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10 years my junior. Yay or nay?

Ditzydori — Fri, 13 Sep 2019 22:25:06 GMT

I met a wonderful man who is 10 years my junior. I'm 65 and he's 55. At first I just said no this will never work and I'm just too old. But he absolutely doesn't care and we get along wonderfully. He's like my best friend. We laugh and just love being together and talking, talking and talking

Needless to say I've come to terms with out age difference. Truthfully I don't think we look all that far apart. I keep myself looking good as best I can, and he has grey hair at his temples. Lol. He's adorable.

Just curious would it bother you to be dating such a younger man? I never thought of myself as a cougar, but I guess I am. Lol

Re: 10 years my junior. Yay or nay?

ItsME — Fri, 13 Sep 2019 22:31:11 GMT

Easy. Go for it!

Edited to answer your last question... I have dated up to 9 years my junior. It didn't make me a cougar. i was a little younger that you.... 52-53, so he was early 40s. It bothered me more than it would now.... I'm your age, and neither 65 or 55 is young anymore, although I still feel young! My guy was fun, but turned out to be not so great a guy.

If you've got a keeper, keep him and enjoy your times together.

Re: 10 years my junior. Yay or nay?

IslanderGirl62 — Fri, 13 Sep 2019 22:26:50 GMT

My husband is 9 years younger than me - the age difference was never an issue for us.

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Grouchomarx — Fri, 13 Sep 2019 22:27:30 GMT

It would never bother me! If it feels right that’s all that matters. Good for you! Enjoy your time together.

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FrostyBabe1 — Fri, 13 Sep 2019 22:27:46 GMT

Nope. In fact, I much prefer men that are younger than me over those that are older. My only deal breaker is that I won't date someone who still has kids at home.

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Still Raining — Fri, 13 Sep 2019 22:27:50 GMT

Growling 🐆 You go girl!

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Chicagosuburbangirl — Fri, 13 Sep 2019 22:28:33 GMT

Yay, for sure.

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MyShadowLove — Fri, 13 Sep 2019 22:29:04 GMT

@Ditzydori ...A Definite YAY!...Much Happiness To You Both!

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Trinity11 — Fri, 13 Sep 2019 22:31:31 GMT

@Ditzydori ...enjoy yourself and don’t give your age difference a second thought. Compatability is what’s important and it sounds like age isn’t an issue.

For myself, I am married 44 years to a man 5 1/2 years older than myself. If he was 10 years younger, it would not bother me because like your relationship, we laugh together and have a lot of fun...age has nothing to do with it.

Re: 10 years my junior. Yay or nay?

SilleeMee — Fri, 13 Sep 2019 23:04:59 GMT

Ten years is really nothing when you get up there in years. It would be a different story for someone much younger.

A 'cougar' woman is a woman who has a relationship with a man who is significantly younger than herself. I would not consider 10 years significant when you look at the age group, especially.

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Daysdee — Fri, 13 Sep 2019 22:34:52 GMT

I say "go for it." Don't think I could do it, but I don't plan to date again anyway.

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Susan Louise — Fri, 13 Sep 2019 22:42:44 GMT

@Ditzydori wrote:
I met a wonderful man who is 10 years my junior. I'm 65 and he's 55. At first I just said no this will never work and I'm just too old. But he absolutely doesn't care and we get along wonderfully. He's like my best friend. We laugh and just love being together and talking, talking and talking

Needless to say I've come to terms with out age difference. Truthfully I don't think we look all that far apart. I keep myself looking good as best I can, and he has grey hair at his temples. Lol. He's adorable.

Just curious would it bother you to be dating such a younger man? I never thought of myself as a cougar, but I guess I am. Lol

@Ditzydori Go for it...be happy...age is only a number. DH is almost 8 years younger than me and we met online-yahoo chat 21+ yrs ago...been married almost 20 years. I'll be 60 by the end of the year and he is 52

Re: 10 years my junior. Yay or nay?

CLHS68 — Fri, 13 Sep 2019 22:40:16 GMT

Why Not. My Aunt was 10 years older than my Uncle and my mom was 10 years younger than my dad. So it can work either way. Age is just a number.

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Mz iMac — Fri, 13 Sep 2019 22:42:23 GMT

Age is just a number.

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Maestra1 — Fri, 13 Sep 2019 22:44:47 GMT

Have a wonderful time with your special friend!

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GAQShopr53 — Fri, 13 Sep 2019 22:44:52 GMT

As long as your happy...Go Cougars!!!

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Susan Louise — Fri, 13 Sep 2019 22:44:55 GMT

@Mz iMac wrote:
Age is just a number.

@Mz iMac When I 1st saw your new avatar I got creeped out. Thankfully I'm getting used to it now...LOL

Re: 10 years my junior. Yay or nay?

spiderw — Fri, 13 Sep 2019 22:45:57 GMT

I married a man 15 years younger and we were happily married for about twenty years. In my case I believe age had something to do with our breaking up but it was not the main reason. I am a private person and am not going to discuss what happened to the marriage. Let's say he married for the wrong reasons and it wasn't that he didn't love me.

With that being said, I think you should enjoy your relationship with this man and if you are happy and compatible, that is what matters. From what you say, you are already great friends and that is always a positive start.

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AuntG — Fri, 13 Sep 2019 22:46:50 GMT

There is no good reason for my answer, but I'm not in favor. You should follow your heart however.

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ECBG — Fri, 13 Sep 2019 22:51:38 GMT

I wouldn't even register 10 years as a difference and neither would any counselor for that matter. At this part of life, with this number of years between you, nothing says you will not have a great path together.

The thing is you want to be in the same "part" of life. A 30 wouldn't be happy with a 65 in most cases. She is just beyond the beginning of her career, may want children (may have a late nesting feeling kick in) and he is looking at retirement homes and looking at life insurance. What on earth would they talk about.

(I know it's been done, but a normal, healthy marriage isn't created there).

What's holding you back?