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How do you respond to Workplace Rudeness

stargazergal — Tue, 28 May 2019 03:22:29 GMT

What is the best response to someone who show's a total lack of disregard

to a Co Worker I have seen people leave this place of employement

I have seen people stick it out for as long as they can and watch it ware

them down.

I myself........ have pondered my future because of the roller coaster ride.

I love my job, I love the team. I am as positive going in, but it is tough

to witness a rude behavior towards employees that dedicate so much

to this place of employment. We never know what kind of mood she is

going to be in. It's like walking on eggshells.

Any words of wisdom ? Any stories to tell ?

Re: How do you respond to Workplace Rudeness

Snowhite714 — Tue, 28 May 2019 04:35:08 GMT

@stargazergal wrote:

What is the best response to someone who show's a total lack of disregard
to a Co Worker I have seen people leave this place of employement
I have seen people stick it out for as long as they can and watch it ware
them down.
I myself........ have pondered my future because of the roller coaster ride.
I love my job, I love the team. I am as positive going in, but it is tough
to witness a rude behavior towards employees that dedicate so much
to this place of employment. We never know what kind of mood she is
going to be in. It's like walking on eggshells.

Any words of wisdom ? Any stories to tell ?

@stargazergal Are you able to share anymore info, how is she rude to you and other employees? We're all adults why not speak to her about the situation? Don't you have a Human Resources department? Although my experience with HR is that they are a useless bunch in most situations.

Re: How do you respond to Workplace Rudeness

BeccaLou — Tue, 28 May 2019 04:56:34 GMT

Stand Tough and don't let anyone chase you away. Only leave if you have to. I have been there and I stuck it out and usually the trouble maker gets fired, or they leave because they are just an unhappy indiviual.

Re: How do you respond to Workplace Rudeness

Anonymous032819 — Tue, 28 May 2019 05:56:30 GMT

I need more information before I can offer a solution.

Just exactly how is this person rude?

Re: How do you respond to Workplace Rudeness

Foxxee — Tue, 28 May 2019 06:09:05 GMT

Is this person one of your coworkers or in a management position?

If the person's not in a management position, how'd he/she get so much power? It would seem this person would have been given the power by coworkers because they are afraid to stand up to this person. They are afraid to do anything that will upset this person. Well, too bad!

Sounds like a controlling personality.

Need more information about this person and the situation in your work environment before I could offer suggestions.

Re: How do you respond to Workplace Rudeness

Desertdi — Tue, 28 May 2019 08:05:19 GMT

I ignored them, and they quit trying to get me "riled up"........

Re: How do you respond to Workplace Rudeness

Theresa1121 — Tue, 28 May 2019 09:34:17 GMT

@stargazergal wrote:

What is the best response to someone who show's a total lack of disregard
to a Co Worker I have seen people leave this place of employement
I have seen people stick it out for as long as they can and watch it ware
them down.
I myself........ have pondered my future because of the roller coaster ride.
I love my job, I love the team. I am as positive going in, but it is tough
to witness a rude behavior towards employees that dedicate so much
to this place of employment. We never know what kind of mood she is
going to be in. It's like walking on eggshells.

Any words of wisdom ? Any stories to tell ?

I live this story every day but it involves more than rudeness and more than one person. My work environment is simply horrible and after almost 9 years of working there I got the nerve to call HR and report my boss's behavior but my suspicians were true and the groundwork was already being laid that I am the problem. In hindsight am I sorry I called HR, no, what I told them needed to be said but again I am beyond disappointed that my well being was never even discussed. I must mentally prepare myself every day to go there and try to keep my head up but it is very difficult. I have to believe that goodness will prevail but it is hard being patient and it does takes it's toll on a person as you said to "be walking on egg shells." Sounds like this person you mention is not qualified for the job or has not or never will be found out. Today's workplace is very difficult and I can retire soon and cannot phathom job hunting and starting over so I grin and bear it. I keep a copy of the Serenity Prayer in my drawer . I read a lot and most of what is see says it is time to move on but again, that is not in the cards for me unless a crisis happens. Good luck to you.

Re: How do you respond to Workplace Rudeness

AngelPuppy1 — Tue, 28 May 2019 09:42:16 GMT

Don't know what is going on so hard to be really specific but I can say that I have been in a work setting where a worker that was near me made if very difficult for me to work every day. Everyone thought this person walked on water and had everyone buffaloed, so there was no one to speak to about this person's behavior. I just had to tough it out. Eventually --- and this was after a very long, hard period, this person finally left. After that, my work life felt like heaven! If there is someone you can speak to about it, then by all means do so. If not, and you feel you can take it, then I would say, just try as hard as you can to distance yourself from it and focus on you and your job and your abilities and do the job the best you can and be your usual competent and wonderful self! I would never let anyone chase me out of a job that I wanted or needed. If, however, you try to get this resolved and cannot, and it is affecting your health, then I guess you might need to consider looking elsewhere for employment. No job is worth destroying your mental and/or physical health.

Re: How do you respond to Workplace Rudeness

qualitygal — Tue, 28 May 2019 11:05:26 GMT

Can you make a sideways move and find a job doing the same thing, elsewhere?

Re: How do you respond to Workplace Rudeness

CalminHeart — Tue, 28 May 2019 11:16:24 GMT

Have you documented what happens with times and dates? That's the first thing I'd do.

One thing I did when my boss called me an old idiot was to ask her to not use those kinds of words. I was super professional and used a soft tone of voice, not weak voice but soft since my voice tends to carry. She stopped that day but went right back to it the next day.

I worked at a big corporation for nearly 40 years. The last year was the worst of my life. New management became the abusers and bullies.

I was also a manager and took a lot of the same ****** because I refused to to do the same to my teams.

It was nothing for the other managers to yell, call names, ridicule, punish for perceived wrongs, and generally mistreat people....all in public as well as private. People cried and were stressed out every day. It became a horrible place to work.

Then I started getting age comments - I was the oldest manager. My own boss was the worst. She lied about me on my last performance review (I refused to sign it) and cut me out of the annual bonus. I filed an age discrimination/harassment claim with HR but they were more interested in protecting the company than me.

I retired the day I turned 62 because my pension was 100%. I worked parttime in customer service at a grocery store until recently and loved it. So freeing!

My attorney looked at my documentation - a very large box of it - and said I had a good lawsuit. But, did I really want to spend 2+ years in litigation? I chose to move on. But I have saved the documents.

Re: How do you respond to Workplace Rudeness

Imaoldhippie — Tue, 28 May 2019 11:25:23 GMT

More info needed, like is she rude to everyone including you? In workplace politics its best to keep your nose out of it unless you are involved.

Re: How do you respond to Workplace Rudeness

deepwaterdotter — Tue, 28 May 2019 11:29:38 GMT

A comfortable pair of sneakers.

Re: How do you respond to Workplace Rudeness

sidsmom — Tue, 28 May 2019 11:42:57 GMT

If it’s a large company, call your Human Resources for advice.

If it’s a small company, that’s a tough one.

Words of wisdom:

Keep a detailed journal of what’s happening so if/when management

asks for more information, you can provide.

But like many upthread...details of this situation would help.

What is being described as ‘rude’ behavior?

Re: How do you respond to Workplace Rudeness

AuntG — Tue, 28 May 2019 11:48:29 GMT

A big plus is you like your job and team. Ignore the beast! Also, all the talk about documenting the behavior and going to HR can pretty much be disregarded. HR is working for your company so their focus is on preventing lawsuits. If you have a claim that could meet the legal definition of harassment of discrimination, then HR is the place to go, but if you have a rude boss, forget about it.

Re: How do you respond to Workplace Rudeness

ECBG — Tue, 28 May 2019 11:51:16 GMT

I complained about a terribly rude woman that was just put on our team when I was at Belk.

I talked with HR and had documentation. We head a meeting with the team and because of her jealousy of my success, I was threatened.

I told them what I thought and they lost ther top seller!

Re: How do you respond to Workplace Rudeness

songbird — Tue, 28 May 2019 11:55:26 GMT

I only had one bad experience with a rude person, who unfortunately was my boss. I stuck it out. I wanted to keep my job. The sun smiled on me one day. I came in and I was told she was fired. Had great experiences ever since.

Re: How do you respond to Workplace Rudeness

Pook — Tue, 28 May 2019 12:00:22 GMT

@stargazergal Like others stated, it's hard to give advice when it's not clear what is happening. Is this person in a position of authority over you and your team or is it just that this person is so rude to everyone or just one particular person? Is the rudeness directly affecting your job or just something that you observe.

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dex — Tue, 28 May 2019 12:08:47 GMT

I thought bullying was no longer tolerated.I would ask that person to stop.

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RetRN — Tue, 28 May 2019 13:24:47 GMT

In this day and age if you need the job, the best thing to do is grin and bear it. Only other option is find another job. I would never go to HR, they are not your friend and you could end up being the one left out in the street.

Re: How do you respond to Workplace Rudeness

chrystaltree — Tue, 28 May 2019 13:31:44 GMT

You gave us a lot of words but you didn't actually say anything. Which is strange. Examples would help.