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CrazyKittyLvr2 — Mon, 30 Sep 2019 17:11:09 GMT

10 years? Where do I begin. At 58 I had no major health issues.I took no meds. I liked being out and about. Liked dressing up, make-up the whole nine yards. I had energy to spare. I liked cooking and having people come for get togethers.

Fast forward 10 yrs., when I hit 66 everything on me started falling apart. I don't give a rat's backside about clothes, make-up, shopping or going out (other than meeting 3 friends for dinner monthly). I don't cook much anymore. The thought of entertaining exhausts me.

I have done a 180 concerning pretty much everything.

Anyone else change a lot in 10 relatively short years?

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nana59 — Mon, 30 Sep 2019 17:13:26 GMT

@CrazyKittyLvr2 wrote:
10 years? Where do I begin. At 58 I had no major health issues.I took no meds. I liked being out and about. Liked dressing up, make-up the whole nine yards. I had energy to spare. I liked cooking and having people come for get togethers.

Fast forward 10 yrs., when I hit 66 everything on me started falling apart. I don't give a rat's backside about clothes, make-up, shopping or going out (other than meeting 3 friends for dinner monthly). I don't cook much anymore. The thought of entertaining exhausts me.

I have done a 180 concerning pretty much everything.

Anyone else change a lot in 10 relatively short years?

i feel the exact same way....

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kaydee50 — Mon, 30 Sep 2019 17:21:57 GMT

We used to love cruising. Started about 15 years ago in my early 50s. Took about 20 cruises in that period of time. Just returned from a 14 day Alaska cruise and couldn' wait to get home. Cruising has changed and so have we.

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Tyak — Mon, 30 Sep 2019 17:28:44 GMT

I've got a few years on the OP and my health is behind any change in what I do or don't do compared to even just a few years ago. My feet are shot and joint problems have put a big halt on the amount of walking I can do or even want to do. (Hurting will do that to you.) I do still care about clothes, makeup, etc. but traveling is a thing of the past and so is shopping. And I certainly am not a social butterfly, I like my own company a lot more than ever. I like getting out with friends but I'm always glad to get home again. Give me a good book and I'm a happy camper!

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Suzeecat — Mon, 30 Sep 2019 17:36:13 GMT

What a great question! Ten years ago my world was imploding - divorce, foreclosure, bankruptcy. I have since purchased a nice little condo for myself and rebuilt my retirement fund a bit. I was diagnosed with a thyroid condition and glaucoma to add to my high blood pressure, but nothing that a pill (or eye drop) can't control. I remain happily single and my two sons each found lovely wives. I have friends, hobbies and a job that I hope to be able to walk away from in the next few years.

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kitcat51 — Mon, 30 Sep 2019 18:05:01 GMT

Started volunteering 11 years ago at a State Park making goodie bags for children's events & wanted to do more so for the last 10 years I'm volunteering 6 days a week at hospitals & involved in groups that give a handup not a handout. It's funny but I've found helping others helps me too & I appreciate the opportunity. Yes I'm older, slower, grayer, crinkled, sagging & not into having a perfect home like before but I'm OK with that & me. Interesting thread @CrazyKittyLvr2...be well.

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Mz iMac — Mon, 30 Sep 2019 18:05:36 GMT

Got non-committal engaged....

Purchased a new car w/cash...

Letting hair grow out from a shaved butch crew cut & taking good care of same. Most people don't recognize me now. Hair has grown to mid-back & still growing. My barber has been asking customers if any of them have seen me. I am thinking about going back to barber for a trim which I need badly.

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Ketra — Mon, 30 Sep 2019 18:06:59 GMT

I know exactly how you feel. The person I once was, outgoing, social and phyisically active no longer exist since I became chronically ill. I have had to learn to accept this new person and not be so hard on her. You also learn very quickly who you can count on to still be there once you can no longer do what you once could. There’s not that many. I’m happy for every day I wake up, can experience natures beauty, and all the small things that make being alive wonderful.

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kitcat51 — Mon, 30 Sep 2019 18:11:35 GMT

I'm interested @Mz iMac...what's a non commitial engagement? Enjoy your new car.

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Mz iMac — Mon, 30 Sep 2019 18:21:54 GMT

@kitcat51My condition--> No promise to marry but will be monogamous. He agreed.

He's 10 yrs younger. ~~Easier to train.~~

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Mom2Dogs — Mon, 30 Sep 2019 18:24:14 GMT

I don't think a lot has changed for me in 10 years, I am 64, I am very lucky as is dh, we are healthy (he is late 70's) and are still working, by choice. I think I still have the same energy I did 10 years ago, but I am now able to not worry about getting everything done right away as I once did.

Since I am not in the office every day I don't spend all day Saturday doing a top to bottom house clean and laundry, which is nice. I get quite bored if it's my day off and I have nothing to do so spreading things out thru the week works for me.

Once winter hits and I am in the house, I will do a deep clean, after Christmas. That will keep me busy.

We never were much for entertaining but did on occasion have friends over but over the years, people moving, divorce, death, that social side of my/our life has changed. I don't remember the last time I had 'people' in for a meal, except Christmas.

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Financialgrl — Mon, 30 Sep 2019 18:28:59 GMT

I used to travel a lot with 2 friends (both were older than I am) and we all were a good fit - took scheduled breaks to rest, liked the same type restaurants, etc and both died 2 years ago.

Last year I went on a 5 day family trip to New Orleans with my younger brother/SIL. We walked everywhere and I couldn't keep up, the wait and lines at the airport bothered me. As I'm getting older I find I no longer have the patience I did when I was younger.

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deepwaterdotter — Mon, 30 Sep 2019 18:32:42 GMT

Ten years ago I had just retired and was looking upon the next chapter of my life. In the intervening years I have joined a political discussion group at the local library that I find very stimulating. I enjoy cooking, cleaning, and serving at my church's community meals. On election days, I drive a large van to the polls to enable those who need a ride a chance to cast their vote. Of course I experience the 'aches and pains' of advancing years, but that is just nature taking its toll. I try to stay as active as possible in both mind and body.

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Mz iMac — Mon, 30 Sep 2019 18:43:01 GMT

"Of course I experience the 'aches and pains' of advancing years,"

I hear this statement just about every day. Folks act like its to be expected. At what age should I expect these aches & pains??? My 95 yr old mother is still waiting for them to appear. My siblings & I who range in age 60-69 are still waiting. My father who was 92 when he passed never had them either.

Genetics?

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violann — Mon, 30 Sep 2019 18:44:09 GMT

Ten years ago I was retired, weighed almost 270, could hardly stand or walk for more than 5 minutes, constant symptoms from fibro and chronic arthritis.

After my 2nd son married (I have 2 amazing DILs), I realized that if I didn’t get it in gear, I’d be a stodgy, groany, whiney grandma who would never be able to get up and go.

Soooooo- I lost almost 90 pounds, and have now lost about 12 more, did 4 stage shows, had surgery to correct a crossed eye, and started playing the tuba.

I’m having a BLAST and enjoying every minute I get to spend with my kiddies! I play in a band and we do concerts about once a month.

Complaints? Yeah, I admit to a few BUT I don’t have enough time to worry very much about them.

I was born before FDR died.

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Kachina624 — Mon, 30 Sep 2019 18:50:17 GMT

As they age, many women begin to lose spouses and long-time friends through death. I think this affects them mentally with depression which also affects them physically. It takes a strong will and extreme effort to pull one's self out of this funk, resume normal activity and go on with life. Not feeling well makes it even harder. Please, if you find yourself in this situation, discuss it with your doctor. Thete is medication that can make a world of difference in your outlook. Counseling can also help and can get you off on the right foot. You may not even know youre suffering from depression until you recover.

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ALRATIBA — Mon, 30 Sep 2019 18:53:12 GMT

Ten years ago I was still working. I'm now retired.

Ten years ago, I was a blonde. Now I'm not - but similar hair cut.

Everything else is personal .....

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Free2be — Mon, 30 Sep 2019 18:55:08 GMT

I refuse to give in to my (73) age, if I stop it might catch up with me. I always feel better when I put on a little makeup and get out of the house for any reason. My goal to get through the dreary rainy upcoming months is to get out of the house at least every other day even if to get one or two grocery items and if I have on a little makeup and good hair, even if thinning, that's all the better. I've refreshed my closet with some new clothes and a little jewelry, there's no excuse for me to not get out, act like I'm alive and enjoy fresh air and life while I can. Eternity is trying to sneak up from the back end here and I'm having none of it!

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nana59 — Mon, 30 Sep 2019 19:45:14 GMT

at 69....chronic arthritis pain, psoriasis, and severe hidradenitis have sucked the life out of me...i'm not the person i used to be....and i'm trying to accept it....but most of the time it's very hard for me to do that......

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CrazyKittyLvr2 — Mon, 30 Sep 2019 19:03:19 GMT

When my Mom was my age (68) physically she was fine. No aches or pains. She was constantly in motion. Her health started failing in her late 70's and she died at 82.

When my Dad was my age he walked several miles a day. He would do some in the morning and go again in the evening. He got sick (cancer) and from first symptom was gone in 3 months. He was 74.