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Appropriate clothes for a Florida funeral

LucilleD — Thu, 16 May 2019 16:33:41 GMT

Help with what to wear to a Florida funeral. What is appropriate to wear to a FL funeral? Visitation at the church in the evening on a Fri and Sat service, burial at cemetery, then lunch at the church. I will be standing in receiving line both days. Are nice sandals or open toe shoes ok? What about nice slacks or pant suit? I assume the color should be subdued like navy or gray. Is black ok maybe just for slacks? There will be a large attendance & I don’t want to offend anyone. Any suggestions on comfortable shoes or clothes on the Q from the major designers? Thank you so much. I know the Q community is very knowledgeable!

Re: Appropriate clothes for a Florida funeral

vermint — Thu, 16 May 2019 16:42:43 GMT

@LucilleD I live in SC, and see all kinds of clothes at funerals...even among the family members!

I think a nice pair of slacks or a pantsuit in a subdued color (or black if you prefer) would be just fine. Nice sandals or open toe shoes would be appropriate, too...at least where I live.

When my dear mother passed away in 2009, I wore a dusty purple skirt suit, with black pumps (it was winter), and felt perfectly appropriately dressed. These days, I don't even own a skirt, so black slacks would be my go to, no matter the season.

Not to sound morbid, but my dad is 87, and not in the best of health. I have in my closet a Susan Graver black-with-neutral-print chiffon cardigan with tank set that I would wear with very nice black slacks, and dressy black sandals if necessary this summer. Of course, I'm not saving it for that...I also wear it to work and church!

Re: Appropriate clothes for a Florida funeral

Icegoddess — Thu, 16 May 2019 16:55:33 GMT

I don't think it matters so much as it used to. Just like when I was growing up slacks would never be worn to church and now I wear them occasionally. Some people even wear jeans to church. It's more about the thought. So, that being said, I would wear pretty much anything I would be comfortable wearing to church. For both of my parent's funerals I wore a dress. I went to a funeral a few weeks ago for a friend from church and I wore nice pants. The person in front of me in line at the funeral had on jeans and apologized to one of the grown daughters about his appearance, but had to come from work and had to go back afterwards. She was quite fine with it and said "You know Mama wouldn't care about that."

Re: Appropriate clothes for a Florida funeral

50Mickey — Thu, 16 May 2019 16:56:29 GMT

@LucilleD This time of year Florida is pretty hot and humid. I wouldn't wear a pantsuit in the daytime. Nice pair of slacks and blouse are fine if you don't want to wear a dress. No for sandals or open toe shoes to the cemetery too many fire ant beds and I have even seen snakes. Most people don't feel the need to wear black to funeral. I've seen all colors and prints. Unless this is a an extremely formal event don't worry. Florida is pretty casual in the warm months. Check the weather for extended weather forecast.

Re: Appropriate clothes for a Florida funeral

Mindy D — Thu, 16 May 2019 17:17:04 GMT

Make sure you wear something very cool for the cemetery burial. It’s stifling hot here (high eighties) now and we have been having heavy afternoon storms. We had a high of 92 today. It’s very humid. Keep your warmer fabrics for somewhere else. For the church service ,dress as you would for any other place. You can wear spring or summer weight clothing indoors but you will perspire from your car until you get indoors. There will be air conditioning on. I’d avoid spike heels for anyplace that is grassy or you will sink right into the soil. Subdued colors are always best. Black is fine but it’s not mandatory. Navy, dark gray, black or any other subdued colors are good. No bright colors such as hot pink for example. Sandals and open toed shoes are fine here as long as this does not violate the religious practice of the family. I’d wear comfortable dress shoes for the church, ; a dressy sandal would be fine. We wear them year round. I’d probably wear dress flats or low heeled shoes for the cemetery. You will be hot so prepare yourself.

Re: Appropriate clothes for a Florida funeral

aoldgirl — Thu, 16 May 2019 17:12:34 GMT

I just got back from N. Florida funeral 2 weeks ago. All the womens worn sleeveless or short sleeve dresses, all or most all in black. I worn black slacks and a short sleeve top. I felt over dressed, it was 90 degrees. the men worn suits, tie and all. Inside the church was air conditioned.

Re: Appropriate clothes for a Florida funeral

GenXmuse — Thu, 16 May 2019 17:43:30 GMT

A lightweight dress with open toe shoes would be fine this time of year.

Re: Appropriate clothes for a Florida funeral

KKlim — Thu, 16 May 2019 18:01:50 GMT

If your in a receiving line ( as u stated), I would be a bit
more dressed up. Are u in the immediate family? I’m assuming you’ll be accepting many people into the wake then. I would do a dress, skirt, or if u have to go w/dressy dark color pant and blouse.

Re: Appropriate clothes for a Florida funeral

chrystaltree — Thu, 16 May 2019 18:54:34 GMT

I would assume that you would wear the same thing you'd wear to a funeral in your own home town in the summer. How would it differ in FL?

Re: Appropriate clothes for a Florida funeral

Nightowlz — Thu, 16 May 2019 19:08:23 GMT

I don't wear dresses or fancy clothes. I wore a pair of navy cotton pants with a navy/black cotton/rayon top with sandals in the summer & shoes in the winter. They wear blue jeans to funerals around here.

I don't do funerals for the most part but had to go to my FIL's & my dad's in the past couple of years. I'm not going to any more funerals. I don't like them. We are both going to be cremated with no viewing, no service or funeral of any type.

Re: Appropriate clothes for a Florida funeral

sophiamarie — Thu, 16 May 2019 20:09:35 GMT

@chrystaltree wrote:
I would assume that you would wear the same thing you'd wear to a funeral in your own home town in the summer. How would it differ in FL?

The only difference in Florida would be - no coat, scarf, heavy jacket, etc..... I would also eliminate the sandals, but that's also a personal choice.....

Re: Appropriate clothes for a Florida funeral

lovesrecess — Thu, 16 May 2019 20:19:49 GMT

I would make travelers black pants or skirt and a travelers black or colored tank the base of the outfit and add a linen shirt, or light mesh or eyelet cardigan on top. You could add a large brooch or pin if you like. Black open toe shoes or sandals. The only shoes I would avoid are any flip flop style. At my FIL funeral there, people wore literally everything, so don’t stress about it. Wear whatever you feel comfortable in.

Re: Appropriate clothes for a Florida funeral

chrystaltree — Thu, 16 May 2019 21:52:27 GMT

@sophiamarie wrote:
@chrystaltree wrote:
I would assume that you would wear the same thing you'd wear to a funeral in your own home town in the summer. How would it differ in FL?
The only difference in Florida would be - no coat, scarf, heavy jacket, etc..... I would also eliminate the sandals, but that's also a personal choice.....

I'm in MA and we don't wear coats, scarves, boots, heavy jackets etc on an 85 degree day in the middle of July...LOL It shouldn't matter if you are in FL or NO or CA. You'd dress for the weather. I don't get the sandal thing. Women wear sandals to church everywhere so why wouldn't someone wear sandals to funeral if she wanted to?

Re: Appropriate clothes for a Florida funeral

Zhills — Thu, 16 May 2019 22:32:01 GMT

I would not wear heels or open toed shoes if you are going to the cemetary. Most of them do not have great lawns and are difficult to walk/stand on for very long.

Re: Appropriate clothes for a Florida funeral

conlt — Fri, 17 May 2019 00:21:01 GMT

I would wear slack, a skirt and a blouse. No bright colors, Navy or even taupe is nice. I think a dress sandal is fine. Just don't wear beach sandals.

Re: Appropriate clothes for a Florida funeral

Zhills — Fri, 17 May 2019 00:24:57 GMT

@LucilleD wrote:
Help with what to wear to a Florida funeral. What is appropriate to wear to a FL funeral? Visitation at the church in the evening on a Fri and Sat service, burial at cemetery, then lunch at the church. I will be standing in receiving line both days. Are nice sandals or open toe shoes ok? What about nice slacks or pant suit? I assume the color should be subdued like navy or gray. Is black ok maybe just for slacks? There will be a large attendance & I don’t want to offend anyone. Any suggestions on comfortable shoes or clothes on the Q from the major designers? Thank you so much. I know the Q community is very knowledgeable!

Just curious? Why would you question wearing open toes shoes or sandals? Tradition?

Re: Appropriate clothes for a Florida funeral

sophiamarie — Fri, 17 May 2019 00:27:13 GMT

@chrystaltree wrote:
@sophiamarie wrote:
@chrystaltree wrote:
I would assume that you would wear the same thing you'd wear to a funeral in your own home town in the summer. How would it differ in FL?
The only difference in Florida would be - no coat, scarf, heavy jacket, etc..... I would also eliminate the sandals, but that's also a personal choice.....

I'm in MA and we don't wear coats, scarves, boots, heavy jackets etc on an 85 degree day in the middle of July...LOL It shouldn't matter if you are in FL or NO or CA. You'd dress for the weather. I don't get the sandal thing. Women wear sandals to church everywhere so why wouldn't someone wear sandals to funeral if she wanted to?

Gee, thanks for clearing that up for me. Since I don't go to church "everywhere", I don't know if women wear sandals or not - the choice is up to the person....

Re: Appropriate clothes for a Florida funeral

50Mickey — Fri, 17 May 2019 00:55:38 GMT

i suggested no sandals not because they are not appropriate but because they are not suitable for wearing to a cemetery. Too many fire ant beds. If you don't want to get stung wear any type of closed shoe. if you don't mind dodging ant beds wear sandals.

Re: Appropriate clothes for a Florida funeral

homedecor1 — Fri, 17 May 2019 02:08:53 GMT

It's hot & humid here so dress "lightly"...and be comfortable.

sorry for your loss 🙏🏻