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New Resolution

QVCkitty1 — Mon, 30 Dec 2019 18:37:02 GMT

I will preface this by saying this is my fault, and I know better. I hereby resolve to not comment on stupid things I read on Facebook. You just can't have a reasonable discussion, without being call something vile and disgusting. However I opened this nasty portal by responding, so my new resolution is to stay off Facebook unless it involves, book, recipes, or cats. I think I can keep this one.

Re: New Resolution

Nbo — Mon, 30 Dec 2019 18:39:38 GMT

I gave up Facebook,Twitter in 2017. It was too toxic.

Re: New Resolution

Grouchomarx — Mon, 30 Dec 2019 18:43:56 GMT

@Nbo wrote:
I gave up Facebook,Twitter in 2017. It was too toxic.

I did the same thing! It was toxic for me. Not healthy in any way. I do ocassionally feel disconnected from society without any social media. But really I don't need it.

Re: New Resolution

phoenixbrd — Mon, 30 Dec 2019 18:45:52 GMT

@QVCkitty1 I understand your concern. Even with the kind and positive posters there are certain topics discussed best on supportive boards/social media. Wishing you a Happy New Year!

Re: New Resolution

QVCkitty1 — Mon, 30 Dec 2019 18:49:29 GMT

@phoenixbrd wrote:
@QVCkitty1 I understand your concern. Even with the kind and positive posters there are certain topics discussed best on supportive boards/social media. Wishing you a Happy New Year!

I feel that this board is a reasonable place, where I won't be called a a word that means woman who sells her body, because I don't agree with them.

Re: New Resolution

Krimpette — Mon, 30 Dec 2019 18:50:18 GMT

I only do Facebook to view pictures of family and a close friend and her family. Plus Anna Griffin for paper crafts. I never initiate a Facebook post but I do comment on family pics.

Re: New Resolution

itsmagic — Mon, 30 Dec 2019 19:07:55 GMT

I closed my Facebook account a couple years ago and don’t miss it at all.

Re: New Resolution

Kachina624 — Mon, 30 Dec 2019 19:08:32 GMT

2020 is probably the best of all years to stay away from Facebook.

Re: New Resolution

phoenixbrd — Mon, 30 Dec 2019 19:09:13 GMT

@QVCkitty1 I agree with you. I have found this board to be kind and supportive and I doubt you would have that experience here.

@QVCkitty1 wrote:
I feel that this board is a reasonable place, where I won't be called a a word that means woman who sells her body, because I don't agree with them.

Re: New Resolution

FrostyBabe1 — Mon, 30 Dec 2019 19:19:45 GMT

I use Facebook (and Twitter) and have never been called names or felt threatened. I've been involved in some spirited discussions, but that's as far as it's gone. Those who name call only show how unprepared they are to defend their point of view.

Quite frankly, even though it's subtle and couched so as to get around moderation, in my experience, I find this place to be far more toxic and full of nastiness than what I've encountered elsewhere.

Re: New Resolution

sidsmom — Mon, 30 Dec 2019 19:53:00 GMT

SPOILER ALERT:

YOU, the user, have 100% control over what you see.

It's not the 'portal'....FaceBook/Twitter/etc.

It's who you choose to associate with.

Funny to see people make this sweeping declaration saying

Facebook & Twitter is 'toxic'...and I even heard 'cesspool'.

in another thread. That says more about the user than it does

about the social media platform.

Re: New Resolution

qbetzforreal — Mon, 30 Dec 2019 19:57:07 GMT

@QVCkitty1- Good luck and best wishes with your resolution!

Re: New Resolution

QVCkitty1 — Mon, 30 Dec 2019 20:01:01 GMT

@sidsmom wrote:
SPOILER ALERT:

YOU, the user, have 100% control over what you see.
It's not the 'portal'....FaceBook/Twitter/etc.
It's who you choose to associate with.

Funny to see people make this sweeping declaration saying
Facebook & Twitter is 'toxic'...and I even heard 'cesspool'.
in another thread. That says more about the user than it does
about the social media platform.

@sidsmom , Did you read my post ? I took responsibility for engaging, and I simply won't do that anymore. I have seen some of the worst of society represented in SM comments.

Re: New Resolution

proudlyfromNJ — Mon, 30 Dec 2019 20:12:26 GMT

Why would anyone have these toxic people as your friends? I have all of 32 friends on FB. These are close friends and family. None get toxic. I had one friend who posted political posts and religious ones. I didn’t want to defriend her but I have hidden her posts so they don’t appear on my page.

If one of my friends posted something that created nasty posts, I would either hide their posts or defriend them.

I guess I am lucky that my family and friends are not toxic.

Everyone can control what comes on their page. I am also on the FB page for my town. Learn what’s going on, lost pets, road closures, etc.

Re: New Resolution

sidsmom — Mon, 30 Dec 2019 20:16:26 GMT

@QVCkitty1 wrote:
@sidsmom wrote:
SPOILER ALERT:

YOU, the user, have 100% control over what you see.
It's not the 'portal'....FaceBook/Twitter/etc.
It's who you choose to associate with.

Funny to see people make this sweeping declaration saying
Facebook & Twitter is 'toxic'...and I even heard 'cesspool'.
in another thread. That says more about the user than it does
about the social media platform.
@sidsmom , Did you read my post ? I took responsibility for engaging, and I simply won't do that anymore. I have seen some of the worst of society represented in SM comments.

@QVCkitty1

Yes, I did.

Curious tho....what is a 'nasty portal?'

Re: New Resolution

CelticCrafter — Mon, 30 Dec 2019 20:21:49 GMT

I've only had to unfriend 3 people in 10 years.

One was too mean and nasty.

Another was getting stalkerish.

The third was having medical issues - started a $20,000 fundraiser on FB looking to cover his medical bills and then he would post that he was a fast food place 3 or 4 times a week or at Target and Walmart buying clearance toys he thinks will be collectors items.

If I don't like what's being posted or said I will put a person on snooze for 30 days or unfollow them for a time. If it hasn't changed I unfriend them.

Re: New Resolution

MandyG06 — Mon, 30 Dec 2019 20:23:32 GMT

@QVCkitty1 I love the, "and cats" But, I agree with you, all forms of social media are 'challenging'. I have two sassy cats and I do enjoy those cat memes!

Re: New Resolution

Grouchomarx — Mon, 30 Dec 2019 20:27:05 GMT

@sidsmom wrote:
SPOILER ALERT:

YOU, the user, have 100% control over what you see.
It's not the 'portal'....FaceBook/Twitter/etc.
It's who you choose to associate with.

Funny to see people make this sweeping declaration saying
Facebook & Twitter is 'toxic'...and I even heard 'cesspool'.
in another thread. That says more about the user than it does
about the social media platform.

I think you are wrong. I have seen when you post something harmless, funny or just plain cute and someone comes for you. It is not justified and you were not asking for it. So that is an example of how it can be toxic. You put out good energy and get poison in return. It can come from friends and relatives too.

Re: New Resolution

NicksmomESQ — Mon, 30 Dec 2019 20:36:52 GMT

I recently "unfollowed " a close friend on FB. She was reposting vile political stuff.Didn't need the aggravation of looking at it.

She recently asked me what I thought about the picture she posted of her grandkids.I told her I didn't see it because I unfollowed her. After I told her why she said she was offended that I did that. I told her that she has every right to post/re post anything she wants.But that I have the right not to see it,period.

I IMO FB has become a cesspool.I don't post anything personal or political ever. I basically just check it once a week.Sometimes I may "like" something posted by friends.

Re: New Resolution

sidsmom — Mon, 30 Dec 2019 20:33:33 GMT

@Grouchomarx wrote:
@sidsmom wrote:
SPOILER ALERT:

YOU, the user, have 100% control over what you see.
It's not the 'portal'....FaceBook/Twitter/etc.
It's who you choose to associate with.

Funny to see people make this sweeping declaration saying
Facebook & Twitter is 'toxic'...and I even heard 'cesspool'.
in another thread. That says more about the user than it does
about the social media platform.
I think you are wrong. I have seen when you post something harmless, funny or just plain cute and someone comes for you. It is not justified and you were not asking for it. So that is an example of how it can be toxic. You put out good energy and get poison in return. It can come from friends and relatives too.

Are you talking about the list of friends you have with FB/Twitter/etc?