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We are Staying!!!!!!!!!

nekodaisy — Fri, 17 May 2019 13:12:24 GMT

To make a long story short my husband found out last October that we were moving from Ga. to Maryland. He neve told me till a month ago because his boss was working to get him to stay here which he did.

Then comes last Friday when he came home from work and told me they had cut his orders and we had to report August 12th. My husband retired from the military in 02 and has worked on post since then. We bought a new home here in 96 and will have it paid off here shortly. We wanted to retire here. We love the area.

So this past week was hell. How do you pack up and sort thru 23 years worth of stuff and what to do with the house. My son and DIL are living with us now and if he could find a job we were going to rent it to them. That was really our only option because it needs a lot of work done to get it up to standards for normal renters and less then 3 mos just wouldn't cut it so we finally decided we would just sale as is.

My daughter also lives in the area and has bi polar and we are her go to when her meds quit working. We were going to tell her this weekend about this and see if she just didn't want to come with us.

Well to cut this short my husbands boss went up do Aberdeen this week and pleaded our case and so did his boss who knows my husband. It worked. We are staying. I cried for like 5 minutes from just relief but it still feels like a dream and anytime I will be waking up to the nightmare. I found this out this morning. Happy Friday.

He only had 7 more years till he hits 65 and we could not afford to stay here just on his retirement pay from military. I am originally from Pa. but Ga. just stole my heart. Plus I have 2 grandkids here and I would miss them so much.

My grandson is coming over this weekend and I think my husband and I will go out and celebrate big time. (I also lost 4 pounds this week.)

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CANDLEQUEEN — Fri, 17 May 2019 13:14:57 GMT

@nekodaisy . I am glad this worked out for you both!
!!!! Celebrate and enjoy your grandson!

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dex — Fri, 17 May 2019 13:22:16 GMT

@nekodaisy @It seems that the stars aligned perfectly in your favor...so happy for you and your family.It is really nice to hear when things work out the best for people.Relax....Enjoy the precious family time.

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NicksmomESQ — Fri, 17 May 2019 14:05:35 GMT

@nekodaisy Yay!! I’m so happy for you.Moving is very stressful especially when you don’t want to!!

Time to celebrate!! I love happy endings !!💐🍾🥂

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aroc3435 — Fri, 17 May 2019 13:47:01 GMT

@nekodaisy Thank you for sharing your story and especially since it has a happy ending so that you can continue to live where you want to.

Moving is never easy and definitely not enjoyable when it is not of your own choosing.

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Pqfan — Fri, 17 May 2019 13:51:20 GMT

@nekodaisy I am so happy for you! 🙂

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Mom2Dogs — Fri, 17 May 2019 13:51:53 GMT

@nekodaisy glad things worked out in your favor.

Now that you are staying put, you might want to think about starting to sort thru your 23 years worth of stuff! I am sure you have seen the thread named 'what have you purged today'....it's such a great feeling to know the house is clean (not saying you have a dirty house, ha!) and empty of the stuff you have stored thru the years.

Enjoy your celebration this weekend!

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queendiva — Fri, 17 May 2019 14:07:28 GMT

@nekodaisy Congrats! You dodged a bullet.

I moved into a new home in 1996 also. Moved twice since then. Can't imagine moving from a house full of 22 years of accumulated stuff to a new location several states away from family and friends. The very definition of stress.

I agree with the previous poster who suggested that you join us on the What Have You Purged thread. The time to start going through your stuff is yesterday, which is true for many of us. Schedule time periods as often as possible to start seeing what you can keep and what probably should have gone a while ago. The process will take a LONG time, but keep chipping away at it. It will be helpful no matter what, but especially if this should happen again. You will be (more) ready and maybe a bit less stressed.

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SXMGirl — Fri, 17 May 2019 14:20:57 GMT

@nekodaisyGreat way to start the weekend!

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seaBreeze — Fri, 17 May 2019 14:24:16 GMT

Yes, Georgia would be my first choice ... so happy for you. I live in PA and it is cold, dismal, full of potholes. Maryland state line only three miles away from me, and not much better, except less pot holes! Congrats.

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Bibione — Fri, 17 May 2019 14:50:30 GMT

So happy for you.It is not about the house and the moving,but you are staying close to your family.

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occasionalrain — Fri, 17 May 2019 14:53:15 GMT

I'm so pleased for you and your family. I can't help but to think your husband must be well respected for his boss and boss's boss to do all they could to keep him in Georgia.

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IMW — Fri, 17 May 2019 15:01:01 GMT

So very happy 😃 for you. Enjoy! Celebrate 🎉! Relax.

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Mersha — Fri, 17 May 2019 15:03:26 GMT

You are very fortunate that you are able to stay where you are.

I am in Maryland and LOVE the place but it is so expensive. Housing prices are sky high and there is not much available.

I follow the housing market closely and in our county the median cost of a home seems to be $500,000. Anything less than that usually requires extensive renovations.

Good luck to you!!

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coffeegal — Fri, 17 May 2019 15:22:41 GMT

I'm happy for you. It's hard to pick up and move. My husband was Army and then, also a government employee. He worked at Ft Meade until he retired in 2014. He tried to get a position at APG. He wasn't able to. There was a lot of politics in his area of expertise. Personally I'd stay in Georgia.

I have lived in Maryland my whole life. I'll be 63 in 3 weeks
I also worked at APG until I retired. I live about 10 minutes away. I'm looking to leave Maryland. We're not agreeing on the next phase of life. My husband wants to sell the house and buy an RV. I want a home, where is yet to be determined.

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nekodaisy — Fri, 17 May 2019 16:25:02 GMT

Thanks for all your kind words. We have been here since 95 and it took 8 PCS
moves to get us here. Our son and his family moved in this past Feb so I spent a lot of time purging things then. We have small 4 bedroom house so the cats had to be moved into the guest room and all the closets had to be cleaned out to get them moved in. Once they move out and things get back to normal I will be getting rid of more stuff and getting new carpet and tile just in case. Things you need to do but always put off. We are getting a new roof out of this. Figured insurance can pay for it just in case we had to do a quick sale but we can enjoy it now.

Being from Pa. also is missing the good food. We just recently got a Meodows Ice Cream parlor a few miles from my home. That was the highlight of my month till the news last week.

The Colonel up in Aberdeen that got this mess going for all these people besides us is leaving his command next month. Now they are trying to straighten the mess out for all the other ones that were effected. One guy that worked for my husband put in for early retirement and the other got a year to year exception due to him having part time custody with his child. If he left his wife would get full custody. We expected this when we were active duty but now so close to actually retiring.

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chrystaltree — Fri, 17 May 2019 18:22:37 GMT

I'm crying for you, I am so very happy that things worked out for you and your family. I cannot even imagine being in a situation in which I would have to uproot and move at this stage of my life. Relax, celebrate with your family.

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JYWilliams — Fri, 17 May 2019 21:49:08 GMT

I'm so happy for you & your family. Sending a hug your way.

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Sooner — Mon, 20 May 2019 21:36:55 GMT

@nekodaisy I am so happy for you! You have very much to be thankful for now! Savor every minute of your happiness!

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Snowhite714 — Tue, 21 May 2019 00:06:25 GMT

@nekodaisy So very happy that it all worked out for you.