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When you keep waiting

Grouchomarx — Mon, 01 Jun 2020 13:20:51 GMT

For your "second wind" to go do all that ***** you keep saying you'll do. But you get stuck and just keep cycling through your routine and the news and all the bad feelings and laziness. I keep talking to people having the same feeling. Anyone know how to power out of it? Ugh I'm in a bit of a hole. Cheers to those of you who are not. I'd love a tip to get me going.

Re: When you keep waiting

bikerbabe — Mon, 01 Jun 2020 00:57:11 GMT

Turn off the news, the laptop, iPad, smartphone, etc.
Limit conversations with “Debbie Downers”😂
Turn on some music.
Pick one easy to accomplish task to get started.

Re: When you keep waiting

Mom2Dogs — Mon, 01 Jun 2020 00:58:51 GMT

I try to have a plan for every day...and do my best to get it done. I am one of those people that need to stay busy...but will admit to time spent doing nothing, which makes me feel like a slug.

I have been able to go into our business on occasion but certainly not working a 40 hour week, more like 6-8 hour week, so that does get me out of the house.

Re: When you keep waiting

rms1954 — Mon, 01 Jun 2020 01:01:26 GMT

@Grouchomarx wrote:
For your "second wind" to go do all that shi* you keep saying you'll do. But you get stuck and just keep cycling through your routine and the news and all the bad feelings and laziness. I keep talking to people having the same feeling. Anyone know how to power out of it? Ugh I'm in a bit of a hole. Cheers to those of you who are not. I'd love a tip to get me going.

Sorry, I have to tips for you. I've been in a hole for a long time, unable to get out. I have one repeating thought on a way out (which I'll not share). It's the only choice ... our other rights and liberties have been taken away. There's nothing left.

Re: When you keep waiting

tansy — Mon, 01 Jun 2020 01:01:59 GMT

@bikerbabe wrote:
Turn off the news, the laptop, iPad, smartphone, etc.
Limit conversations with “Debbie Downers”😂
Turn on some music.
Pick one easy to accomplish task to get started.

I'll just add take a walk to this list.

Re: When you keep waiting

KailaS — Mon, 01 Jun 2020 01:02:17 GMT

I only turn on news later in evening. Try that. Also, pick something little to do to get started with whatever you want to do. For me, once I accomplish a smaller task ( e.g., clean out a drawer or wash some throws) I have a sense of accomplishment and usually tackle a few other projects. Of course, some days are better than others.

Re: When you keep waiting

Mary Bailey — Mon, 01 Jun 2020 01:06:54 GMT

I don't know. I'm sorry.

DH is works in a hospital. Me insurance. We are both working.

Both of our sons have lost their jobs

DH needs to talk about it. I need to not hear it.

It's a uncomfortable balance.

I pray a lot.

Re: When you keep waiting

Texasmouse — Mon, 01 Jun 2020 01:26:20 GMT

I had the coronavirus so although I wanted to do a lot of things while I was home, my body wouldn't let me. It was too busy fighting the virus to leave me with energy to do much else. I thank God my symptoms weren't severe and I didn't have to be hospitalized but I experienced severe fatigue and could only perform small tasks before having to rest. Even though I couldn't do too much cleaning, etc., I found little things to do to keep me from getting bored and completing small tasks gave me a sense of accomplishment. For example, I organized my dresser drawers, folding my clothes using Marie Kondo's KonMari method and I was pretty pleased with the results! I also knitted a few dish cloths which is relaxing in and of itself. I plan to start walking again with DH because that's something I really miss. We have a treadmill but it's not the same. Anyway, if you can find a little something to help you pass the time each day and especially if it's something productive, it can do wonders for your outlook!

Re: When you keep waiting

happycat — Mon, 01 Jun 2020 01:36:07 GMT

I use to make a list at night of all I needed to get done, or wanted to get done the next day. I was more productive, there was something about checking things off the list. I am not doing that now, and in a rut as well.

I do agree with the poster(s) who said turning off the tv and turning on some music, right now, there is so much going on, even locally, I keep wanting to watch tv .

Re: When you keep waiting

SandySparkles — Mon, 01 Jun 2020 01:42:14 GMT

@Grouchomarx wrote:
For your "second wind" to go do all that shi* you keep saying you'll do. But you get stuck and just keep cycling through your routine and the news and all the bad feelings and laziness. I keep talking to people having the same feeling. Anyone know how to power out of it? Ugh I'm in a bit of a hole. Cheers to those of you who are not. I'd love a tip to get me going.

@Grouchomarx I feel your pain, and am somewhat overwhelmed and broken hearted with everything that's going on. What helps me when those type of thoughts creep in, is to immediately get up, and start something-anything. Walking around the house, watching your favorite movie, a nice relaxing bath etc. For me, it is cleaning.

The most important thing, is that you are acknowledging it, instead of keeping it inside. Please know you are not alone, and that I hope things improve for you soon.😷_____🤗(social distance hug)

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

Re: When you keep waiting

KathyM23 — Mon, 01 Jun 2020 01:46:47 GMT

When the stay at home first started, I got busy and did a lot of organizing and projects around home. Read a lot of books and enjoyed what I thought would be a short time off work to stay home and relax.

Well as time went on and stay at home became longer, I am way past feeling that way, I feel kind of down and sluggish, think I'm going to do this or that today and end up doing practically nothing. Any get up and go and planning to do things at home has left. I have started getting out but sometimes don't even want to make the effort to get ready and go as am finding the way things are being out kind of depressing. More and more people out, but ignoring each other. It is not a good atmosphere.

One thing I would advise is to stay away from the news, everything is bad enough without going over the top with sensationalized headlines and reporting what may happen or if this happens. We don't know what is going to happen and their guessing games posing as news makes things worse. Between riots and the virus, the news is just scary.

Re: When you keep waiting

Snowpuppy — Mon, 01 Jun 2020 03:10:50 GMT

@Mary Bailey wrote:
I don't know. I'm sorry.
DH is works in a hospital. Me insurance. We are both working.
Both of our sons have lost their jobs
DH needs to talk about it. I need to not hear it.
It's a uncomfortable balance.

I pray a lot.

I'm in that camp with your DH.

I'm working at home now, too. DS has been hanging out here but has kept his apt thinking he'll be called back to work, soon.

We have chatted a bit about him packing up and moving back in. He's open to it, just not until later this summer.

Prayers and a lit candle for your family.

Re: When you keep waiting

GenXmuse — Mon, 01 Jun 2020 03:32:22 GMT

Maybe put some earbuds in and go for a walk. I always feel better when I do. Even if it's just up the street and back.

Re: When you keep waiting

jeanlake — Mon, 01 Jun 2020 03:57:31 GMT

I tell myself every day is a new day. In the evenings I feel more mentally drained than physically drained. I start again each day. Time will pass. It always does. Better days ahead.

Re: When you keep waiting

KaySD — Mon, 01 Jun 2020 04:18:11 GMT

You already know how everyone's life is tricky at times. Right now, we are almost all navigating our own tricky bits. So be extra patient with yourself. This is your life. Take a look, and whatever is in your life right now that you feel a negative emotion about almost every time you think about it, do whatever you can to remove that feeling from your awareness. Doesn't matter what it is, how big or small, what you choose to do or not do about it. Just stop paying attention to that negative thing. Do that over and over (that's where the patience comes in!) I wish you well.

Re: When you keep waiting

VenturaHighway — Mon, 01 Jun 2020 04:54:41 GMT

A walk outside will really help you.

Re: When you keep waiting

AngelPuppy1 — Mon, 01 Jun 2020 10:01:13 GMT

Well --- right now it's hard --- it's just plain old hard!!!! We've all been experiencing this stuff for months and months and all of this is something we've never had to go through. Then, all of this extra negatvity with the riots, etc. It's a real brain drain! I have had to start limiting the amount of time that I watch the news! I just can't keep watching it all day and night because I get so anxious, depressed and stressed out. So, I would say -- first off --- yes, it's important to stay informed, but watch it for a bit --- then turn it off!!! Watch some old comedy shows or listen to some fun music. Getting outside for a bit really helps me a lot. When all else fails, this really clears out the cob webs. I have days when I am not productive at all. It does bother me, yes, but I'm trying not to dwell on it. I figure, if it doesn't get done today -- so what? Is the world going to end because I didn't do it??? No! Don't compare your so-called successes or failures to someone else's. It may not seem like it right now, but just remember --- this, too, shall pass!

Re: When you keep waiting

Oznell — Mon, 01 Jun 2020 10:37:42 GMT

@Imtep said: Sorry, I have to tips for you. I've been in a hole for a long time, unable to get out. I have one repeating thought on a way out (which I'll not share). It's the only choice ... our other rights and liberties have been taken away. There's nothing left.

@Imtep , I'm concerned about your feelings of only one way out, and that that is a repeating thought for you. Know that people care very much about how you are feeling.

Even though you do not want to elaborate here, please talk to someone trustworthy in your life about those feelings. Please keep reminding yourself, "this too shall pass". Anything to interrupt a single minded thought that leads to despair and desperation.

As hard as it is to see now, keep in mind that present reality will change. In the meantime, there are some good steps and ideas in this thread to get out of a hole. Do consider the ones that would work for you, and talk to your doctor also for professional guidance.

You are right to be concerned about the restriction of civil liberties, but again, have faith that the system will once again achieve balance, and freedoms and choices will once more expand.

Take care!

Re: When you keep waiting

Imaoldhippie — Mon, 01 Jun 2020 11:30:14 GMT

@Texasmouse ...............so sorry to hear you were ill. Im glad that you were not on the serious side and are recovering. I hope you continue to feel better each day. Its a good thing that you found things to do to help keep your mind busy.

God bless

Re: When you keep waiting

cotton4me — Mon, 01 Jun 2020 12:13:33 GMT

The thing that made the biggest difference for me was to stop watching the news, completely. I went from watching it most of the day, to just checking it occasionally, to not at all. Not-at-all made the biggest difference. My focus shifted.

I also force myself to go outside, even on days when I might not feel like it. There’s something about the outdoors, the fresh air and sunshine that I find healing. If I don’t have the energy to walk, I sit outside and listen to the birds.

I took a photo of this song sparrow singing its heart out the other day. It reminds me that there are still wonderful things in the world.