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Need Feedback on Virus Precautions

Bannafanna — Sun, 02 Aug 2020 14:43:49 GMT

I live in a small neighborhood. We have a group of four neighbors who walk and swim for daily exercise. We practice the 6 foot rule walking and swimming. One of our group is flying out to the mountains for a week of new sights. It's my feeling that when she returns, she needs to quarantine for 10 to 14 days. She, the traveler, disagrees. She feels like she can return home and step back in to the exercise group. Am I being too ridged by not wanting to be exposed to her after air flight and trip?

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haddon9 — Sun, 02 Aug 2020 14:48:52 GMT

@Bannafanna I agree with you! I think that it's being inconsiderate and selfish if she can't quarantine for two weeks in her own home...it's not like she's traveling and has to quarantine in another area.

To tell you the truth I'm too afriad to go to an airport and fly now. Just the idea of using a restroom in either the airport or on the plane makes me ill. I missed going to Florida to see my 93 year ol mother in March and I have no idea when I can do so.

What do the others in your group think?

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RetRN — Sun, 02 Aug 2020 15:00:09 GMT

@Bannafanna, I totally agree with you, she would be putting others in jeopardy. I hope she reconsiders.

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Still Raining — Sun, 02 Aug 2020 15:07:29 GMT

I think you are being prudent. If the other members do not agree, you have also been given good information about them.

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CrazyDaisy — Sun, 02 Aug 2020 15:09:45 GMT

What do the others in the group say? If they agree with her you just need to take control of your own life and avoid them for now. You cannot control others behavior, only your ow.n

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Miss Pepsi — Sun, 02 Aug 2020 15:12:14 GMT

If she doesn't quarantine for 2 weeks, I would make darn sure I would not be anywhere near her for at least 2 weeks.

The only person you can control is you so YOU take care of YOU.

I haven't flown in years and I sure as heck wouldn't be getting on a plane now. NOPE.

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Bannafanna — Sun, 02 Aug 2020 15:16:57 GMT

The others in the group agree with me. We are all over 70 years old. We have limited our activities to minimize the risks of catching the virus. Our neighbor, who is traveling, is attempting to live normal during a pandemic. I actually fear being around her because of her lack of precautions.

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Love my grandkids — Sun, 02 Aug 2020 15:22:22 GMT

@Bannafanna Your fears are well founded. I'm 72 and you couldn't pay me to be anywhere near that woman, given her lifestyle.

If you and your friends continue to associate with her, well, you've been warned.

I would not and if asked, I would tell her exactly why.

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Jaspersmom — Sun, 02 Aug 2020 15:29:55 GMT

I know those who aren't following protocols don't think of themselves as selfish, but that's really what they are. Okay, I'll say self absorbed if selfish seems too harsh. Yes, it seems like the virus doesn't exist, BUT that little invisible bugger is out there just waiting to spread. We never know who it's going to get and if it does get someone, how bad that person will get it. We have to do what we know what to do thus far to slow it down. That means socially distance, wear a mask, wash hands, etc. It also means that people have to quarantine for a couple of weeks if they've traveled other places. If you travel from one of a long list of states to my state, you must quarantine for 14 days. We suffered greatly in the beginnning and now our numbers are way, way down. We want to keep it that way. PROTECT YOURSELF AND STAY AWAY FROM YOUR FRIEND FOR A COUPLE OF WEEKS WHEN SHE COMES BACK FROM HER VACATION.

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Sooner — Sun, 02 Aug 2020 15:25:45 GMT

I would just not walk for 2 weeks when she returns and be honest and unapologetic about what you are doing ONCE.

After that hold your ground, and refuse to gossip about it, talk about it, harp on it or give it discussion of any kind. SImply say, "No, that's what I am going to do."

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Burnsite — Sun, 02 Aug 2020 15:27:27 GMT

Airports and flying are dangerous right now. I would stay home if she insisted on joining the group. Quarantine is so difficult but it has to be endured while it remains necessary.

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loveschocolate — Sun, 02 Aug 2020 15:30:39 GMT

@Bannafanna wrote:
I live in a small neighborhood. We have a group of four neighbors who walk and swim for daily exercise. We practice the 6 foot rule walking and swimming. One of our group is flying out to the mountains for a week of new sights. It's my feeling that when she returns, she needs to quarantine for 10 to 14 days. She, the traveler, disagrees. She feels like she can return home and step back in to the exercise group. Am I being too ridged by not wanting to be exposed to her after air flight and trip?

@Bannafanna , I would advise a Covid-19 test upon returning. I myself am going to the mountains Tuesday, although we are driving. I scheduled my test through Walgreens here, where I live upon returning. You fill out a form online and it's free and no doctor's order is required. Of course, she needs to self quarantine until she receives her results back.

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Porcelain — Sun, 02 Aug 2020 15:35:54 GMT

She might be able to avoid infected people in the mountains, but flying is another matter. That's risky behavior (that some are forced to take due to circumstances) and it is irresponsible for her to not admit that. She can put herself at risk but she has no right to do that to your exercise group.

Either she goes on a temporary hiatus from the group or the group should go on a temprary hiatus from her. Either way, you'd be wise to have your own temporary hiatus to keep away from both her and any drama.

You don't want to deal with any lingering ugly feelings about this. And this kind of thing can bring up a lot of yuck, and reveal people to be a lot ickier than you ever thought they were. Better not to know how some folks really feel, but still keep yourself safe.

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Snooky60 — Sun, 02 Aug 2020 15:38:09 GMT

@Bannafanna - I definitely agree with you. I wish you strength to confront her. 💗

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EatWell — Sun, 02 Aug 2020 18:48:54 GMT

@Bannafanna wrote:
I live in a small neighborhood. We have a group of four neighbors who walk and swim for daily exercise. We practice the 6 foot rule walking and swimming. One of our group is flying out to the mountains for a week of new sights. It's my feeling that when she returns, she needs to quarantine for 10 to 14 days. She, the traveler, disagrees. She feels like she can return home and step back in to the exercise group. Am I being too ridged by not wanting to be exposed to her after air flight and trip?

@Bannafanna

You do not know who she will be in contact with. They could be asymptomatic and give the virus to your neighbor. And then spread the virus to you and others..

Refer to CDC guidelines for travel.

JMO

“Stay safe. Stay home.”

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millieshops — Sun, 02 Aug 2020 15:45:06 GMT

@Bannafanna I'm with you and the majority of your group. There's a friend in one of my groups who is not taking precautions. When we're getting together now, I have been asking who is joining us. I won't go if she is included, but apparently I'm far from alone. I haven't had to name any names, but I haven't had to refuse any invitations in the last 6 weeks.

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kitcat51 — Sun, 02 Aug 2020 15:46:28 GMT

When she returns just walk & swim by yourself...you only have control over you, that's it.

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Twins Mom — Sun, 02 Aug 2020 15:50:34 GMT

I agree with most posters. if she continues with this attitudes it will be up to you to take the necessary precautions by not being near where she goes. Unfortunately that means you might miss your swimming activities with your friends.

We can't control others. While we hope everyone keeps distance, others forget and gravitate. Potential thus expands.

My suggestion, if she does not stay away from other friends, you must stay away from all for awhile.

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Zhills — Sun, 02 Aug 2020 15:53:14 GMT

I talked with a friend, who had visited a friend (recently) and told me that the friend's daughter had be to visit him.

The daughter found out that her friend was positive for Covid-19.

NO. You don't want this feeling! Was I? Am I safe? Is it possible? No, you don't want this feeling! Stay away from her!

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Porcelain — Sun, 02 Aug 2020 15:51:41 GMT

To all the people who keep saying you can't control others: of course not. But you can make a request. And you can do all sorts of things as a reaction to a refusal to comply with a request. Meek passivity is not the only option. There are compassionate civil responses that are still assertive and proactive.

If enough members of any group don't want you around because you aren't cooperating, they can kick you out and have every right to do that. We all have a lot of power over each other without having to control or manipulate anyone.