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Thank you notes

gramgrandkids1 — Fri, 27 Dec 2019 18:07:41 GMT

Do you write/receive hand written thank you notes? I like to write thank you notes. Even when I get gifts that are not my taste I feel I need to thank the person that gave it. If it is a hygiene product (lotion, bath gel etc) I donate it to our women's shelter. Last year I received several thank you notes as a text message and that was fine.

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Travone — Fri, 27 Dec 2019 18:10:57 GMT

This is very timely. I just wrote 2 notes this morning. Two friends took me out to dinner for my birthday and gave me gift cards. I sent each of them a hand written note.

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SeaMaiden — Fri, 27 Dec 2019 18:16:36 GMT

I still write them when the situation comes up.... mail them off...

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FrostyBabe1 — Fri, 27 Dec 2019 18:19:15 GMT

i only write them if I'm not able to thank the giver in person at the time that the gift is given. Even then, I'm more likely to send an email or text message than sit down and write a note. After hand writing nearly 500 thank you notes for memorial gifts when my Dad passed away, I'm over it. Yes, yes, I know. Surely I was raised in a barn with no manners or appropriate breeding, but that's how I do it. Since we no longer exchange gifts in our family, it's not a problem.

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chrystaltree — Fri, 27 Dec 2019 18:20:18 GMT

I only send thank you notes or cards when someone from out of state or out of the country has sent me a gift. If it's someone I see often, I send a thank you text or email. I honestly don't believe that how you feel about the gift matters at all. A gift you hate deserves a thank as much as a gift you love. In situations where I am exchanging gifts with people, face to face. I don't follow up with another thank you. Like when our group gets together for our holiday luncheon in January, we exchange gifts. We open them while we are together and we thank each other in person.

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QVCkitty1 — Fri, 27 Dec 2019 18:47:17 GMT

I send and receive thank you notes.

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TaylorBrown — Fri, 27 Dec 2019 18:50:47 GMT

Yes, I do send thank you notes. I have chiuldren and make sure that they send them too.

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bathina — Fri, 27 Dec 2019 18:58:47 GMT

Attended a wedding shower and wedding (same bride) in early summer. Gave $300 in cash between the two events. Never heard a word.

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PINKdogWOOD — Fri, 27 Dec 2019 19:24:43 GMT

My dear sweet Dad was a faithful letter writer. When I was little living in NJ and G'Parents lived in OH, every Sunday after breakfast he sat at the desk upstairs in a spare room and wrote - actually printed a letter to them. After I grew up and we all moved to OH, I lived out of town and he sat a different desk and printed me letters. Oh how I wish I had them to read over again....

I digress....yes when we (me and 2 sibs) were little (again in NJ) never a Christmas went by that he didn't call each of us to the desk and hand write or print as best we could, thank you notes to our G'Parents. Of course the opposite happened after we moved to OH and wrote thank you's to the relatives we left behind in NJ.

There is nothing as easy and for sure as very special to send out very important thank you's for loved ones. They feel good too!

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Porcelain — Fri, 27 Dec 2019 19:29:14 GMT

I prefer thank you calls. Much more fun and detailed to give and receive.

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Spurt — Fri, 27 Dec 2019 19:30:58 GMT

I thank the giver in person, but I always like to send both

in-town and out of state gift givers one of those cute Jacquie Lawson email cards that also includes a personal note....not only thanking them for the gift, but letting them know how much I enjoyed their company over the Holidays.....Now there's only 5 people I exchange gifts with these days so it doesnt take much time and effort....

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Miss Pepsi — Fri, 27 Dec 2019 19:33:47 GMT

I always send them, its just common courtesy in my opinion.

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MarkeieMark — Fri, 27 Dec 2019 21:07:49 GMT

Just sent one before Christmas. Great post.

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Anonymous032819 — Sat, 28 Dec 2019 04:56:14 GMT

If a person is giving me a gift, or taking me out to dinner, I thank them in person, as soon as the deed has been done.

If I am mailed a gift, I will either call the person and thank them, or send an email and thank them.

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speedy girl — Sat, 28 Dec 2019 06:17:10 GMT

Always send a Thank you note for any gifts I am given. I enjoy it as I like the giver to know how much I appreciate the thoughtfulness. Taught my kids to write them too as soon as they could print!

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sissel — Sat, 28 Dec 2019 06:27:32 GMT

Our family lives back east so my DD has always send thank you notes so they know the gift was sent. She has done this since she was young. I will say I have sent wedding gifts but the thank you came 6 months later. Just understand someone that lives far away we just want you to know you got the gift. Just let us know you got it. I now just write a check so knowing it was cash I know you got it.

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Carmie — Sat, 28 Dec 2019 10:19:10 GMT

I haven't written a thank you note for many years. I have quite an assortment of thank you notes at the ready, but I do not receive gifts from anyone and never get to use them.

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shoptilyadropagain — Sat, 28 Dec 2019 13:26:17 GMT

I send TY notes but very rarely receive them. I've started not giving further gifts to those that don't send them.

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Somertime — Sat, 28 Dec 2019 13:41:46 GMT

I'm old fashioned. If someone cared enough to take the time to send me something, I can take the time to thank them for their kindness with a handwritten note. I use a correspondence card which for me is the right size. Enough to thank them and a short note.

If it is a gift of flowers, I take a picture and send a text but I follow up with a handwritten note.

In this day and age, younger people do not send handwritten notes, some do not even acknowledge it, no note, no text, no email, no phone call. So rude and so inconsiderate.

As long as my gift is acknowledged either by text, phone call or email, I am satisfied.

I do not understand the lack of acknowledgement. It bothers me as well when an RSVP is required and there is no response and you have to chase them down to find out if they are attending. Manners do not seem to count any longer. Sad, really.

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tototwo — Sat, 28 Dec 2019 13:53:16 GMT

I handwrite and mail thank you notes. Even if I was able to thank them face-to-face. My mother trained me well - ha.

I agree with @Somertime. Writing letters and notes is becoming a lost art. Younger generations don't take the time.