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holiday sadness

lovescats — Sat, 07 Dec 2019 18:32:47 GMT

I think we all have memories that bring a small sadness to the holidays this time of year.

I miss going shopping with my one sister on a crisp sunny December day and going out to eat.

Share your memories if you want to.

Re: holiday sadness

QVCkitty1 — Sat, 07 Dec 2019 18:37:28 GMT

I know people always say this, but my mom was my best friend. We loved the holidays, planning, shopping, decorating, just being together. I was just decorating my tree, and found an ornament that reminded me of her, and I had a little cry.

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Terrywu — Sat, 07 Dec 2019 18:38:15 GMT

I seem to get sad when I think of how my 6 grandchildren have grown. I loved all the stocking stuffers and how excited they were to open their gifts. All grown now and their Christmas lists consist mostly of gift cards.

We do stilll have tradition of taking a group pix of them with whatever holiday costume I purchase. Headbands, hats, glasses. Whatever. Happy Holidays to all!

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Misplaced Parisian — Sat, 07 Dec 2019 18:40:35 GMT

I miss helping my beloved maman in the kitchen and hearing my beloved father sing. My parents taught me to appreciate, honor the moment. Whenever we were together, we celebrated.

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Ruby Laine — Sat, 07 Dec 2019 18:41:54 GMT

I miss Christmas Eves with extended family members in a small town. They had a huge house. We stayed a couple doors down the street in my grandmother's house. My other grandparents were close by. I attended midnight mass with all of them in a beautiful church. Those of us surviving are still very close.

Yours is a sweet post, @lovescats.

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Witchy Woman — Sat, 07 Dec 2019 18:44:56 GMT

@lovescats

I've had to battle back depression more than ususal the last few months.

There are more things I miss than not.

Thought of my mom yesterday and how she used to go through so much trouble to decorate our house. We had a huge picture window, and it was like she was decorating a department store picture window.

My sis and I used to take the bus into St. Louis to shop. It cost $1 to ride and there was one bus stop in our tiny little town. We loved looking at the stores during the holidays.

She's still with me, but in Northern, NJ, so no shopping trips.

So much has passed....I do get sad thinking of all the years and people gone by.

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Love my grandkids — Sat, 07 Dec 2019 18:45:22 GMT

@Misplaced Parisian I must tell you, I love the word "maman." As a young girl I began reading lots of books that had French words and phrases so I got a Berlitz book of French vocabulary and began looking them up.

I'm 71 now and still enjoy seeing French words and phrases when reading. Hope to see more from you.

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chrystaltree — Sat, 07 Dec 2019 18:54:39 GMT

I think, as we age and start losing people, we all have those feelings. For me, it's my mother. She passed away 15 years ago and I think of her every day of my life. I especially miss her at this time of the year. Thanksgiving and Christmas were our time. We cooked together, decorated together, shopped together. She liked to give cookies, mini banana bread and mini gingerbread to people for Christmas gifts and she and I baked up a storm. Christmas is fun and wonderful, it's my favorite time of the year but it has not been the same since I lost my mother.

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chrystaltree — Sat, 07 Dec 2019 18:56:32 GMT

@Terrywu

I love the costume idea! It must be so much fun. I'm going to keep that in mind for when my grands get a little older.

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Misplaced Parisian — Sat, 07 Dec 2019 18:56:47 GMT

@Love my grandkids Merci, mon petit chou! I greatly appreciate your comment as it touched my heart. She was the best and I miss her greatly. Thank you for your kindness and for sharing your joy in French words. I love it. Have a wonderful day.

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Love my grandkids — Sat, 07 Dec 2019 19:11:57 GMT

@Misplaced Parisian Aw, that's so sweet. I've never been called a little cabbage or cream puff, depending on the translation but I like it. I once looked up the meaning and the significance of cabbages and roses and storks, very sweet story.

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Spurt — Sat, 07 Dec 2019 19:27:15 GMT

@QVCkitty1 wrote:
I know people always say this, but my mom was my best friend. We loved the holidays, planning, shopping, decorating, just being together. I was just decorating my tree, and found an ornament that reminded me of her, and I had a little cry.

@QVCkitty1

Although I have 3 close friends that are like sisters to me, and am close to my sister, I always loved to get together with my mom....whether it was checking out our favorite book store, or visiting quaint shops we had so much fun...especially the holidays, we loved to decorate our homes for Christmas, bake cookies, and shop and just being together....There are special ornaments and a couple of Christmas pieces that I inherited when she passed that always bring a few tears to my eyes when I bring them out each year...

I sure do miss her.....

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Misplaced Parisian — Sat, 07 Dec 2019 19:20:55 GMT

@Love my grandkids To the French it means "my little sweetheart". I adore the phrase and use it for people who have touched my heart. Smiles.

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Thats Me — Sat, 07 Dec 2019 19:25:14 GMT

Yes this post is so poignant for me, too. I lost my mother just over 4 years ago and it has been so difficult. I miss her every day. She was the closest person to me. The only comfort, and it's a huge one, is in knowing she doesn't suffer anymore. For that I'm so grateful. Thanks for this opportunity to express! I'm lucky to have family and friends though we're all scattered now, but still miss my mother so terribly. Holidays are tough.

Re: holiday sadness

QVCkitty1 — Sat, 07 Dec 2019 19:28:12 GMT

@Spurt wrote:
@QVCkitty1 wrote:
I know people always say this, but my mom was my best friend. We loved the holidays, planning, shopping, decorating, just being together. I was just decorating my tree, and found an ornament that reminded me of her, and I had a little cry.
@QVCkitty1

Although I have 3 close friends that are like sisters to me, and am close to my sister, I always loved to get together with my mom....whether it was checking out our favorite book store, or visiting quaint shops we had so much fun...especially the holidays, we loved to decorate our homes for Christmas, bake cookies, and shop and just being together....There are special ornaments and a couple of Christmas pieces that I inherited when she passed that always bring a few tears to my eyes when I bring them out each year...

@Spurt , It's hard, but at least we have good memories, have a great holiday. ❤️🎄❤️

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Spurt — Sat, 07 Dec 2019 19:34:40 GMT

@QVCkitty1 wrote:
@Spurt wrote:
@QVCkitty1 wrote:
I know people always say this, but my mom was my best friend. We loved the holidays, planning, shopping, decorating, just being together. I was just decorating my tree, and found an ornament that reminded me of her, and I had a little cry.
@QVCkitty1

Although I have 3 close friends that are like sisters to me, and am close to my sister, I always loved to get together with my mom....whether it was checking out our favorite book store, or visiting quaint shops we had so much fun...especially the holidays, we loved to decorate our homes for Christmas, bake cookies, and shop and just being together....There are special ornaments and a couple of Christmas pieces that I inherited when she passed that always bring a few tears to my eyes when I bring them out each year...

@Spurt , It's hard, but at least we have good memories, have a great holiday. ❤️🎄❤️

@QVCkitty1

A friend told me its hard but with time you have so many wonderful memories to cherish....and that is true. You have a great holiday too...

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deepwaterdotter — Sat, 07 Dec 2019 20:02:47 GMT

It bothers me that my memories are fading away as the years progress. But it may be a good thing too in that so many of my memories are of happy times spent with family and friends during the holidays. When I smell the sweet aroma of Christmas cookies I smile at the memory of making goodies with my Mother and Grandmother. I choose to believe that this memory makes them smile too up in Heaven. How fortunate that we can all get such happiness from these memories, wherever we may be..

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Love my grandkids — Sat, 07 Dec 2019 20:11:22 GMT

@Misplaced Parisian Merci, mon ami (is that correct)? Thank you so much.

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FlyersGirl — Sat, 07 Dec 2019 20:15:58 GMT

I get very sad around the holidays and this year seems especially bad.

This will be the 10th holiday season since my Mom died and it has not been easier as time passes. My brother, who is only 48, has been very sick and I am not sure of how much time he has left.I am praying for a miracle for him.

I have mobility issues right now, (hoping to get this resolved in the new year) so it has been difficult for me to get get around and enjoy anything holiday related. I guess I am hosting my own personal pity party. And I know that is not right, I should be positive and thankful for so many things, but it just doesn't feel "good" right now.

My Mom made the holidays so special for my family and I would give anything for just one more minute with her.

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Mersha — Sat, 07 Dec 2019 20:27:47 GMT

I tried to spend as much time with my grandmother that I could when I was a child. She was my rock and so very dear to me.

My grandmother, her sister and I would get get "dressed up" to go to our local town to do Christmas shopping. It was so much fun to ride the streetcar there. Of course, growing up in Pittsburgh it would most likely be snowing.

The town, lamposts and windows were decorated and so beautiful. I remember looking at it all in awe. After we did our shopping, we went to Isaly's for ice cream or hot chocolate.

It makes me sad to think those times are so distant but they will remain with me forever.