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Exes as Friends

CherryHugs — Sat, 18 May 2019 10:19:10 GMT

I am still friends with a few ex boyfriends and we text each other and was friends with my ex husband, that died recently. He had moved out of town a year before he died.

Are you still friends and in touch with any of your exes?

Re: Exes as Friends

Winkk — Sat, 18 May 2019 10:59:45 GMT

I don't have any ex's to keep in touch with.

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Mombo1 — Sat, 18 May 2019 11:09:04 GMT

@CherryHugs wrote:
I am still friends with a few ex boyfriends and we text each other and was friends with my ex husband, that died recently. He had moved out of town a year before he died.

Are you still friends and in touch with any of your exes?

Absolutely... my ex husband is still family to everyone. We have a nice relationship. After all, he is my daughter’s dad, and the grandkid’s granddad. We divorced 30 years ago but remained very good friends. I think it is better to maintain healthy relationships rather than live in the past. Good to hear you are still friends with ex boyfriends. A good support system after a loss such as yours is priceless.

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Sweetbay magnolia — Sat, 18 May 2019 11:23:43 GMT

No. Some were long ago, and I don't maintain "friendships" with men besides DH, and his best friend.

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Chicagosuburbangirl — Sat, 18 May 2019 12:08:17 GMT

Interesting question.

No, but none of my ex's, the very few there were, could be called serious.

I am old fashioned and believe those relationships have a season and both of us have moved out of that season to begin another, with someone else.

I also believe keeping that ex close can causes discord with your current mate or the mate of the ex.

Your current love should be your confidant and closest friend.

Knowing not all will agree.

Also admire women or men that can evolve from love to non romantic feelings with grace.

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alicedee — Sat, 18 May 2019 12:14:51 GMT

Not friends with my ex. I hold no ill will toward him.....but have no interest in being “friends.” When we are together at a family function (which is infrequent)...we are polite. I don’t say anything negative about him to our children or grandchildren.....they have their own relationships with him, and my negative experience doesn’t have to influence that.

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deepwaterdotter — Sat, 18 May 2019 14:26:14 GMT

Most of my ex-paramours are deceased. Guess I was hard on them.

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Brisky — Sat, 18 May 2019 14:55:43 GMT

No, happily married and I don't care about old boy friends. I put the past in the past. No ex husband. I got lucky the first time. Thanks God!

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Pqfan — Sat, 18 May 2019 15:05:37 GMT

If I saw them I would say hi but that is about it. Wished them well but other than that it was adios muchacho🤣

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Bri369 — Sat, 18 May 2019 15:06:02 GMT

No exes as friends.

Never ran into one either. LOL

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Fressa — Sat, 18 May 2019 15:22:39 GMT

I always thought that would be very nice to maintain a friendship with an ex. I have not nor do I desire that option with the ex's in my past.

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cherry — Sat, 18 May 2019 15:25:10 GMT

I have been married to the same man for 55 years. I really don't know what I would do. It would depend on many factors, and why we divorced

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cactusgal — Sat, 18 May 2019 15:29:13 GMT

Nope, thats why they are called Exes

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jeanlake — Sat, 18 May 2019 16:35:56 GMT

Both ex boyfriends are deceased. One died in a car accident at age 28 and the other had a stroke recently, in his 60s, which shocked everyone. Seemed healthy in general. He taught at University and both of us went to on marry and have families. He wasn't nice to me, but I was decent when we ran into one another. No ill will on my part. I like the way my life turned out.

My son and his ex-w are good friends. Chat at son's baseball games and wish one another happy birthdays. Son makes sure his son has Mother's Day gift for his mom. Wish she was back in my son's life -- but zero control over that!

My sis says you don't really know someone until you divorce them and the relationship can go either way after that. Could be some truth to that.

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Sushismom — Sat, 18 May 2019 16:50:58 GMT

I've only had a few exes. All except one I wouldn't mind keeping in touch with. The one, unfortunately, wouldn't leave me alone on FB even though I had blocked him. FB seemed to take him off the block every now and then. We have NOT been together for almost 40 years but last month he sent me a FB message saying how often he thought of me, how awful it was to say goodbye, etc. So I finally told him to leave me alone. Hopefully, that will be the end of his contacting me. Yuck.

Re: Exes as Friends

Tyak — Sat, 18 May 2019 16:57:02 GMT

@Brisky wrote:
No, happily married and I don't care about old boy friends. I put the past in the past. No ex husband. I got lucky the first time. Thanks God!

My sentiments exactly!

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tsavorite — Sat, 18 May 2019 17:09:05 GMT

Old boyfriends? No....I didn't have very serious relationships...just some dating and it didn't work out so no I have never had any interest in looking them up or starting a friendship with them. I don't think my husband would like that either....I wouldn't want him contacting old girlfriends. Seems odd....

I can understand those that were married and have kids...that makes sense....you keep a decent working relationship as you share your children and grandchildren. So having a causal friendship makes sense if possible.

Since I never had serious relationships and neither did my husband I guess that's why we have no interest in ancient history.

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Mersha — Sat, 18 May 2019 17:32:41 GMT

An old boyfriend contacted me via Facebook not too long ago.

He was my first serious relationship during our teen years. I thought I was truly, madly, deeply in love with him. He ended up breaking up with me for another girl and totally crushed me.

It turns out he just divorced his third wife and sounds like a total buffoon. We had a few emails back and forth and had absolutely nothing in common.

I thank God every day for that heartache I went through!!

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NicksmomESQ — Sat, 18 May 2019 17:40:19 GMT

Nope.I haven’t had an ex boyfriend in over 40 years.I’m still married to the love of my life.I never had any interest in re living the past.

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CelticCrafter — Sat, 18 May 2019 18:50:46 GMT

Only 1 husband and he's not an ex.

I did have 1 ex-boyfriend want to be friends with me on Facebook. I ignored the request, there's a reason he's an ex.