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Texting as communication

I am still oxox — Wed, 15 Jan 2020 13:55:42 GMT

I make very few call these days, hubby, brother and a friend. My texrs are usually instead of a call and part of a on going converesation.

What bothers me sometimes, I see that a friend reads the text and takes hours to answer. Can any one be so busy not to answer for two minutes

Maybe I am too sensitive

Re: Texting as communication

Travone — Wed, 15 Jan 2020 14:00:11 GMT

Unless it is an emergency, I don't respond until I have time, or am alone. I view the mobile phone no different than the old land line. If someone called me and I wasn't home, they would not get a response until I got home and got their message. I don't let the phone rule my life. Just because it dings doesn't mean I have to respond.

Re: Texting as communication

dex — Wed, 15 Jan 2020 14:03:34 GMT

@I am still oxox wrote:
I make very few call these days, hubby, brother and a friend. My texrs are usually instead of a call and part of a on going converesation.
What bothers me sometimes, I see that a friend reads the text and takes hours to answer. Can any one be so busy not to answer for two minutes
Maybe I am too sensitive

The whole point of texting is convenience for all.You will get a response when they have time.They could be in the bathroom,at the doctors or napping etc.I don’t feel a text message is a top priority unless it is an emergency.

Re: Texting as communication

faeriemoon — Wed, 15 Jan 2020 14:06:13 GMT

I answer texts at my leisure unless they are important. That's the beauty of texting, and it is my preferred means of communication. I don't like to talk on the phone.

Re: Texting as communication

geezerette — Wed, 15 Jan 2020 14:08:32 GMT

Yes, they can be too busy to answer within a few minutes. But there are many other reasons people don't necessarily text back immediately. For instance, I don't keep my phone on my person every hour of every day. It sits in one spot in my house when I'm home and often I don't hear the texts come through. I don't stop every few minutes to see if someone has texted me, either.

It also depends on the person. Some respond relatively quickly, while others do not. I have one friend whose texting patterns drive me crazy. She can initiate a long conversation of back and forth texts, then just all of a sudden quit responding. Or she won't text back for hours or days. Or if I send a series of texts, she will reply to one but not the others.

It's like all other manners: some people have them and some don't.

Re: Texting as communication

KingstonsMom — Wed, 15 Jan 2020 14:17:23 GMT

I don't text at all and my family and friends know not to even bother texting me.

I prefer to hear the callers voice and tone, it's easier for me to determine the context than the written word.

If someone is too busy to speak to me, then they should be too busy to text me.

Just my personal opinion.

Re: Texting as communication

CrazyDaisy — Wed, 15 Jan 2020 14:16:20 GMT

If you are looking for immediate back and forth you need to call. Texting allows for time gaps between responses.

Re: Texting as communication

Preds — Wed, 15 Jan 2020 14:21:16 GMT

I'm with you @KingstonsMom . I don't text. It takes time and effort and I'd prefer a fast phone call. Fast and simple.

Re: Texting as communication

Suzeecat — Wed, 15 Jan 2020 14:29:44 GMT

I figure that ppl will text me back when they can, or when they want to. No big deal. But, I never knew that there is a way to know if someone actually read your text to them!

Amusing side note: I recently saw a news report that ppl now consider it rude if you leave them a voicemail, considering it an inefficient waste of time!

Re: Texting as communication

faeriemoon — Wed, 15 Jan 2020 14:30:23 GMT

@geezerette wrote:
Yes, they can be too busy to answer within a few minutes. But there are many other reasons people don't necessarily text back immediately. For instance, I don't keep my phone on my person every hour of every day. It sits in one spot in my house when I'm home and often I don't hear the texts come through. I don't stop every few minutes to see if someone has texted me, either.

It also depends on the person. Some respond relatively quickly, while others do not. I have one friend whose texting patterns drive me crazy. She can initiate a long conversation of back and forth texts, then just all of a sudden quit responding. Or she won't text back for hours or days. Or if I send a series of texts, she will reply to one but not the others.

It's like all other manners: some people have them and some don't.

I don't either. It's either in my bag or on the counter charging or lying on a table somewhere where I accidentally left it. Some people have it attached to them.

Re: Texting as communication

ValuSkr — Wed, 15 Jan 2020 14:34:24 GMT

I'm with most of the others - if you text me, I'll answer when it's convenient. If you want an immediate answer, you'd better call.

Re: Texting as communication

Mj12 — Wed, 15 Jan 2020 14:35:05 GMT

I have an iPhone and I cannot tell when someone reads a text - must be a different device?

I much prefer texting to a phone call. It's just quicker and easier for me and my group of family and friends. Doesn't replace having a conversation on the phone but I prefer it most of the time.

Except - my husband cannot take his iPhone into his office - has to lock it up in a lockbox at security. That is very frustrating. So some people just cannot reply until several hours later.

Re: Texting as communication

Peaches McPhee — Wed, 15 Jan 2020 14:39:53 GMT

How can you see that they've read it? Delivered doesn't mean they looked at it. Honest question, I'd like to know!

That said, alot of people don't want to be tied to immediate communication for non-urgent things. I know I don't.

Re: Texting as communication

I am still oxox — Wed, 15 Jan 2020 14:42:27 GMT

@Peaches McPhee

I have one of two messages after the text with Delivered or Read at xxxx time. Many people just look at the text and never open it

@Peaches McPhee wrote:
How can you see that they've read it? Delivered doesn't mean they looked at it. Honest question, I'd like to know!

That said, alot of people don't want to be tied to immediate communication for non-urgent things. I know I don't.

Re: Texting as communication

Cakers3 — Wed, 15 Jan 2020 14:44:20 GMT

@I am still oxox wrote:
I make very few call these days, hubby, brother and a friend. My texrs are usually instead of a call and part of a on going converesation.
What bothers me sometimes, I see that a friend reads the text and takes hours to answer. Can any one be so busy not to answer for two minutes
Maybe I am too sensitive

@I am still oxox You are too sensitive.

Re: Texting as communication

jeanlake — Wed, 15 Jan 2020 14:48:10 GMT

Combo here - Email, text, phone. It just depends on what's preferred with people I communicate with.

When phone works best, it's nice to put call on speaker phone and carry on tasks. And of course, bluetooth in vehicles is so convenient.

I love emailing with friends whom I don't see often. So easy to catch up with email or attach photos or links. Individual or group emails.

My family does group texts since we're scattered around the country. Funny memes and just checking in. Exchange of quick info.

The convenience of texting is amazing. It's how my manager wants us to 'call in' if we won't be in the office or running late. He's quick to respond.

I prefer texting with my sis. She's retired and can go on and on over the phone about negative things. It's getting worse. She's bored. I do less phone calls with her. Love her, but oy vey.

Re: Texting as communication

gidgetgh — Wed, 15 Jan 2020 14:51:23 GMT

@Peaches McPhee wrote:
How can you see that they've read it? Delivered doesn't mean they looked at it. Honest question, I'd like to know!

That said, alot of people don't want to be tied to immediate communication for non-urgent things. I know I don't.

@Peaches McPhee and others. Go to settings, then messages and then turn on "send read receipts". When that is turned on, people can tell if you've read a text.

When you SEND a text, if the recipient has it turned on on their end, you'll see "read" when they read your text. If they don't have it turned on, you won't.

Re: Texting as communication

Preds — Wed, 15 Jan 2020 14:52:16 GMT

@jeanlake wrote:
Combo here - Email, text, phone. It just depends on what's preferred with people I communicate with.

When phone works best, it's nice to put call on speaker phone and carry on tasks. And of course, bluetooth in vehicles is so convenient.

I love emailing with friends whom I don't see often. So easy to catch up with email or attach photos or links. Individual or group emails.

My family does group texts since we're scattered around the country. Funny memes and just checking in. Exchange of quick info.

The convenience of texting is amazing. It's how my manager wants us to 'call in' if we won't be in the office or running late. He's quick to respond.

I prefer texting with my sis. She's retired and can go on and on over the phone about negative things. It's getting worse. She's bored. I do less phone calls with her. Love her, but oy vey.

I had to laugh @jeanlake . DH prefers to text with his sis for the same reason. She can talk for hours. Even her texting takes a long time because she goes on and on. LOL

Re: Texting as communication

VanSleepy — Wed, 15 Jan 2020 14:58:58 GMT

I was texting with my sister and my texts to her would show 'Read'. I never noticed that before with her or anyone else. She had just gotten a new phone, so I warned her that she better not try the old "Oh, I'm sorry. I didn't see your text" with anyone lol

Re: Texting as communication

happycat — Wed, 15 Jan 2020 14:59:42 GMT

I get to them when I can. I spend a lot of time outside walking my dogs. I cannot do long texts and walk them at the same time.