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I'M LEARNING

Goodie2shoes — Thu, 20 Feb 2020 19:39:37 GMT

that you really have to be careful what you say on this forum. I am a fun person overall and as I get older I appreciate life more and more so I don't feel that everything I say has to be serious if you know what I mean. I believe in adding humor when you can because you are not promised the next day or hour.

My last 2 posts, one about Valentines day and the other about Knee replacement "victims" (which I am one of them) was taken differently by some unfortunately because it was not ment to degrade others. I realize that everyone has there own opinion about what is said and the way it is said but wow some take things much to serious. I think I will just read and not comment. This is the only forum I read, do you belong to other forums? Same issues? Just wondering.

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chrystaltree — Thu, 20 Feb 2020 19:52:50 GMT

I don't recall your Valentine's Day post but I don't read every post. I answered the TKR post. The thing with humor is that some people aren't going to get it. We might think something is funny, that doesn't mean anyone else will see it that way. That's what happened with "victim", you knew what you meant. No one else would ever get that it was a humorous remark. Don't worry about it. Yes, I do post on other boards and that sometimes happens. I was once accused on some board of using LOL and Smiley☺ faces too much but I do that so that posters will know when I mean something in a humorous way.

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QVCkitty1 — Thu, 20 Feb 2020 19:56:09 GMT

That's why I use emojis when I think there might be a misunderstanding. It's not foolproof, but it can help. 😃

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CelticCrafter — Thu, 20 Feb 2020 19:57:41 GMT

@Goodie2shoes I belong to a couple of crafting groups on Facebook and people can be so mean and brutal of others handiwork.

I know they say don't post if you don't want opinions but come on - just don't say anything!

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chickenbutt — Thu, 20 Feb 2020 20:03:56 GMT

Yeah, it's unfortunate that there are those who seem to revel in either general threadcrapping or insulting others. I've been here since 2004/2005and, at this point, I spend a lot less time here than I used to.

I do much more of my board time on boards where everybody is a grown-up and stuff like that just isn't tolerated. People CAN have different POVs and talk like grown ups without the insults. Just not so much here.

But, the good thing that I imagine you've also discovered here by now is that there ARE a lot of really great peeps here. That is the only reason I come back.

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Goodie2shoes — Thu, 20 Feb 2020 20:04:13 GMT

@chrystaltreewrote: I don't recall your Valentine's Day post but I don't read every post. I answered the TKR post. The thing with humor is that some people aren't going to get it. We might think something is funny, that doesn't mean anyone else will see it that way. That's what happened with "victim", you knew what you meant. No one else would ever get that it was a humorous remark. Don't worry about it. Yes, I do post on other boards and that sometimes happens. I was once accused on some board of using LOL and Smiley☺ faces too much but I do that so that posters will know when I mean something in a humorous way.

The term victim was just making fun of the situation, including myself but others took it to serious. Oh well, that's life

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deepwaterdotter — Thu, 20 Feb 2020 20:04:31 GMT

Expressing my thoughts on this forum only allows me to type words,. Those reading the words do not have the benefit of hearing vocal inflection or seeing facial expressions. This allows for misinterpretation of the words on the screen. I have found that if I type that my words are to be taken in jest, it may alleviate such misunderstanding. This can be accomplished via an emoji (i.e. or ) or an initialism (i.e. LOL or ROTFL).

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Mindy D — Thu, 20 Feb 2020 20:25:35 GMT

@Goodie2shoes wrote:
that you really have to be careful what you say on this forum. I am a fun person overall and as I get older I appreciate life more and more so I don't feel that everything I say has to be serious if you know what I mean. I believe in adding humor when you can because you are not promised the next day or hour.

My last 2 posts, one about Valentines day and the other about Knee replacement "victims" (which I am one of them) was taken differently by some unfortunately because it was not ment to degrade others. I realize that everyone has there own opinion about what is said and the way it is said but wow some take things much to serious. I think I will just read and not comment. This is the only forum I read, do you belong to other forums? Same issues? Just wondering.

You could choose to still post, and just explain yourself if someone misunderstands your intent. I read your previous posts to see what happened, and yes, there were a few that took things in a different way from what you later explained as joking. There were a couple that were not happy about a Valentines' Day, but you explained yourself well. Take your own advice, don't get too serious about this. Let things roll off your back. 🙂

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rms1954 — Thu, 20 Feb 2020 20:09:37 GMT

@Goodie2shoes I saw the Valentine Day one and commented. I felt it was a positive share that you have a loving relationship with your husband and how you celebrate. Most of the time people act immediately in their response based on their emotions, without thinking. They could be in a bad place and it just hits them the wrong way and boom, they make a judgement and it goes haywire. If I get a response that hits me in a negative way, I TRY to ignore it.

I feel most people do not invest time in reading through the responses to get a better idea of what is going on. They just want to make their comment because that's pretty much all they care about -- that being what they need to say. You never know what you're gonna get.

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Porcelain — Thu, 20 Feb 2020 20:22:47 GMT

It happens everywhere. If I think the person is misunderstanding in good faith, I go ahead and do my best to explain. But just because someone asks a question, doesn't mean they deserve an answer.

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Imaoldhippie — Thu, 20 Feb 2020 20:25:05 GMT

@Goodie2shoes ........I go to pet lovers, home, recipes, kitchen, shoes, fashion and sometimes beauty and there is less judgement on those forums. Also under my favorite brand is a list of other forums, tho they are not visited as much they are less critical.

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Lindsays Grandma — Thu, 20 Feb 2020 20:57:35 GMT

@Goodie2shoes ...Boy, did your thread hit a raw nerve. I don't know if you noticed, a day or two ago I submitted, just for the fun of it, a short thread and oh my, the negative responses that hit the boards were unbelievable.

It seems that many people today do not see the humor that is right in front of their eyes and take things way too seriously, resulting in them verbally attacking and insulting the person who submitted the thread/post. I have been on the boards since 2007 and sadly much of the pleasure there once was here has been taken away by the Nay-Sayers.

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KingstonsMom — Thu, 20 Feb 2020 21:22:25 GMT

@Goodie2shoes

Don't stop posting, all posters have been through this on forums.

As someone upthread mentioned, the written word is much harder to interpret without having tone of voice, facial expressions, etc.

After many apologies and clarifications on many threads, I learned that you have to choose your words carefully, to try to convey that you're making a joke.

Another poster here mentioned using emojis to reflect humor, that also helps a lot.

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fthunt — Thu, 20 Feb 2020 21:29:54 GMT

I'm hearing you loud and clear............I've been jumped on more than once. Reader read what they wanted to read and it wasn't even close to my posting.

I think some posters just sit at their computer and can't wait to post something - anything - whether it makes sense or not.

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kaydee50 — Thu, 20 Feb 2020 21:42:51 GMT

@Goodie2shoes IMO, since we do not know who the audience is, I am very careful about what I write here especially when it comes to "humor" which can be misinterpreted. I have censored myself more than once and have tried to make neutral comments and yes, it is a learning experience.

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KingstonsMom — Thu, 20 Feb 2020 21:44:58 GMT

@fthunt wrote:
I'm hearing you loud and clear............I've been jumped on more than once. Reader read what they wanted to read and it wasn't even close to my posting.
I think some posters just sit at their computer and can't wait to post something - anything - whether it makes sense or not.

@fthunt

Agreed.....but you left out those posters that can't wait to start an argument over nothing.

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Drythe — Fri, 21 Feb 2020 01:43:39 GMT

@Goodie2shoes

I have had a TKN on the same knee twice. Thought your post was funny. Ditto the Valentine post.

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fthunt — Fri, 21 Feb 2020 00:05:50 GMT

@KingstonsMom Yes........and that too. One of my post was just a reply about food - so I wrote about Wegman's nice Asian section...........WHAM the reply was what I had against Asian people. (can you believe)

#2 Again just a reply, I wasn't the OP. Re: certain fish from QVC - I just didn't like that kind of fish - bought to try - threw out several prices. WHAM - we struggle with our $$$ and you throw food out!

What? Should I keep it in my freezer for.........4 ever?

Got to walk on Eggs around here.

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blackhole99 — Fri, 21 Feb 2020 00:19:09 GMT

@Goodie2shoes I find it doesn't matter what your intent is when you compose a post, people take what they want from your post and add their own ideas or what they want your post to say. I do that too, but try to stay on post so to speak.

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september — Fri, 21 Feb 2020 00:21:30 GMT

@Goodie2shoes Without being overly cautious about it, I have also learned to think more, post less.

I know of your Valentine's Day thread but not the other. For the former, I remember a majority of the posts (including mine) being very positive. So....do pay more attention to those, although I know the others may take up more space in your head 😊