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Thank you . . .

LilacTree — Thu, 07 Mar 2019 22:15:05 GMT

. . . My cyber friends, for having my back regarding my lapse In good judgment in my post this morning. I was so wrong, yet you all gave me some slack. I am old, but we never stop learning, and I learned some things today because you cared enough to try to explain my wrongful comments.

I won’t name you because you know who you are, and I know WHO you are, which is much more than your forum nicknames. I am so grateful for your understanding and confidence in me even when I trip up. You are good people and that’s what matters. Just know that I admire all of you . . . You are the brave ones.

From my heart . . . Lilac Tree (Ford1224)

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LTT1 — Thu, 07 Mar 2019 22:20:28 GMT

@LilacTree

I am not aware of your post, but we all have lapses in judgement at times...it’s ok💗

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blueroses47 — Thu, 07 Mar 2019 22:27:51 GMT

I didn't respond to your original post, but I read all the replies, and frankly, I was really taken aback by how hard-hearted and almost cruel a lot of them were.

I think it's nice that you rethought your original post and qualified it, but really, don't rake yourself over the coals for what you posted. It was not that bad, at all....but of course that's just my opinion.

The posters here sometimes come across, to me, as very judgmental, and a lot of them put themselves on pedastals in the morals department. They call you out for being judgmental, but are pretty tough cookies themselves.

Had you been sitting around your kitchen table, with a few friends and made the same comment as you posted here, probably one or two would have said some of the things that were posted in reply...and you would have said "oh, you know, you're probably right". It would have been a much more casual and understanding conversation instead of the way it looks when these things are posted in black and white on a message board.

We come here to chat and discuss things with people we think are our "friends", but in reality we often just open ourselves up to harsh criticism over the most innocuous of things.

Don't spend one more minute worrying about what people here think. You know what's in your heart.

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suzyQ3 — Fri, 08 Mar 2019 01:40:37 GMT

@LilacTree, I have no idea what occurred, but it is so refreshing to see someone realize that she was on the wrong track and then show appreciation to those who courteously helped correct her.

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Preds — Thu, 07 Mar 2019 22:29:50 GMT

@LilacTree ... you did nothing "wrong". You expressed your thoughts, as others did.

You are dealing with a lot, but not the same things. Every person is allowed their feelings and we tend to forget or not respect that because of what we may be going thru or have been exposed to.

Throw on your "tuff skin" and carry on girlfriend. We are here for you and everyone else.

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grandma petes — Thu, 07 Mar 2019 23:02:46 GMT

I didn’t see your post, but I’m sure we’ve all had a few moments where we spoke and then regretted our words. It is really nice that you came back and apologized. That takes a caring heart and kindness....and it sounds like you have both. Hoping you have a wonderful day LilacTree...😊

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Ms tyrion2 — Thu, 07 Mar 2019 23:41:21 GMT

That is very gracious of you @LilacTree .

Discussing how and why people handle a terminal illness issue can be very difficult.

...but then again, we are terminal from the day we are born, aren't we? 😊

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Sweetbay magnolia — Fri, 08 Mar 2019 00:31:59 GMT

The way I see it, you were speaking from the heart and conjecturing in a general, yet very personal, sense.

I took no umbrage, and BTW - t's nice to have you back posting.

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IamMrsG — Fri, 08 Mar 2019 00:33:42 GMT

In contrast to how things turned out, I believe you were owed an apology.

Don't sweat the small stuff, @LilacTree , or the small people either.

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SeaMaiden — Fri, 08 Mar 2019 00:45:44 GMT

@LilacTree Nothing you said was wrong or a lapse in judgement. You just said how you felt about the situation. I am sure many people feel just as you stated. It was your viewpoint. I like everyone to have or give a viewpoint here.

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Drythe — Fri, 08 Mar 2019 01:11:50 GMT

@LilacTree

You said nothing wrong that I saw. You stated your opinion.

Someone took your words, imposed their own views to what you said, and “group think” took over.

What in in the world does anyone post here EXCEPT their own opinion?

I hope you will focus on your recovery and not sweat the small stuff. 🤗

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dex — Fri, 08 Mar 2019 02:33:52 GMT

@LilacTree All I can say is let it go...there will always be someone to disagree or find fault with anything we could possibly say or discuss.We know you are a caring person and we care about you too...be yourself and never let anyone make you feel bad abou that.

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IMW — Fri, 08 Mar 2019 03:51:02 GMT

We all have lapses in judgment, far fewer have the courage to admit it and correct it, as you just did.

@LilacTree wrote:
. . . My cyber friends, for having my back regarding my lapse In good judgment in my post this morning. I was so wrong, yet you all gave me some slack. I am old, but we never stop learning, and I learned some things today because you cared enough to try to explain my wrongful comments.

I won’t name you because you know who you are, and I know WHO you are, which is much more than your forum nicknames. I am so grateful for your understanding and confidence in me even when I trip up. You are good people and that’s what matters. Just know that I admire all of you . . . You are the brave ones.

From my heart . . . Lilac Tree (Ford1224)

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jubilant — Fri, 08 Mar 2019 04:25:30 GMT

@LilacTree

Sometimes we just get tired of being brave....I get it. Were only human. Even Jesus asked God to "remove this cup from him" shortly before they arrested him and hung him on the cross.

Anyway, you have righted what you thought too strong a statement so I hope you can rest easy. We have all said things, I'm sure, we wished we could take back or would have said differently had we to do it all over. I think the fact that you reconsidered what you said or the way you said it showed thoughtfulness and humility. Those are two traits I admire!

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NicksmomESQ — Fri, 08 Mar 2019 04:47:56 GMT

@LilacTree We are all friends on these boards & you said nothing wrong.You are entitled to your opinion.People are also entitled to disagree with you.But they are not entitled to be nasty .I agree with @blueroses47 It was thoughtful of you to reconsider your opinion but people could have made their point without being mean.

You are a lovely sweet person. Some people get off on attacking others.Please don’t give it another thought.

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Trinity11 — Fri, 08 Mar 2019 15:45:45 GMT

I really do not think you should/needed to apologize @LilacTree . If you really feel that way I doubt anyone here is going to change your opinion.

You have been through a lot recently and your perspective is probably affected by all of it. A lot of people probably feel exactly the same as you do but would not dare admit it. I applaud your honesty but you do not have to change your mind about how you feel simply based on a bunch of anonymous strangers reaction.

Thanks for being you....

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LilacTree — Fri, 08 Mar 2019 16:07:58 GMT

@Trinity11 wrote:
I really do not think you should/needed to apologize @LilacTree . If you really feel that way I doubt anyone here is going to change your opinion.

You have been through a lot recently and your perspective is probably affected by all of it. A lot of people probably feel exactly the same as you do but would not dare admit it. I applaud your honesty but you do not have to change your mind about how you feel simply based on a bunch of anonymous strangers reaction.

Thanks for being you....

@Trinity11

what a sweet thing to say, Trinity. To tell you the truth, I actually was feeling sad for Trebek when I said what I did. But it came off wrong, as though I was criticizing him when I was trying to say that he probably felt he had to be brave in public . . . When he actually could have been devastated by that diagnosis. I thought the title of my post reflected that, but it just took off another way. Anyway, hopefully the thread has run its course by now.

Thank you also for always being a reasonable voice in these discussions.

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Trinity11 — Fri, 08 Mar 2019 16:11:18 GMT

@LilacTree wrote:
@Trinity11 wrote:
I really do not think you should/needed to apologize @LilacTree . If you really feel that way I doubt anyone here is going to change your opinion.

You have been through a lot recently and your perspective is probably affected by all of it. A lot of people probably feel exactly the same as you do but would not dare admit it. I applaud your honesty but you do not have to change your mind about how you feel simply based on a bunch of anonymous strangers reaction.

Thanks for being you....
@Trinity11
what a sweet thing to say, Trinity. To tell you the truth, I actually was feeling sad for Trebek when I said what I did. But it came off wrong, as though I was criticizing him when I was trying to say that he probably felt he had to be brave in public . . . When he actually could have been devastated by that diagnosis. I thought the title of my post reflected that, but it just took off another way. Anyway, hopefully the thread has run its course by now.

Thank you also for always being a reasonable voice in these discussions.

@LilacTree...I like that you give your own perspective on many different situations. A lot of people just want to read all sweetness and light but let's face it, life isn't like that.

Hope you are feeling a bit better. The winter months are sometimes the toughest when fighting chronic illness.

Please try and visit here when you can. Your voice is needed here!

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Lucky Charm — Fri, 08 Mar 2019 16:28:52 GMT

No need to start another thread about this. We're all aware of who isn't invited to the luncheon. Just because of difference of opinions? Please.

So many times lately, threads will be started like the one OP posted about Alex Trebek. No problem. But expect differing opinions.

We've ALL experienced loss of loved one to cancer. You are no different.

So you posted your gut reaction and others posted theirs.

Now you have had that thread taken down.

That's been happening a lot lately.

Posts and threads are deleted. Posters will say 'oh she would never start anything' or 'that's not her posting style, she's always so sweet'.

Well, the proof was in the poof.

@Trinity11 I noticed you did that in the suicide thread (which I agreed with). Why delete it? It's how you feel? Just like this is how Ford felt about Alex Trebek.

Own it as they say.

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Trinity11 — Fri, 08 Mar 2019 16:41:35 GMT

@Lucky Charm wrote:
No need to start another thread about this. We're all aware of who isn't invited to the luncheon. Just because of difference of opinions? Please.

So many times lately, threads will be started like the one OP posted about Alex Trebek. No problem. But expect differing opinions.

We've ALL experienced loss of loved one to cancer. You are no different.

So you posted your gut reaction and others posted theirs.

Now you have had that thread taken down.

That's been happening a lot lately.

Posts and threads are deleted. Posters will say 'oh she would never start anything' or 'that's not her posting style, she's always so sweet'.

Well, the proof was in the poof.

@Trinity11 I noticed you did that in the suicide thread (which I agreed with). Why delete it? It's how you feel? Just like this is how Ford felt about Alex Trebek.

Own it as they say.

@Lucky Charm What suicide thread? And a lot of posts are deleted here without the mod saying why.