 Aug 2020 13:01:16 GMT

Be kind, always, to everyone.

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gidgetgh — Mon, 31 Aug 2020 13:23:08 GMT

Don't spend so much money on Christmas decorations. When you're 64, you won't want ALL that stuff anymore. Less is more.

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chiclets — Mon, 31 Aug 2020 13:34:13 GMT

Stay with the one who was my soul mate, my love and the one I would always love.

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bonnielu — Mon, 31 Aug 2020 13:41:52 GMT

Great answers everyone. The only thing I would add would be ask more questions of family members... get a family history. I only wish I knew more about my parents and grandpparents lives. Aunts and Uncles too. Now there is no way to get answers. I am going to fix that for me by sharing with my daughters what I know about me and my hubby of 54 years.

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Pook — Mon, 31 Aug 2020 13:55:07 GMT

While learning from mistakes is part of the life learning process, I would say don't be so trusting of everyone who appears to be friendly. Everyone is not just plain nice and kind to others for no reason like you are.

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Jordan2 — Mon, 31 Aug 2020 14:14:02 GMT

Don't be so hard on yourself, and not care what other people think of you. I spent too many years sitting on the sidelines not being a participant in my life. I have come to realize people aren't even looking at you like you think they are ( by the way good thread).

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tobes — Mon, 31 Aug 2020 14:26:10 GMT

@Marcy1904 Wear your bikini as often as possible while you can.

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stevieb — Mon, 31 Aug 2020 14:42:32 GMT

Don't keep telling yourself 'there'll be time for that' because time is fleeting...

Reach back out to those who reach out to you and don't waste much focus upon those who don't...

Save more, buy less...

Be less afraid of the judgment of others...

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vermint — Mon, 31 Aug 2020 14:54:16 GMT

I would have told myself to stop worrying so much about what others thought of me...I now realize that others don't think of us nearly as much as we believe!

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deepwaterdotter — Mon, 31 Aug 2020 14:54:33 GMT

You're doing great, keep it up.

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cotton4me — Mon, 31 Aug 2020 14:54:35 GMT

Save for retirement.

I wasn’t taught any money management skills when growing up. Later in life I did my best to make up for lost time. I would tell myself to put a percentage away from every paycheck beginning in high school.

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Suziepeach — Mon, 31 Aug 2020 14:56:32 GMT

Stand up for yourself and go in the direction "you" wanted.

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qbetzforreal — Mon, 31 Aug 2020 14:59:27 GMT

Ditch poetry class and go to the beach with Dave (the one that got away).