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Anyone lonesome tonight

halfpint1 — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 02:28:32 GMT

Wish I had someone to talk to. Kitties are sleeping. Plenty of movies recorded but I just can't get into them. Noise Ibelieve from maybe the attic or ac but no one can tell me anything what is. Been going nuts with this noise for a long time. what do you do if alone-tired of crosswords that I had found in the house. Spent too much money this last week. No walk tonight for I walked up to the clinic for a blood test and other . See what it means next week at the doctors. Thanks for letting me get it out.

Re: Anyone lonesome tonight

Anonymous032819 — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 02:36:06 GMT

We are here for you @halfpint1 , but maybe you should join a senior center, where you can make new friends.

As to the "noise" you have had many, many, many people, check out your home top to bottom, inside and out, and no one has heard this noise. Your son included.

It is not tinnitus, because you've been check for that.

It's an auditory hallucination, meaning the noise is coming from inside your brain.

Your brain is creating the noise but that noise does NOT exist in reality, otherwise others would have heard it by now.

This "noise" doesn't even bother your cats.

Have you even told your doctor that you are hearing things that no one else can hear?

But, please, consider joining a senior center.

There they have many activities, and you'll have plenty of people to talk to.

Re: Anyone lonesome tonight

4kitties — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 02:39:01 GMT

Hi halfpint! I am sorry you are feeling lonely. I am just sitting here in my recliner with my iPad reading the forums. Maybe turn on one of your movies or just a radio and the noises will be less noticeable to you. I use the tv at night to keep me company sometimes when I cannot sleep.

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Desertdi — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 02:39:39 GMT

@halfpint1 Neighbor of mine had some really strange noises, too. Turned out to be a woodpecker trying to destroy the chimney pipe. Naturally, the bird flew away when anybody came to look. It took a while before the woodpecker was "caught in the act."

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blackhole99 — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 02:40:37 GMT

@halfpint1 wrote:
Wish I had someone to talk to. Kitties are sleeping. Plenty of movies recorded but I just can't get into them. Noise Ibelieve from maybe the attic or ac but no one can tell me anything what is. Been going nuts with this noise for a long time. what do you do if alone-tired of crosswords that I had found in the house. Spent too much money this last week. No walk tonight for I walked up to the clinic for a blood test and other . See what it means next week at the doctors. Thanks for letting me get it out.

@halfpint1 I'm never lonesome, but I do get bored and I'm nosey so that's why I come to the forum. You should always be able to find someone to chat with here. Sorry you have a problem with hearing things, that can't be a good feeling especially if it frightens you. I like to spend money too and can spend too much at times.Walking certainly is good exercise, hope your blood work is normal, getting older certainly is not for sissies.

Re: Anyone lonesome tonight

chiclets — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 02:48:05 GMT

I can not be with you but I can send you a warm hug.

Many times I feel lonely and when I do I listen to the TV or radio just to hear someone speaking. I do not care what they are talking about, that does not matter, I just want the sound of someone or something being there with me. Maybe you can do the same.

Maybe you had a long day and are overtired. Try to relax and try to think of nothing and who knows you may fall asleep.

I have to leave now, but good night and have a good day tomorrow.

Re: Anyone lonesome tonight

Trinity11 — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 02:48:19 GMT

@halfpint1... I am not lonesome tonight but in your current situation, I can really empathize. It isn't easy living alone and I know I would not be able to do it. In your situation I would need to be around people so I would probably move to a retirement community where there were plenty of activities and people to talk to.

I think at times we just have to make some life decisions and go ahead with them. I think you are clearly a "social" person and don't adapt well to living alone. I think we are sisters at heart....

Re: Anyone lonesome tonight

KathyM23 — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 02:48:46 GMT

@halfpint1 Have you thought of selling your house and using the funds to purchase an "apartment" in a senior complex. They have various levels of living - 1 bedroom or 2 bedroom, living room, kitchen- assisted living if needed but not necessary.

Dining room, transportation services, some have library. Not sure what is available in your area, but this sounds like a perfect solution for you. Never be lonely again - they are filled with people of your similar age with whom to socialize, activities.

I have a relative who purchased a lovely apartment in one and is very happy with it. I have visited and it is a warm, friendly home to enjoy your senior years. How it works is on your passing a portion of the purchase price is returned to your estate and the "apartment" resold.

Re: Anyone lonesome tonight

halfpint1 — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 03:08:14 GMT

Thanks for answering but I will never move unless I have to. I am a very shy person and only had a few friends in the neighborhood growing up. Minnesota. Sandy snuck put again-my shelter cat can't for get I guess she was maybe a little wild. Gotta go see and convince her to come back in.

Re: Anyone lonesome tonight

Catiele — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 03:12:28 GMT

Oh girl you are not alone by a long shot. Many of us have the same feelings you have. As we get older unfortunately there are more. Sometimes are worse than others. Tonight I feel sad and lonely for different reasons. Hope tomorrow is better for both of us.

Re: Anyone lonesome tonight

CAcableGirl2 — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 03:13:02 GMT

@halfpint1 with someone always on these boards, you can always check in and someone will respond.

I was thinking of you the other day and the noise that you had posted about that no one seems to hear but you. I have a friend at work that had a bad infection (needed dental work), and he kept hearing noise. After finally going to the doctor (after having the dental work done) the doctor told him that the infection had made his brain overcompensate for the loss in his hearing and it was producing the sound he was hearing.

They suggested "pink" noise.

I hadn't heard of "pink" noise, just "white" noise, so I looked up the definition.

What's the difference between white and pink? They both cover all the frequencies that the human ear can hear, but the intensity of pink noise decreases as frequency increases. So whereas white noise can sound like static or a hiss, pink noise is smoother and more soothing across all frequencies.

There is an app that will produce pink noise and also a 9 hour video (no video, just noise), on you tube if you want to check it out. I would keep it very low if using it for sleeping.

Re: Anyone lonesome tonight

Daisy Sunflower — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 03:15:01 GMT

Consider reading a cozy mystery series. It's fun to browse through the many themes. Halloween is coming up -- what about Halloween cozies?

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esmerelda — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 03:22:21 GMT

Go to bed. Tomorrow will be better.

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RedTop — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 03:31:37 GMT

@halfpint1,

I’m sorry you are lonely tonight and not able to find something to do to keep you entertained.

Do you have any games you can play on your computer? I always liked to play solitaire, and could also play asteroids for hours at a time. I do word search puzzles on my computer every day. I also like to color with coloring books and crayons; just never grew out of it, and coloring is very relaxing for me. If I’m stressed, I can pull out my coloring books and crayons, and within no time I’m in a much better place mentally.

One of my big secrets is that on nights when I feel I’m not ready to sleep, I pull out my favorite childhood toy, which was jack rocks, and play on my dining room table until I’m ready to go to bed! 63 year old woman playing jack rocks, but it makes me happy, relaxes me, and brings back lots of fun childhood memories.

Reading that your two kitties are sleeping soundly, tells me they hear nothing in your house, and they are not afraid. I don’t believe there is a noise in your attic; I have always thought you are not comfortable living alone since your husband passed, and you have too much time to think about things. My grandmother and my aunt had problems adjusting to living alone; I know I’ve written about that before. It took awhile, and they needed meds to calm their anxiety, but they did work thru it. My grandmother lived alone nearly 25 years after my Papaw died. When she was scared, she’d go to bed, pull the covers over her head, and talk herself thru it until she fell asleep.

Sending best wishes and prayers of peace for you tonight!

Re: Anyone lonesome tonight

DianeJ2 — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 03:37:21 GMT

Hi @halfpint1 hope you got Sandy in for the night. I have rescued feral cats and they just loved to try to make a run for it at night! I absolutely understand being shy yet tired of the same quiet routine. Keeping the tv on tonight is comforting noise for sure. Glad you are coming here to vent, you are not alone as you see, we all can relate. Tomorrow i hope you have a nice walk if you go. Just wanted to wish you a good night. 💖

Re: Anyone lonesome tonight

ECBG — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 03:37:52 GMT

Hello! I just finished an "I'm sorry I choose that movie" movie. Checking on the forums before I iron for work tomorrow.

I hope you've found relaxation by now.

Thank you for letting me visit.

Re: Anyone lonesome tonight

Mersha — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 03:57:17 GMT

Halfpint, I am sorry you feel alone.

Hopefully, you will feel better soon and find your peace.

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PamfromCT — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 04:07:59 GMT

@halfpint1, I hope you can take some comfort that so many wonderful people here care about you. And you do have your little kitties, which is a blessing.

So many good suggestions here for things to do alone. Maybe you could pick one at a time and try it. I hope you will get some rest tonight. Everything always looks better in the morning.

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Sooner — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 04:08:14 GMT

@halfpint1 wrote:
Thanks for answering but I will never move unless I have to. I am a very shy person and only had a few friends in the neighborhood growing up. Minnesota. Sandy snuck put again-my shelter cat can't for get I guess she was maybe a little wild. Gotta go see and convince her to come back in.

@halfpint1 There are places that do not make you interact with others. Where you can eat in your own place, but have people around if you are lonely or afraid and want to interact with them.

You would be free from cooking, laundry, making appointments, needing to go somewhere where you can't walk, and free to do as you like.

My mother was terrified at home because she heard things in the night--noises and thought the phone was ringing when it wasn't. She said she would rather die than move.

Well, it finally got so bad she HAD to move. She is happier now than she had been in many years. Her worries and the things she worried about are pretty much gone now.

She is not the social butterfly either and doesn't often participate in activities. But if she is lonely, she goes out to talk to others.

Change is never easy, and it is scary always whether you are moving to a new town, going to college, or just buying a new house. But you might start making a list of the pros and cons, and doing some investigating about what is available if you do need to move sometime. That way you would have more choice into the decision than if, like my mom, it reached a crisis and the decision had to be made very very soon. She got lucky.

Re: Anyone lonesome tonight

GenXmuse — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 04:11:22 GMT

I don’t think she’s looking for suggestions.