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The Obits

QVCkitty1 — Wed, 24 Jun 2020 18:46:02 GMT

This morning I saw the obituary for a guy I used to work with. I haven't seen him in a couple of years, prior to that once and awhile in the supermarket. The thing is it got me thinking about the old days at work, and how different my life is now . He was my age , which kind of creeped me out, silly I know.

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KarenQVC — Wed, 24 Jun 2020 18:49:10 GMT

@QVCkitty1 Not silly. Covid, you think?

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Spurt — Wed, 24 Jun 2020 18:58:22 GMT

@QVCkitty1 wrote:
This morning I saw the obituary for a guy I used to work with. I haven't seen him in a couple of years, prior to that once and awhile in the supermarket. The thing is it got me thinking about the old days at work, and how different my life is now . He was my age , which kind of creeped me out, silly I know.

@QVCkitty1

I'm still working and it does make us stop and think how delicate life is when a co-worker passes away.....

Just in the last couple months there have been a couple of co-workers in our office (one passed away following heart surgery), and another collapsed and died---(he did have several health issues)---And no link to Co-Vid in either case per their respective doctors because the surviving spouse asked out of concern.......

And with restrictions caused by the pandemic you cant even go to the funeral to offer condolences, just send a card or call...

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QVCkitty1 — Wed, 24 Jun 2020 19:50:15 GMT

@KarenQVC wrote:
@QVCkitty1 Not silly. Covid, you think?

I have no idea what cause of death is.

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esmerelda — Wed, 24 Jun 2020 19:56:48 GMT

I'm a regular obit reader. When people are near my age, I'm more concerned than when they are much younger (I'm grateful for the additional time I've been given) or much older (maybe I'll make it that far too).

Maybe "concerned" is the wrong word. Just thinking "If they did, I could too." Silly. Morbid.

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happycat — Wed, 24 Jun 2020 19:58:17 GMT

It does make one stop and think. A few weeks ago a lady about 10 years younger than me that we use to go to church with died. I was told it was a heart attack, but I'm not sure. She would have been about 40.

Her husband died several years ago in a car accident, her children are now orphans. Doesn't seem like it could be real, yet it is.

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NEvans2 — Wed, 24 Jun 2020 20:19:29 GMT

Twenty three years ago my younger brother dropped dead while he and his pregnant wife were making dinner. He was 34. Since then, I think my attitude towards death has changed. I am 65, in very good health, and am thankful for every morning my feet hit the floor. My younger sister is having a hard time with growing older and I always tell her I' ll take old age over the alternative.

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Sheila P-Burg — Wed, 24 Jun 2020 20:31:22 GMT

Reading an obit wherein a classmate has died bothers me more than a co-worker.

But then again I have lived longer than some family members. One (1) sister died in early 40's, two (2) close cousins died in middle 3O's, and husband died in early 50's.

Have a family history of cerebral aneurysm (father and sister) as well as a great grandmother and cousins.

Like @NEvans2 said. I "am thankful every morning my feet hit the floor". I choose not to worry what might be and live for the present.

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BadWolf — Wed, 24 Jun 2020 20:29:38 GMT

@esmerelda I get very sad when I see older people listed. I really think they were the "Greatest Generation" and cannot imagine surviving depression and all of the hardships they endured. Their leaving is truly our loss.

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RedTop — Wed, 24 Jun 2020 20:56:19 GMT

Not a week goes by without the death of someone we know; whether it was a neighbor, work friend, church friend, former boss, or best friend, we dread looking at the obituaries every day.

My best friend died recently, and her family has truly struggled. Months after her death, the family finally found her instructions, and realize they missed a few things. This has caused me to look at my personal instructions again, update and tweak a few things; make all of my family read it and watch me put the envelope back in its place, in hopes they won't be as lost as my friends family!

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Lali1 — Wed, 24 Jun 2020 21:03:15 GMT

@NEvans2 wrote:
Twenty three years ago my younger brother dropped dead while he and his pregnant wife were making dinner. He was 34. Since then, I think my attitude towards death has changed. I am 65, in very good health, and am thankful for every morning my feet hit the floor. My younger sister is having a hard time with growing older and I always tell her I' ll take old age over the alternative.

This is exactly what I say to my husband when he complains about getting old. You got two choices Buddy die or grow old 😊

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kivah — Wed, 24 Jun 2020 21:27:37 GMT

@BadWolf wrote:
@esmerelda I get very sad when I see older people listed. I really think they were the "Greatest Generation" and cannot imagine surviving depression and all of the hardships they endured. Their leaving is truly our loss.

I so agree!!!!

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spiderw — Wed, 24 Jun 2020 21:46:38 GMT

I don't read the obits and usually learn of co-workers deaths through friends since we were all a close knit group at work. I have lose three close friends who were co-workers during the time I have been retired and during my span of forty one years working in the school system lost many co-workers who I cared about.

I worked at several schools and made a lot of friends and in fact over the years so many people passed through my life who left strong impressions. That goes for people outside of work. I have been blessed knowing so many wonderful people, learning from them and sharing friendships Those who have passed make me sad and I always remember all the great memories I had with that person. I think most of the people I worked with on all levels left a lasting impression . It is sad when I hear of a c-worker passing though , and I cherish their memories.

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AngelPuppy1 — Thu, 25 Jun 2020 11:56:12 GMT

DH says he makes sure he looks at the obits, as we are at an age where people we went to school with and know could pass away at any time and he wants to be sure he knows about their passing! I told him --- well, it's a blessing that each day goes by and we're not in them!

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hckynut — Thu, 25 Jun 2020 12:30:41 GMT

@Sheila P-Burg wrote:

Like @NEvans2 said.

I "am thankful every morning my feet hit the floor". I choose not to worry what might be and live for the present.

@Sheila P-Burg

Been saying that for many years now. I don't know anyone that can change the past, or predict the future. So the focus should be on the present.

"Mankind was born to live, not to prepare for life".

hckynut 🏒

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Cakers3 — Thu, 25 Jun 2020 13:12:10 GMT

I read the obits from back home everyday.

Recently I have seen the deaths of 3 classmates.

2 from high school who also attended college with me and we were friends in both settings.

The other from high school; a passing "hello" but nonetheless when you see a person your age it stirs something sad inside of you.

We know it's life; I don't think there is anyone here who doesn't get that fact.

I'm hardly Methusalah-I hope I have at least another decade or so on this planet. Whether I do or not is not in my hands.

No matter-somebody dies, and somebody mourns. Circle of life.

Just because "it is what it is" does not diminish the life of the deceased.