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Home 4 Days And Going Nuts!!!!

Sapphiregal — Sun, 22 Mar 2020 21:09:58 GMT

I know I am not alone with these feelings, but, I just have to say I don't know how much more of this I can take. Our weather has been rainy, cool, and dreary for a solid week. NO SUNSHINE. That alone depresses me. Now, throw in the fact that we are staying home (social distancing.....what a term. SMH...) and everything closed except for grocery stores.Well, I can always hope the sun will come out tomorrow!

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september — Sun, 22 Mar 2020 21:23:51 GMT

Yes, it is hard! We had a few rainy days this past week, so I sympathize.

The past few days have been cool but sunny, so I've gone out for long walks both days. Spoke to other walkers from the appropriate distance.

More rain coming for us this week.

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AuntG — Sun, 22 Mar 2020 21:23:53 GMT

Sorry you are feeling some distress by Day 4. I'm guessing you are a fairly social person - I'd think extroverts are feeling it more than an introvert like me. DH and I are missing a nice meal in a restaurant.

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SandySparkles — Sun, 22 Mar 2020 21:58:33 GMT

@Sapphiregal wrote:
I know I am not alone with these feelings, but, I just have to say I don't know how much more of this I can take. Our weather has been rainy, cool, and dreary for a solid week. NO SUNSHINE. That alone depresses me. Now, throw in the fact that we are staying home (social distancing.....what a term. SMH...) and everything closed except for grocery stores.Well, I can always hope the sun will come out tomorrow!

You are certainly not alone, and your post touched my heart. It is very challenging adjusting to our unprecedented predicament. I find that I am getting those mundane tasks that we usually procrastinate about, completed.

Our weather has been beautiful this past week, but rain is expected for the next 10 days here in my neck of the pacific northwest (no surprise), so that is going to present an even greater challenge, but I welcome it.😊

I am sorry this is having such a profound effect on you. Please know you are not alone, and that I hope you are able to find a way to feel better soon🤗

I understand how vital it is that we all do our part, and hope people that have not yet heeded the warnings from the CDC and local municipalities, recognize their responsibility as we battle this pandemic together-UNITY. Hang in there!!!😊

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

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Bhvbum — Sun, 22 Mar 2020 21:27:18 GMT

Pack a picnic, get in the car and drive to a good parking place. Yesterday it was at my small train station.

Last week I ate next to a river, today, at a parking lot with cherry trees blooming, etc. It is cloudy today but it actually is brighter outside.

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wilma — Sun, 22 Mar 2020 21:28:14 GMT

It’s definitely difficult to adjust to the restrictions. I’ve been home now for 7 days. Trying to keep occupied doing various things, but today was the first day I really felt down in the dumps. I think it started with the fact that my morning routine of going to mass & singing in the choir was missing. Watched mass on TV but just not the same.

Going to be a long ordeal for all of us. Need to remember life could always be worse.

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HLP — Sun, 22 Mar 2020 21:30:13 GMT

@Sapphiregal wrote:
I know I am not alone with these feelings, but, I just have to say I don't know how much more of this I can take. Our weather has been rainy, cool, and dreary for a solid week. NO SUNSHINE. That alone depresses me. Now, throw in the fact that we are staying home (social distancing.....what a term. SMH...) and everything closed except for grocery stores.Well, I can always hope the sun will come out tomorrow!

I love cloudy,rainy days, could stay in my house for a year and not complain, in fact I like to be home. I have a computer, tv's, washing to do, house to clean, nieces to text, and a sister to call and friends. I worked out of the house all my adult life, and I love home.Quit complaining, I just saw a niece I loved die with cancer, now the sweet boy next door, early 20's just bought the house, just got married, tells me he has bone cancer in his leg.Do you see how sad your lonliness is (SYH}.

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Love my grandkids — Sun, 22 Mar 2020 21:36:49 GMT

@Sapphiregal I wonder why you are shaking your head at the term "social distancing." I think it is very clear as to the meaning, even tho some fools are ignoring it out there! What would you call it instead? Just wondering.

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Annabellethecat66 — Sun, 22 Mar 2020 21:44:03 GMT

@Sapphiregal You rang the bell with me when you said, "No sunshine". I cannot stand dark (no sunshine) days.

I don't mind being home. I never go out on the weekends normally (today I had to get medicine).

I do love the interaction with people for a little while. Then I come home to my house with my two cats and I'm good.

I think we are just (for the most part) people who enjoy some interaction with each other....it varies.

So, I saw a show where the psychiatrists were talking about depression. Depression runs in my family. I have had several family members commit suicide.

Anyway, that's why I was watching the show.

The Dr was from England. He said (paraphrasing) "In England we have a lot of dark drizzle days so I thought perhaps that was why it seems like depression has increased so much".

Long story short (I know...hard to believe from me...right). Anyway, he said he conducted an experiment. He had each person join some kind of club that studied or enjoyed something the person had always been curious about or wanted to learn, etc.

He said some joined a bird watching club, some joined people in gardening and so on. Some wanted to learn how to knit or crochet so they joined a club where there were groups learning and teaching.

He said he noticed one by one these people who'd (some) had taken very strong medications for depression not needing it or at least decreasing the amount of chemicals they needed.

At first he thought it was just a fluke because it was going against everything he'd learned and studied. I mean, this was his 'thing'. This was how he earned his living helping these people.

Then he couldn't deny it any longer. Some just needed way less depression medicine, some just needed adjusting, some even got off of it altogether.

He said it was because these people were all loaners. They lived alone, never joined groups of people and THOUGHT they liked it that way. But they were depressed.

The bottom line, he said, is the humans need some kind of interaction with others. Not everyone needs to join a club or be around people every day. But what they do need is some kind of interaction with others every few days. Not just on the phone but physical interaction.

I'm in that category. I know if I couldn't get out and talk to strangers (I especially love strangers) I'd shrivel to nothing. I love meeting people I don't know.

It's nothing for me (in the past) to walk up to someone or a group and say, "Hello, I'm Linda (my name) where do you live...(whatever).

I've never been mistreated. I don't expect long conversations. Just a hello how are you? This weather is terrible, isn't it?

Things like that. Maybe 3 minutes tops then moving on. Not all day, not every day.

You sound a little similar. I know I'm extremely outgoing...I try not to be a pain in the tukuss...I don't think I am.

People come up to me all of the time thinking they know me....they don't but they think they do.

Things will get better I know it, then people like us can get out of the house and enjoy life.

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Azcowgirl — Sun, 22 Mar 2020 21:51:39 GMT

Another introvert/ homebody here....
Staying home is my thing...Diving into my stockpile of crochet,and sewing projects and yard work .DH is very much a social community involvement type, and is having a more difficult adjustment.

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Sapphiregal — Sun, 22 Mar 2020 21:52:15 GMT

@HLP wrote:
@Sapphiregal wrote:
I know I am not alone with these feelings, but, I just have to say I don't know how much more of this I can take. Our weather has been rainy, cool, and dreary for a solid week. NO SUNSHINE. That alone depresses me. Now, throw in the fact that we are staying home (social distancing.....what a term. SMH...) and everything closed except for grocery stores.Well, I can always hope the sun will come out tomorrow!
I love cloudy,rainy days, could stay in my house for a year and not complain, in fact I like to be home. I have a computer, tv's, washing to do, house to clean, nieces to text, and a sister to call and friends. I worked out of the house all my adult life, and I love home.Quit complaining, I just saw a niece I loved die with cancer, now the sweet boy next door, early 20's just bought the house, just got married, tells me he has bone cancer in his leg.Do you see how sad your lonliness is (SYH}.

@HLP

Sorry, if you take my little post as complaining. Just expressing my feelings as many here seem to do. I, too, have lost someone to cancer -- my 27 year old son. I watched him suffer 7 years - so, I know that sadness, too.

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KKJ — Sun, 22 Mar 2020 21:56:00 GMT

I feel exactly as you do SapphireGal. And I'm a person who gets depressed when it's rainy and dreary out. I swear I haven't seen the sun shine where I live in weeks, and that adds to the gloomy feeling assoc. with being shut in for so long.

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qualitygal — Sun, 22 Mar 2020 21:59:34 GMT

@Sapphiregal So sorry you lost your son to such a horrible disease. I lost my mom that way too.

I think everyone is going a bit stir crazy now and understand your view on it too. This is not easy for anyone now. No one has ever had to go through this before. Think we're all frustrated, sad (some with weather issues too), and somewhat paniced to say the least.

Hopefully, we can all spare some patience and kindness towards what's going on and one another.

Wishing you the best, and we'll all hope for more sun outside, and for this mess to be over soon.

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Meowingkitty — Sun, 22 Mar 2020 22:18:27 GMT

I'm just the opposite. I live in Arizona and we cheer rainy, dark days. We've had several the past couple of weeks. Enjoy the rain. Day after day of nothing but sun and heat are no fun either. While the weather is nice now, we know what's coming. Months of 100 - 118 degree days. We look forward to November when it cools down. People are used to staying inside May through October.

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CelticCrafter — Sun, 22 Mar 2020 22:36:38 GMT

I just said to my daughter this is brutal.

I only go out maybe twice a week but this is killing me. I think it's just the idea that I can't. I haven't been out since last Sunday.

I think tomorrow we are going to take a ride to no where and come back home again!

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stevieb — Sun, 22 Mar 2020 23:18:32 GMT

@HLP wrote:
@Sapphiregal wrote:
I know I am not alone with these feelings, but, I just have to say I don't know how much more of this I can take. Our weather has been rainy, cool, and dreary for a solid week. NO SUNSHINE. That alone depresses me. Now, throw in the fact that we are staying home (social distancing.....what a term. SMH...) and everything closed except for grocery stores.Well, I can always hope the sun will come out tomorrow!
I love cloudy,rainy days, could stay in my house for a year and not complain, in fact I like to be home. I have a computer, tv's, washing to do, house to clean, nieces to text, and a sister to call and friends. I worked out of the house all my adult life, and I love home.Quit complaining, I just saw a niece I loved die with cancer, now the sweet boy next door, early 20's just bought the house, just got married, tells me he has bone cancer in his leg.Do you see how sad your lonliness is (SYH}.

I hope you saw her response to your judgmental commentary. It pays to know the lay of the land before assuming others haven't had their own crosses to bear... Most of us have had sad situations to confront, slamming someone for feeling down or for having different perspectives on life than yours, especially under these circumstances, doesn't help anything.

@Sapphiregal I can only tell you that we've had some pretty days here in my neighborhood and I hate to say it, but it doesn't make staying home any easier... If anything, it makes one want to get out a bit more. Even given I'm a bit of a homebody, it's just not natural for most of us to be virtual shut-ins for extended periods of time. I do like some of the suggestions we've seen here about taking a solo drive, stopping to have lunch in the car somewhere unusual and so on... Folks keep saying 'this too shall pass' and we can only hope it does... And soon...

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SunSprite — Sun, 22 Mar 2020 22:56:51 GMT

@Sapphiregal I'm right there with you on the staying home thing. Are you home alone, or do you have family with you? It's just me and my two rather large male cats, and I think the three of us could use some social distancing haha.....just kidding, I am glad for their company although I suspect I am cramping their style a bit.

For months I couldn't figure out why in the evenings I would come home to an upstairs TV that had a fuzzy picture. Now that I've been home quite a bit I discovered that one of the cats likes to wedge himself behind the TV during the day and nap....causing the cable wire to loosen, and the picture to be grainy.

Wonder what I will discover in the next week?

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Skyegirl21 — Sun, 22 Mar 2020 22:58:58 GMT

We are all feeling it... You gotta finnd a project, stay busy ... ie, declutter all your closets, try a craft like painting, or drawing, knitting, work on your yard, learn or do yoga, try Suduko, it's fun and really works the mind (YouTube teaches Everything)! Distract yourself and try something new!

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Sapphiregal — Sun, 22 Mar 2020 23:29:05 GMT

@stevieb wrote:
@HLP wrote:
@Sapphiregal wrote:
I know I am not alone with these feelings, but, I just have to say I don't know how much more of this I can take. Our weather has been rainy, cool, and dreary for a solid week. NO SUNSHINE. That alone depresses me. Now, throw in the fact that we are staying home (social distancing.....what a term. SMH...) and everything closed except for grocery stores.Well, I can always hope the sun will come out tomorrow!
I love cloudy,rainy days, could stay in my house for a year and not complain, in fact I like to be home. I have a computer, tv's, washing to do, house to clean, nieces to text, and a sister to call and friends. I worked out of the house all my adult life, and I love home.Quit complaining, I just saw a niece I loved die with cancer, now the sweet boy next door, early 20's just bought the house, just got married, tells me he has bone cancer in his leg.Do you see how sad your lonliness is (SYH}.

I hope you saw her response to your judgmental commentary. It pays to know the lay of the land before assuming others haven't had their own crosses to bear... Most of us have had sad situations to confront, slamming someone for feeling down or for having different perspectives on life than yours, especially under these circumstances, doesn't help anything.

@Sapphiregal I can only tell you that we've had some pretty days here in my neighborhood and I hate to say it, but it doesn't make staying home any easier... If anything, it makes one want to get out a bit more. Even given I'm a bit of a homebody, it's just not natural for most of us to be virtual shut-ins for extended periods of time. I do like some of the suggestions we've seen here about taking a solo drive, stopping to have lunch in the car somewhere unusual and so on... Folks keep saying 'this too shall pass' and we can only hope it does... And soon...

@stevieb

THANK YOU!

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jeanlake — Sun, 22 Mar 2020 23:49:11 GMT

I'm thinking everyone's situation is relative. Hubs is extrovert and retired in January. He's a touch hyper. Today - heavy sighs all day long and beginning to droop. I'm getting ready to isolate from him! He's normally quite confident, and definately active, but today he told me he felt non essential. Half grin, but he just may feel that way. People energize him. I lost my patience and told him to pleeeze stauppp. Then apologized and told him today is last day of rain for a while. Sunshine and mid 50s over the next week. 70s on Wednesday. We'll go for a walk, ride our bikes and do the old people grocery run at 7am. We'll get take out breakfast from our favorite cafe. He brightened up. I'm hoping this week's sunshine will brighten his spirits. Isolation is a struggle for antsy extroverts. No judgement.