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Letters

Anonymous032819 — Wed, 22 Jan 2020 01:38:01 GMT

Have you ever written a letter to someone that has passed?

I just finished writing a letter to my dad, and it felt theraputic.

I cried, but at the same time, it felt good to get my thoughts and feelings on "paper".

So, have you ever written a letter to someone who is no longer alive?

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colleena — Wed, 22 Jan 2020 01:52:47 GMT

@Anonymous032819 I envy the relationship you had with your father.

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1Snickers — Wed, 22 Jan 2020 01:52:54 GMT

@Anonymous032819 I haven't written a letter. But, when my mother passed I had bought her a Valentine.
I wrote a note inside and placed in in her casket. I cried !
When I do things that remind me of her(which is often), I'll laugh thinking I'm really like her.

When I repair things sometimes I'll think that my Papa would know how to fix it.
They are always in my heart!

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blackhole99 — Wed, 22 Jan 2020 01:53:42 GMT

No, but it sounds like a good idea if you had issues or just didn't get to say goodbye.

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embgm — Wed, 22 Jan 2020 02:00:19 GMT

I have not written a letter to someone that has passed. My dad passed in June but we had lots of time to talk and share our feelings during the 2 weeks after his diagnosis and before he died. We were close so we had no issues to resolve. However I might take your idea to fruition concerning my sister who died very young. We had lots of ups and downs and I still think perhaps there were things that I could have done differently to ease the tension between us. Em

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cherry — Wed, 22 Jan 2020 02:00:34 GMT

No ,I pray to them ,and ask for their help and prayers.I tell them I love them, and am thankful they are my friends One of my dear friends is someone I frequently ask for help ,in small matters..I believe in communion of the saints ,and the living and the dead are able to pray for one another..to pray means to ask,,it doesn't mean I worship them, because I don't. It is a big source of comfort for me

If a letter brings you comfort, it is a good thing to do

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homedecor1 — Wed, 22 Jan 2020 02:07:25 GMT

No but the passing of my dad (34 years ago) was yesterday -- I had a good day remembering all he was to me, my family and being my best friend.

Everyday something reminds me to "thank" him for the person I am today!

Letters are a great way to put our feelings on paper...and a good cry is healthy (I think) when we remember those wonderful memories!

I have a very special bond with my GD. I supply her with note cards, stamps & we've been "pen pals" since she was 5 or 6 (8 now). Every week or so she writes me a note -- I cherish every one! There is nothing better than a written letter/note from someone.

On days I'm sad & missing her since she lives up north I pick a note -- read it and a better day I have🙂

hugs ....

homedecor1

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happycat — Wed, 22 Jan 2020 02:17:04 GMT

No, but I have talked and prayed to my grandmother numerous times. And other folks also who have passed. I was just closest to my granny and I know she is with me sometimes.

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on the bay — Wed, 22 Jan 2020 04:27:23 GMT

@Anonymous032819 =

Yes, to each one of my granddogs

and my sweet grandcat

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Annabellethecat66 — Wed, 22 Jan 2020 02:43:49 GMT

I write letters to my late husband often.

I talk about conversations we had...just the 2 of us.

I talk about how deeply in love we were.

We were married for 7 years before we had children.

I wanted my daughters, my 7 grNdchildren, one day great grandchildren and soon to know the 2 people who started this wonderful, loving family.

Only 2 grandchildren were born when my husband suddenly died. They were very young at that time.

We are a family who believes in pictures and showing gratitude.

It is important that it be passed down through our family.

So....you bet I write lots of letters. Mostly by hand, dated and saved. Some are tear stained.

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esmerelda — Wed, 22 Jan 2020 02:46:29 GMT

I’m still writing...13+ years later.

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bikerbabe — Wed, 22 Jan 2020 03:02:02 GMT

Awe. Yes, to my mom, especially those first couple of years. Haven’t written one lately.

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threecees — Wed, 22 Jan 2020 03:10:59 GMT

When we buried our family dog in 2013, I wrote to her how

much she was loved and would be missed and taped some

photos on the page. I will never forget that heartbreaking day.

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Georgiagrama — Wed, 22 Jan 2020 03:15:10 GMT

@Anonymous032819

I've never written a letter, but I talk to them all the time, ask for guidance, ask for forgiveness, tell them how much I love them and miss them. When my daughters do something that hurts me, I think of the times I did the same thing to my Mother and how it must have hurt her gentle soul. And, nearly every day of my life, I wish I had followed the wise advice my Daddy gave me. I adored them, but as we all do, we wish we had told them more often, showed them every day how much we loved them.

I'm an old lady and my Daddy passed 20 years ago, my Mother 10 years ago. I was so blessed to have them for so long and I can still feel their love surrounding me, but many days I sure long for just one more hug.

My Mother had a beautiful marble bench put at the gravesite when my Daddy died. It's my place to talk to them, to sit and cry when I change out the flowers.

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NicksmomESQ — Wed, 22 Jan 2020 03:22:24 GMT

I don't write letters but I talk to my mom often. I talk to her about my feelings about what's going on in my life.

I share my joys with mom along with my heartaches. I ask her to prey for me all the time. I believe she holds me up & points me in the right direction.

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LindaSal — Wed, 22 Jan 2020 14:40:52 GMT

For me it's mostly my Memere' that I talk to and ask for guidance. Though both my parents have passed, she is the one I actually dream about. I haven't dreamed about her in a little while now but for many years it was constant. Nice comforting dreams, nothing frightening. My mom always told me if you dream of the deceased that means they are asking for prayers . I say the rosary for all of them once in awhile but I haven't written any letters to them.

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Laura14 — Wed, 22 Jan 2020 14:46:47 GMT

I have a whole journal.

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Carmie — Wed, 22 Jan 2020 20:57:47 GMT

I don't write letters, but I talk to them.

I believe those that have passed are not far away. They are at our side protecting us and guiding us. Our souls never die.

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PamfromCT — Thu, 23 Jan 2020 13:05:28 GMT

@Carmie, Yes, so true. I once heard a statement about our souls, simple but profound.

”We don’t “have” souls. We ARE souls. That has really affected how I view life and others walking the same journey.

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faeriemoon — Thu, 23 Jan 2020 13:37:13 GMT

I have not, nor do I think I ever would.