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Touching....or just too weird?

SeaMaiden — Wed, 12 Feb 2020 19:22:58 GMT

I think it would be healing to me...and quite beautiful. What do you think? I would love to use this to see my Golden Retriever again.

Mother Reunited With Her Deceased Daughter Using Virtual Reality

https://onairwithryan.iheart.com/content/2020-02-11-mother-reunited-with-her-deceased-daughter-using-virtual-reality/?fbclid=IwAR2zcrrLmkjhWAJ_jBDXSugBZwU4S4DFyc3lHQnIpZnziB6_nlWG0XAgxG4

Re: Touching....or just too weird?

MalteseMomma — Wed, 12 Feb 2020 19:25:59 GMT

The film was nice and if it made mom feel better good...

i have lost a beautiful son,but I'm not sure I'd like this.

I do admit I love when a friend posts a picture or memory on FB ,but maybe this feels a bit different to me..............

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KingstonsMom — Wed, 12 Feb 2020 19:26:22 GMT

To me, that would be ungratifying, since you know it's just 'virtual' reality, not actual reality.

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KingstonsMom — Wed, 12 Feb 2020 19:35:38 GMT

@MalteseMomma

So very sorry for the loss of your beautiful son.

{{{{{HUGS}}}}

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mamaslittlepotato — Wed, 12 Feb 2020 19:45:15 GMT

Omg this is so sad. 😢.....It would not be healing to me at all. In fact, it would put me over the edge with grief.

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happycat — Wed, 12 Feb 2020 19:47:42 GMT

It wasn't really her daughter though. I don't think I would care for this.

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Kachina624 — Wed, 12 Feb 2020 19:53:53 GMT

Just no. Absolutely not!

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QueenDanceALot — Wed, 12 Feb 2020 19:56:03 GMT

@mamaslittlepotato wrote:
Omg this is so sad. 😢.....It would not be healing to me at all. In fact, it would put me over the edge with grief.

@mamaslittlepotato

That's how I would feel. My heart would be torn open again.

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Spurt — Wed, 12 Feb 2020 20:16:03 GMT

@MalteseMomma wrote:
The film was nice and if it made mom feel better good...

i have lost a beautiful son,but I'm not sure I'd like this.

I do admit I love when a friend posts a picture or memory on FB ,but maybe this feels a bit different to me..............

@MalteseMomma

So sorry to hear about the loss of your son.....heartfelt condolences.

Re: Touching....or just too weird?

Spurt — Wed, 12 Feb 2020 20:36:10 GMT

To me you are opening something that may make people psychologically turn away from the REAL world and want to stay living in an UNREAL world......What's to say well why not take it a step further and show the daughter growing up....becoming an adult, getting married, having children all done in a make-believe-atmosphere.....The ramifications are SCARY as it could cause society to take a step away from actual reality!!!! ...........Look at how some people are obsessed and over the top with video games.......

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1Snickers — Wed, 12 Feb 2020 20:31:36 GMT

Scary! I can't even watch videos of my deceased dogs!

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SeaMaiden — Wed, 12 Feb 2020 20:35:53 GMT

@Spurt wrote:
To me you are opening something that may make people psychologically turn away from the REAL world and want to stay living in an UNREAL world......What's to say well why not take it a step further and show the daughter growing up....becoming an adult, getting married, having children all done in a make-believe-atmosphere.....The ramifications are SCARY as it could cause society to take a step away from actual reality!!!! ..............

@Spurt The question is WHAT IS ACTUAL REALITY?

Think about it....No one really knows...it is the secret of the universe...

It is the same question we ask ourselves....what happens when we die...

a different reality...? Nothing? Heaven? Hell? Other dimensions?

we do not know what reality is.

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Spurt — Wed, 12 Feb 2020 20:44:55 GMT

@SeaMaiden wrote:
@Spurt wrote:
To me you are opening something that may make people psychologically turn away from the REAL world and want to stay living in an UNREAL world......What's to say well why not take it a step further and show the daughter growing up....becoming an adult, getting married, having children all done in a make-believe-atmosphere.....The ramifications are SCARY as it could cause society to take a step away from actual reality!!!! ..............

@Spurt The question is WHAT IS ACTUAL REALITY?

Think about it....No one really knows...it is the secret of the universe...

It is the same question we ask ourselves....what happens when we die...

a different reality...? Nothing? Heaven? Hell? Other dimensions?

we do not know what reality is.

@SeaMaiden

To me reality is breathing, living, reacting, and doing in our flesh and bones as they exist rather than a world that is superimposed using technology to create the "make believe" which to me is the opposite of reality......JMHO....Im not getting involved in a philosophical discussion "what is life".....that would bring in and incorporate religion which is a "no-no" here on the Forums....

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phoenixbrd — Wed, 12 Feb 2020 21:49:22 GMT

@SeaMaiden Insightful and thought provoking questions that I have reflected/researched for decades of my life. Enjoy conversations with select people who have done the same... never on a forum board.

Regarding your original post: no, I do not believe this method is theraputic. Technology is limiting...and artificial. We could have a profound discussion regarding "reality", but again, this is not the appropriate place and requires particular experiential knowledge.

@SeaMaiden wrote:
@Spurt The question is WHAT IS ACTUAL REALITY?

Think about it....No one really knows...it is the secret of the universe...

It is the same question we ask ourselves....what happens when we die...

a different reality...? Nothing? Heaven? Hell? Other dimensions?

we do not know what reality is.

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cherry — Wed, 12 Feb 2020 21:16:52 GMT

If I need to feel close to loved ones who have passed, the net is the last place I would be looking..I am not interested in virtual anything

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hippiechick7897 — Wed, 12 Feb 2020 21:18:31 GMT

It’s kind of like the people who clone their pets. It’s not the same and feels like you’re not coping with loss/life.

JMHO of course.

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tsavorite — Wed, 12 Feb 2020 21:45:30 GMT

No I don't think it would be "healing" but would inspire more pain and grief. BUT it is up to this mother what is best for her to do...I am just saying for myself I do not feel it would be a good thing.

I only clicked on the link and saw the imagine....I had no desire to look any further that was enough.

Just the other night I was looking at a fun video (animals) on youtube...when I went back to the home page feed a video with a dog that looked like my Maggie was there....I had to click it LOL...I enjoyed watching it...she was a tri color and the dog in the video was a black and tan (cavalier spaniels) so not a exact match but still...my heart warmed...and it was so enjoyable to watch...the silliness of the playing with this puppy.

That video didn't stir up pain but just plain fun and happiness. Doing something with a child wearing virtual reality would be so painful....I can't imagine that being a good idea.

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henderson — Wed, 12 Feb 2020 23:31:29 GMT

We also lost our precious 33 yr old son nine years ago to cancer. For me, I would not do the virtual reality.

@MalteseMomma wrote:
The film was nice and if it made mom feel better good...

i have lost a beautiful son,but I'm not sure I'd like this.

I do admit I love when a friend posts a picture or memory on FB ,but maybe this feels a bit different to me..............

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SeaMaiden — Thu, 13 Feb 2020 00:22:24 GMT

@Spurt wrote:
@SeaMaiden wrote:
@Spurt wrote:
To me you are opening something that may make people psychologically turn away from the REAL world and want to stay living in an UNREAL world......What's to say well why not take it a step further and show the daughter growing up....becoming an adult, getting married, having children all done in a make-believe-atmosphere.....The ramifications are SCARY as it could cause society to take a step away from actual reality!!!! ..............

@Spurt The question is WHAT IS ACTUAL REALITY?

Think about it....No one really knows...it is the secret of the universe...

It is the same question we ask ourselves....what happens when we die...

a different reality...? Nothing? Heaven? Hell? Other dimensions?

we do not know what reality is.
@SeaMaiden

To me reality is breathing, living, reacting, and doing in our flesh and bones as they exist rather than a world that is superimposed using technology to create the "make believe" which to me is the opposite of reality......JMHO....Im not getting involved in a philosophical discussion "what is life".....that would bring in and incorporate religion which is a "no-no" here on the Forums....

@Spurt But maybe....it is not make believe as you call it.....

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blackhole99 — Thu, 13 Feb 2020 00:25:49 GMT

I find that not realistic and it would not help me grieving the loss of a loved one, but if it helps others, go for it. I think maybe this woman needs someone to talk too about the death of her daughter. Many times people will not bring up the death of a loved one because they are afraid of upsetting someone. I know that happened when my brother died and I felt like he was forgotten , we kids never really got over his death.