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Pre Nups. Just for conversation.

Warrior2022 — Sun, 08 Sep 2019 23:33:49 GMT

I have never agreed with pre nups, but I have never been faced with anything like that.

I'm watching Marrying Millions when I have time. A few couples are now talking Pre nups. One couple has been together 5 years and have a child and now want to marry. His father is pressing for a Pre nup. She is angry, but I agree with her.

On a side note, my stepmother and father have been married 35 years and she claims my father had her sign one. He says no and neither of them have any money anyway. So who knows. lol. or cares.

Just wondering other thoughts.

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January121 — Sun, 08 Sep 2019 23:37:18 GMT

Depending on the situation a prenup might be necessary .... 😃

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NicksmomESQ — Sun, 08 Sep 2019 23:37:50 GMT

I think pre nups are important if you’re either worth a lot of money or get married later in life & you have family that you want to look out for.

Young people just starting out in life don’t need one.

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Goldengate8361 — Sun, 08 Sep 2019 23:38:25 GMT

I think they're essential. Betteryet, just don't get married. I've personally never liked the idea of marriage as a concept. The world would be much better without it.

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FrostyBabe1 — Sun, 08 Sep 2019 23:44:51 GMT

At this point in my life, I wouldn't consider getting married without a pre-nup in place! Certainly, I'd hope that most people don't enter a marriage with idea of what might happen to their assets if it doesn't work out, but I'm also a firm believer that you've got to protect yourself and everything you've worked for.

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ItsME — Sun, 08 Sep 2019 23:43:55 GMT

I agree with @NicksmomESQ . Just starting out, if nobody has anything, I wouldn't do it. For an older couple, absolutely necessary.

ETA... @FrostyBabe1 was writing as I was. I'm in full agreement with her as well.

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NicksmomESQ — Sun, 08 Sep 2019 23:46:53 GMT

@Goldengate8361 wrote:
I think they're essential. Betteryet, just don't get married. I've personally never liked the idea of marriage as a concept. The world would be much better without it.

@Goldengate8361 You’re certainly entitled to your opinion.I respectfully disagree. I think marriage is a wonderful thing. However, I know that it isn’t for everybody.To each their own.

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sidsmom — Sun, 08 Sep 2019 23:49:53 GMT

It’s definitely needed!

Just wise money management.

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Goldengate8361 — Sun, 08 Sep 2019 23:50:16 GMT

@NicksmomESQ I think long term, loving relationships are wonderful. But "marriage" is a completely different, separate concept. Just wanted to make sure I wasn't misunderstood.

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Carmie — Sun, 08 Sep 2019 23:51:17 GMT

If you are older or have money or property, a pre-nup is essential.

If you have nothing starting out, it is not necessary for most people.

I know of couples who should have had a pre-nup and didn't. Sometimes marriages don't work out and you could lose everything you worked for. Some people marry to get ahead. It is sad, but it happens.

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deepwaterdotter — Sun, 08 Sep 2019 23:51:25 GMT

Husband and I signed one over 25 years ago.

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libbyannE — Mon, 09 Sep 2019 00:10:59 GMT

It depends on the situation. Older people with assets to protector for their heirs probably need prenups.

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Bri369 — Tue, 10 Sep 2019 19:09:16 GMT

It totally depends on the situation.

When I got married 24 years ago, it wasn't necessary.

I would definitely get one at this stage of my life to protect myself and my children.

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GenXmuse — Mon, 09 Sep 2019 00:41:33 GMT

Neither of us had anything when we married, not even enough for a lawyer to even draw one up but I can see why it’s necessary in many circumstances

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Tinkerbell3 — Mon, 09 Sep 2019 01:08:13 GMT

There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a prenuptial agreement. In the case of the couple on the show you are referring to, that girl should ABSOLUTELY sign it! This is family money and she should be happy to sign it! Even in the case of divorce, she would get alimony and child support. She has NO right to his money!

She's 25 years old, a child!

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millieshops — Mon, 09 Sep 2019 01:35:26 GMT

I'm in favor of pre-nups for couples who have assets and families from previous marriages. I've never given mich thought to pther circumstances.

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MamaWick — Mon, 09 Sep 2019 01:40:16 GMT

While sometimes necessary, I personally feel a prenup is planning for failure.

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qvcaddition — Mon, 09 Sep 2019 01:48:15 GMT

@FrostyBabe1

@FrostyBabe1 wrote:
At this point in my life, I wouldn't consider getting married without a pre-nup in place! Certainly, I'd hope that most people don't enter a marriage with idea of what might happen to their assets if it doesn't work out, but I'm also a firm believer that you've got to protect yourself and everything you've worked for.

Had I not gotten a pre but just to save my home for my children, I would have lost it. The marriage lasted seven years. I saved the home which was mine before marrage. He came in with nothing. Did my own divorce and he kept his stuff and I kept mine.

He did try to make me take equity out of the home. I refused. Later learned, he wanted to pay back chi!d support. When you get in your later years, you sometime get desperate, so along comes a smooth talked and you go for it.

If we were young and starting out together, no need for a pre nup.

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NicksmomESQ — Mon, 09 Sep 2019 02:39:53 GMT

@Goldengate8361 wrote:
@NicksmomESQ I think long term, loving relationships are wonderful. But "marriage" is a completely different, separate concept. Just wanted to make sure I wasn't misunderstood.

I understood your point exactly.We just have different opinions about marriage.

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ALRATIBA — Mon, 09 Sep 2019 03:14:31 GMT

If I were asked to sign a pre-nup, my answer would be "good-bye."