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DOES IT MATTER TO YOU

Goodie2shoes — Thu, 13 Feb 2020 00:29:36 GMT

whether he gives you a valentine gift on valentines day or days before? I was surprised with a dozen roses, a huge box of chocolates and a very heartfelt valentines card today. I guess I really should not have been surprised because it has happened before. He believes it's best to be early rather than late (retired military man and police officer) I plan on making dinner and dessert for Valentines day because he works late. I love this man so much and he is very very good to me so I just thank him with a big kiss. Anyone else have a guy like that?

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hopi — Thu, 13 Feb 2020 00:36:38 GMT

Heck no....

A loving thought and gift is always appreciated

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Nonametoday — Thu, 13 Feb 2020 00:37:24 GMT

@Goodie2shoes wrote:
whether he gives you a valentine gift on valentines day or days before? I was surprised with a dozen roses, a huge box of chocolates and a very heartfelt valentines card today. I guess I really should not have been surprised because it has happened before. He believes it's best to be early rather than late (retired military man and police officer) I plan on making dinner and dessert for Valentines day because he works late. I love this man so much and he is very very good to me so I just thank him with a big kiss. Anyone else have a guy like that?

@Goodie2shoes I think that is a wonderful idea. We had a friend who was a deacon in our church many years ago. He had talked about a youth group he was started (at church the Sunday night before Valentine's Day the following day). He was so excited about it, he went home (and much to his wife's chagrin), gave his children their valentine's day gifts, played in the floor with them and gave her the jewelry he had bought her. She complained that he had not waited until the following evening when they had planned to go out to eat. He said he just could not contain himself. He was so happy to be with them, play in the floor with them and enjoy the time.

The next day she got a call from his business partner that he had gone to the hospital with indigestion and she was to meet him there. When she arrived, doctors told her he was DOA from a major heart attack. He was 36 years old. So, sometimes even with non-police officers, time is of the most important factor. Your husband is a jewel in the crown. Keep him, savor your time with him. He loves you very much.

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hopi — Thu, 13 Feb 2020 00:37:30 GMT

@ahoymate wrote:
So, are you trying to make others feel bad? Valentine's Day brings up conflicting feelings for most. Single or otherwise.

You have got to be kidding

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ahoymate — Thu, 13 Feb 2020 00:39:19 GMT

hopi, don't you know women like this? No, I'm not kidding.

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Goodie2shoes — Thu, 13 Feb 2020 00:43:13 GMT

@ahoymatewrote:

So, are you trying to make others feel bad? Valentine's Day brings up conflicting feelings for most. Single or otherwise.

In no way would I be trying to make others feel bad !! Sorry you would think that, it's not my personality. Have a great evening

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SeaMaiden — Thu, 13 Feb 2020 00:44:05 GMT

@Goodie2shoes Sounds like you got a KEEPER!❤️❤️❤️ Enjoy your sweet and brave man and Enjoy Valentines Day🙂

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MoonieBaby — Thu, 13 Feb 2020 00:43:44 GMT

Goodie2Shoes,

I just want my usually curt other half to be kind.

V-day or any day really...he's just not a "smiley" kinda guy.

I can BUY MYSELF gifts.

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Happiness Is Inside JOB — Thu, 13 Feb 2020 00:45:20 GMT

@Goodie2shoes wrote:
whether he gives you a valentine gift on valentines day or days before? I was surprised with a dozen roses, a huge box of chocolates and a very heartfelt valentines card today. I guess I really should not have been surprised because it has happened before. He believes it's best to be early rather than late (retired military man and police officer) I plan on making dinner and dessert for Valentines day because he works late. I love this man so much and he is very very good to me so I just thank him with a big kiss. Anyone else have a guy like that?

Ms. Goodie - HOLD On to this man TIGHT. You are lucky. I have coworkers whose husbands/boyfriends don't even acknowledge V Day. I'm lucky that my husband does, I got my ballons today. Bad weather is expected here so we already decided if the weather is bad on friday. WE can eat at home and not go out. Enjoy the time you have with YOUR MAN, time is short for many of us...so each day is priceless.

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SeaMaiden — Thu, 13 Feb 2020 00:45:41 GMT

@ahoymate wrote:
So, are you trying to make others feel bad? Valentine's Day brings up conflicting feelings for most. Single or otherwise.

@ahoymate Having an UGLY day or something? Gezzzzz👎👎

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hopi — Thu, 13 Feb 2020 00:47:23 GMT

@ahoymate wrote:
hopi, don't you know women like this? No, I'm not kidding.

With all due respect, many people get depressed at any holiday. It's not that I don't have empathy but this is a discussion board not a therapy session for Dr. Phil.

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qbetzforreal — Thu, 13 Feb 2020 00:49:52 GMT

@Goodie2shoesIt is always nice to be thought of and remembered. I'm happy to have someone who thinks of me.

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ahoymate — Thu, 13 Feb 2020 00:52:35 GMT

hopi, & other, whoever:

It's not a bad day or depression it's how some women like to elevate themselves at others expense. Surely, you are old enough to have experienced this? High school behavior.

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Drythe — Thu, 13 Feb 2020 00:52:24 GMT

@Goodie2shoes

You’ve got yourself a Good One!

Happy Valentines to both of you, and MANY more!

Let the snark roll off 🦆.

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Sweetbay magnolia — Thu, 13 Feb 2020 00:56:45 GMT

My DH has arranged for his Mom to get flowers tomorrow (2/13) - he wants her to awake on Valentine's Day with them there.

He's "had to run an errand" a time or two, and brought me a gift in advance of the "holiday"; sometimes that's the only way to get it done. But he does it! He's a good guy.

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catwhisperer — Thu, 13 Feb 2020 00:59:53 GMT

@Goodie2shoes....what a sweet, thoughtful man you have. Enjoy and appreciate your early gifts. This is the first Valentine's day in decades that I will not be receiving flowers/gifts, as my DH died several months ago.

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Kitlynn — Thu, 13 Feb 2020 01:04:52 GMT

No it doesn't matter if you get the stuff early or on the day! All that matters is that he thought of you and got you things to show he cares. Our anniversary is on Valentines' Day and it will be thirty three years. My husband always gives me great things and some I get early because he tries to separate the anniversary and Valentine's Day just a little bit. And don't pay any attention to the person asking if you were trying to make others feel bad. It is obvious you are excited about your gifts and you should be.

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gramgrandkids1 — Thu, 13 Feb 2020 01:12:04 GMT

@Goodie2shoes I was cleaning bathroom today when florest delivered an arrangement for me! Small arrangement of cut flowers (no roses). I had the biggest smile because after 46 years I am still pleased to know he remembered and was glad I got them early. Don't go out on 14th...will cook a nice dinner and we will remember how we spent Valentine's thru the years. Sounds like you have a keeper. Enjoy!

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Marp — Thu, 13 Feb 2020 01:19:22 GMT

@ahoymate wrote:

hopi, & other, whoever:
It's not a bad day or depression it's how some women like to elevate themselves at others expense. Surely, you are old enough to have experienced this? High school behavior.

Dear Q posters, it is clear we need some new board rules starting with:

No posting about anything that makes you happy because your happiness might make someone else sad.

Don't post about anything sad or upsetting because it might make someone else feel even worse.

Don't post anything neutral because well, just because.

Don't post! However, rest assured that not everyone will follow this rule so inevitably there will be inquiries and speculation as to why you are no longer posting completing the circle.

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rms1954 — Thu, 13 Feb 2020 01:19:53 GMT

I don't know why the poster would ask a question like that but I'd like to think it was for no other reason than to share. I am glad if you feel loved and cared for and if you don't then I am sorry but hope you can overcome your sadness.

It is the most important thing to have a person who can express their love through respect, kindness, and compassion towards you.

I've been married for close to 35 years to someone who shows none of those things. Six months after we were married he showed his true colors. It was like night/day. The only thing consistant about him is he always lets me down.

Last year I lost my Mom who was emotionally and physically abusive. She showed me no love or support. She reminded me on a day-to-day basis that I was worthless. And up until the age of 18 when I got married and moved out, I heard every day that I was useless and undeserving of love. I am one of six children and she didn't treat any of them that way. I kept it to myself all these years. I was in therapy for a couple years and had depression and PTSD. The other day my husband made the comment "your mother was right." So no it wouldn't matter to me if he treated me to something a couple days before Valentine's Day, but to others it might.

Cherish being with someone who can shower you with love, no matter what day it is.

Wishing ALL of you love.