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Honey???Dear????

sydsgma1 — Sat, 06 Apr 2019 16:54:33 GMT

Is any one else offended by being called honey or dear by sales people, check out clerks, members of the medical profession etc. I may have silver hair, but I am highly educated and perfectly competent. Arghhhhh!!!!

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Still Raining — Sat, 06 Apr 2019 16:56:35 GMT

Nope, I am fine with it coming from either sex. Just a polite familiarity.

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on the bay — Sat, 06 Apr 2019 17:06:07 GMT

@sydsgma1 -

I take it you're not from the south?

Also do people in the midwest say honey and dear a lot?

I always think of it as a "term of endearment"

and like it. I don't think any harm or disrespect is meant, nor even just said to elderly.

All ages are good!

edited to ad-

Wait! Oh dear, I forgot to say -

Well, honey, bless your heart:-

All in good fun

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Krimpette — Sat, 06 Apr 2019 16:58:25 GMT

As long as they are pleasant to me and offer genuine smiles, it doesn't bother me at all.

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cherry — Sat, 06 Apr 2019 16:57:55 GMT

No..My sister does this ,all the time, to people. I have tried to explain to her ,some people don't like this, but it falls on deaf ears

I don't sweat the small stuff, life is too short

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Glitter51 — Sat, 06 Apr 2019 16:58:10 GMT

It doesn’t bother me in the least.

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deepwaterdotter — Sat, 06 Apr 2019 17:00:25 GMT

Mostly I'm just happy to be acknowledged in a pleasant tone.

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geezerette — Sat, 06 Apr 2019 17:00:28 GMT

When I was young, it used to bother me when waitresses would call me “Hon”. I let that go long ago. These days I’ll take any term of endearment I can get. ☺️

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millieshops — Sat, 06 Apr 2019 17:00:42 GMT

I'd be white, too, if it weren't for good dye, and educated and still walking and talking - but I'm not offended unless the sales clerk should know my name because I deal with him/her regularly.

I do not like to be treated as if i don't exist, so I'll take the generic address over nothing any day.

Related experience - I just came from a local nail shop. I've been there before fairly often in the past, but this was the first time I made an actual appointment. I was greeted by name when I arrived and thanked by name when I paid. Smart receptionist!

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Trinity11 — Sat, 06 Apr 2019 17:07:51 GMT

@sydsgma1 wrote:
Is any one else offended by being called honey or dear by sales people, check out clerks, members of the medical profession etc. I may have silver hair, but I am highly educated and perfectly competent. Arghhhhh!!!!

A young doctor kept calling me "hon" a few years ago and I politely told him "I am not your hon."

Salespeople who call me dear or honey, get the proverbial "eye roll."

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KingstonsMom — Sat, 06 Apr 2019 17:06:16 GMT

@on the bay wrote:
@sydsgma1 -
I take it you're not from the south?
Also do people in the midwest say honey and dear a lot?
I always think of it as a "term of endearment"
and like it. I don't think any harm or disrespect is meant, nor even just said to elderly.
All ages are good!

@on the bay

I'm in the deep south of GA and you're so right, it's very common here and used as a 'term of'endearment', never meant in a condescending way.

If that bothered you, you wouldn't make it around here for long, LOL!

Of course, I'm 65 and I still say 'ma'am' and 'sir' to everyone, too.

It's just the way we were raised.

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CAcableGirl2 — Sat, 06 Apr 2019 17:06:52 GMT

No, I'm not offended and frankly, am rarely offended by anyone. I just let it go, life is short to be bothered by others behavior.

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Carmie — Sat, 06 Apr 2019 17:08:37 GMT

I don't like it at all. I never have. Even my husband knows better than to call me honey or dear.

i find it extremely offensive.

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OKPrincess — Sat, 06 Apr 2019 17:08:51 GMT

I’m perfectly fine with it.

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FrostyBabe1 — Sat, 06 Apr 2019 17:12:37 GMT

Yes, I find it offensive, as well as patronizing and smarmy. Always have, always will.

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Hooty — Sat, 06 Apr 2019 17:13:23 GMT

LOL, this is the most ridiculous post, complaining because someone is being respectable to you! I am from the South too, and it is a form of courtesy here, Bless your heart, Honey, LOL!!!

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godi — Sat, 06 Apr 2019 17:14:58 GMT

Depends on the persons tone.

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Cakers3 — Sat, 06 Apr 2019 17:18:20 GMT

I must offend everyone because I do use "Hon" when shopping. I've never been addressed as such by professional medical people.

In fact, DH and I are on a first name basis with our PCP and I know I've said "Hon" to him. LOL

It doesn't bother me if somebody calls me "Dear" or "Honey".

Just words, nothing insulting about it.. Informal.

Too much else to be concerned about in my life.

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chprsp — Sat, 06 Apr 2019 17:19:04 GMT

I tolerate it.

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Drythe — Sun, 07 Apr 2019 01:53:43 GMT

It makes me happy, one thing not lost from the south, in my state. NC, only 47% of adults are natives ....help...glub...glib. Being over run.

Doesn’t bother me any more than Youz Guyz