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She is a much better woman than I am!!

CrazyKittyLvr2 — Thu, 09 May 2019 23:15:23 GMT

I just read about a woman who is pregnant with her 10th baby. Not unusual, but her oldest is.....9 yrs. old.

She has had 11 pregnancies in 10 yrs, of marriage. Seven singles, fraternal twins, 2 miscarriages and her current pregnancy. The single babies were in her words Irish Twins.

The 9 yr. old was born just before her 26th birthday,

They are beautiful kids, but I just can't imagine that many small kids at one time. The diapers alone are a daunting thought to say nothing of when they all get sick at the same time. Like I said,a better woman I am.

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blackhole99 — Thu, 09 May 2019 23:23:32 GMT

I don't know if she's a better woman, hopefully she has help and is rich enough to give the kids what they need. If not, I would have to question her mental stability, nobody's that Catholic. LOL

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DearPrudence — Thu, 09 May 2019 23:23:32 GMT

I don't get where you think she is a better woman than you are. Different maybe, not better

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sidsmom — Thu, 09 May 2019 23:26:59 GMT

@DearPrudence wrote:
I don't get where you think she is a better woman than you are. Different maybe, not better

Yeah, I don’t get the ‘better’ angle.

Just because one has lots of babies...

well, it just makes them having lots of babies.

That’s all.

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Mz iMac — Thu, 09 May 2019 23:28:07 GMT

Not as many as 10 but my SIL has 8 stairsteps, each 10 to 11 months apart. No twins. 2 born in the same year though. She's in her mid 30's but looks older.

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proudlyfromNJ — Thu, 09 May 2019 23:28:23 GMT

Is her last name Duggar?

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suzyQ3 — Thu, 09 May 2019 23:28:55 GMT

I know that it's not correct to say this, but I don't understand the motivation. You can love and adore children without having a classroom full in your own house.

And I say this regardless of income.

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kaydee50 — Thu, 09 May 2019 23:35:14 GMT

I don't think she's "better." I think she's irresponsible and borderline stupid.

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Venezia — Thu, 09 May 2019 23:36:07 GMT

I don't see it as a positive thing. Why on earth would anyone want to be pregnant so many times, so quickly in succession? Is she trying for her own baseball team or something?

How about doing her bit to keep the population explosion down? It certainly doesn't make her a better woman than me or anyone else.

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Annabellethecat66 — Thu, 09 May 2019 23:52:13 GMT

I think everyone is different. I try not to judge people. I don't always suceed. I'm a work in progress.

As I've gotten older I'm more of the live and let live person. My oldest daughter has 5 children; 4 surviving children. Three of the children are teenagers.

They were all born 'by design'. I mean they were totally planned, just like mine were and probably many of your's were.

Who are any of us to judge someone else? The only time it would bother me is if the children weren't taken care of. The only way you'd really know that is to try to visit the house and see ALL of the situation.

I think too often though children are suffering because people don't want to get involved. There are ways of making sure a child is being cared for.

I've always been one to step up if I see something. However, like I said, before I'd interceed when it comes to children, I'd do my best to get the correct information and not just base my opinion on here say or what I see on the surface.

Children are very honest and most haven't been taught to lie.....yet. If you talk to them, they'll usually tell you something honestly.

I think though, sometimes people don't realize how difficult raising children can be and is.

It's a 'job' that never really ends. I say that because, even as adults they are still on your mind and in your hearts.

There's nothing like it though when your daughter repeats something that you used to say to her. Here's a hint to all those young mothers...."Never (I repeat never) say, "That's exactly what I used to say to you". Ha! Just when they're out of sight jump up and down and say, "Yea"! Ha!

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jannabelle1 — Thu, 09 May 2019 23:54:39 GMT

Please don't give @CrazyKittyLvr2 a hard time for her comment "better woman than I am".....it's an old phrase that's probably not used much anymore. Both my mother and grandmothers used to say the same thing. It's a tongue-in-cheek comment! Just means she wouldn't want to have to deal with the situation herself!

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Diva on The Q — Fri, 10 May 2019 00:56:26 GMT

@CrazyKittyLvr2: I don't want to put words in your mouth, but I don't think you actually meant the woman was a better person, per se. I took it as a tongue-in-cheek comment, meaning (perhaps) she must have the patience of Jobe to deal with that many children...am I right???

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GenXmuse — Thu, 09 May 2019 23:59:28 GMT

I’m not sure how better fits into the equation. Most people can have sex and reproduce.

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kittyloo — Thu, 09 May 2019 23:59:39 GMT

i have a fairly good acquaintance with a young mother of i believe she is on 6 or 7.

she is a very loving caring person. As long as you can afford them, (not be on assistance) and want them i don't see a problem.

i guess i just think that either she enjoys being pregnant, or her husband likes it. don't know.

she is still fairly young. under 30. plenty of time for more babies.

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spiderw — Fri, 10 May 2019 00:07:24 GMT

Giving birth to all these children isn't the issue as much as it is bringing them up. Giving them love, care, feeding and clothing them, making sure they get an education and have doctor and dentist visits, teaching them respect and providing a value system are but some of their needs. You just don't have children and then leave them to fend for themselves without guidance and being there for them in good and bad times. The parental responsibility goes far beyond the birth, it is always there .

I don't know this parent or her way of life but I do hope she realizes her obligations and duties as a mother and most of all can fulfill them.

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suzyQ3 — Fri, 10 May 2019 00:11:01 GMT

@kittyloo wrote:
i have a fairly good acquaintance with a young mother of i believe she is on 6 or 7.
she is a very loving caring person. As long as you can afford them, (not be on assistance) and want them i don't see a problem.
i guess i just think that either she enjoys being pregnant, or her husband likes it. don't know.
she is still fairly young. under 30. plenty of time for more babies.

@kittyloo, if this is the reaso that she keeps having more children, I think that she could benefit from a mental health assessment.

I don't think that just being able to afford having so many children should be some kind of green light.

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CrazyKittyLvr2 — Fri, 10 May 2019 00:11:19 GMT

@jannabelle1 @Diva on The Q Thank you and you are right about it being a saying. I forget not everyone may be familiar with certain phrases. For as long as I can remember I've heard it and used in situations. Sorry for any confusion.

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shoekitty — Fri, 10 May 2019 00:17:24 GMT

I took the "better woman than me" to be someone able to handle thAt sort of lifestyle. I know I could never handle it. But some women thrive on it, and were just born to handle tons of kids.

I did know a lady who had 9 kids on a row. But after knowing her for a while, she seemed to like raising babies, when they aged beyond preschool, not so much, then she wanted another baby. Yikes. Must be a control thing. Babies are dependant on you, depentant to the max, to feed, entertain, nurture them, when they age they get their little personalities they detach a bit...as they should.

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SeaMaiden — Fri, 10 May 2019 00:16:33 GMT

I compare this woman and people like the Duggar’s who have mass children to someone who hoards animals.... like an addiction... yes they love them...but there is no way a child or a pet can be cared for completely when there are a dozen others (or whatever the count is) needing care too. And many times there is abuse in many forms. Just a roof over your head, and food is not complete care.

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NicksmomESQ — Fri, 10 May 2019 00:25:42 GMT

Having a lot of children doesn’t make a person better than anyone else. Everyone handles life differently.Some choose to have no children.It’s their choice .It doesn’t make them bad people or less than.

Life is about choices.At the end of the day we all have to live with the paths we choose.No one is better than anybody else.