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Your Views On Anniversary Parties

CrazyKittyLvr2 — Tue, 12 Feb 2019 16:59:08 GMT

Our 50th anniversary is in a few weeks. A couple of people asked if we were having a party. My sister asked last night. No, we are not. We are both pretty low key and don't want a fuss. Dinner with the kids and my sister's family is fine. Two of his brothers and their wives were given surprise parties. Also they put write ups in the local paper. The paper thing is common here. The parties were very nice but it's not us. I hate being surprised with a passion. and both of our kids know that so no worries there. I told them long ago,surprise me and your're out of the will. lol What is your preference? Big blowout or quiet celebration.

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nana59 — Tue, 12 Feb 2019 17:03:44 GMT

@CrazyKittyLvr2 wrote:
Our 50th anniversary is in a few weeks. A couple of people asked if we were having a party. My sister asked last night. No, we are not. We are both pretty low key and don't want a fuss. Dinner with the kids and my sister's family is fine. Two of his brothers and their wives were given surprise parties. Also they put write ups in the local paper. The paper thing is common here. The parties were very nice but it's not us. I hate being surprised with a passion. and both of our kids know that so no worries there. I told them long ago,surprise me and your're out of the will. lol What is your preference? Big blowout or quiet celebration.

i feel the same way you do!! we've been married 48 years and i've already told my kids not to even think about a party......

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Bri369 — Tue, 12 Feb 2019 17:04:14 GMT

I would absolutely detest that. I'm just not a big party person.

I would rather go on a nice family vacation to celebrate our anniversary. Dinner with a few close friends and family is also another choice.

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deepwaterdotter — Tue, 12 Feb 2019 17:07:22 GMT

Extremely low-key, only the two of us. I doubt either of us will be alive by then. Conratulations to you!

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MKR14 — Tue, 12 Feb 2019 17:09:08 GMT

On our 50th-3 years ago-we felt exactly as you do. I was having some health issues and I didn’t even think I could even have gone to my own anyways.

My husband put a beautiful piece in the paper and I had also. Neither one of knew this and we both were anxious to see the paper but we also surprised each other. THAT was what our 50th was all about to us.

Just a nice card from our kids at Anniversay time brings pleasure to us. They all write a beautiful note in it.

It’s your Anniversary and should celebrate the way you like.

It is nice when someone wants to give you a party and that is really all that counts.

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seaBreeze — Tue, 12 Feb 2019 17:10:29 GMT

My parents told me the same thing, and I did abide by their wishes. I know in the past, my grandparents had a large celebration, received lovely trinkets, that we (the grandkids have) and is now collecting dust. Sweet memories though.

A quiet dinner out, simple, no-fuss is certainly what I will have one day if we "make it."

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stevieb — Tue, 12 Feb 2019 17:12:29 GMT

Regardless of the event or celebration, I prefer mine low-key.

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NicksmomESQ — Tue, 12 Feb 2019 17:12:46 GMT

Honestly, I could go either way.A big party would be fun. But a small intimate dinner with DH,son & his girlfriend would be fine too.

Funny you mention that because my son & I are planning a birthday bash for DH who turns 70 this summer.We are only inviting about 20 people.

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QVCkitty1 — Tue, 12 Feb 2019 17:14:03 GMT

I think that when you go against someone’s wishes, then you are doing it for yourself and not them.

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cherry — Tue, 12 Feb 2019 17:21:26 GMT

Private. When we renewed our wedding vows, ( 50 years)we took our entire family to a restaurant ,afterward

The renewal was a collection of many people, celebrating milestone anniversaries ,and we renewed our vows as part of a group. (We wore nice clothes, and didn't over do it. )

We didn't want gifts or jokes , we just spent the time with our family, enjoying each other's company

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chrystaltree — Tue, 12 Feb 2019 17:20:54 GMT

Some people enjoy big parties, some people don't. I'm in the "don't" category. I'm just not a party hearty type of person. I prefer smaller gatherings of family and close friends to mark the special occasions in my life. We did not have a big 25th anniversary party; we took a family vacation in Hawaii instead. It's funny because I do love planning big parties, I just don't like the idea of being the guest of honor. And I hate the idea of surprise parties! Not a problem because my family and my friends know me well. When people ask about the party, you should just be honest. "We aren't having a big party, we'll celebrate do something small".

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sunshine45 — Tue, 12 Feb 2019 17:21:46 GMT

for a 50th i would think it would be fun to throw a big party for your friends and family. what a great way to celebrate with those you love, especially the ones who have been around all 50 years! parties like this are fun and bring people close together. better to celebrate the life with LIVE than to celebrate the inevitable alternative.

of course, if that isnt your thing, then it is totally your decision. no one should have to do something they dont want to do.

have never heard of putting an anniversary in the newspaper?

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Vivian — Tue, 12 Feb 2019 17:21:18 GMT

My husband and I went to Niagara on the Lake for a long weekend to celebrate our 50th. We did not want any parties. We stayed at a beautiful hotel in town and when we told them we were celebrating our 50th anniversary, we were upgraded to a suite and received a beautiful platter of fruit, cheese, and wine. We saw two plays that weekend, enjoyed a trip to a winery, and had a great time.

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CrazyKittyLvr2 — Tue, 12 Feb 2019 17:22:34 GMT

Thanks for all the responses. I thought I was in the minority on this. I dislike being anywhere near the limelight so to speak. I actually thought of eloping when we got married. We had a wedding but the thought of a church full of people all turning to watch me gave me palpatations.

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drizzellla — Tue, 12 Feb 2019 17:23:11 GMT

I vividly remember my Grandparents (on my Mom's side) 50th Anniversary party. I was about 7-8 years old. There were so many relatives there and it was such a fun occasion. It seemed like every reunion was lots of laughing and good times.

Sadly my Dad's parent never made it to 50 years. My Grandmother died when she was in her 50s.

A cousin (on my Mom's side) had a huge party. They rented a hall and had over a hundred people.

It was so good to see everyone get together for a happy occasion. It is nice to see the extended family at an event other than a funeral.

So if people want to have a party. I am all in and have traveled 1,500 miles to celebrate.

And if they want a small immediate family dinner, well that is nice too.

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CrazyKittyLvr2 — Tue, 12 Feb 2019 17:27:29 GMT

@sunshine45 Yes putting a write up is common here. My one set of in-laws had a picture from their wedding and next to it a picture of them now.

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Azcowgirl — Tue, 12 Feb 2019 17:29:18 GMT

Ours was last September, and we didn’t want a party either......just wanted to do something fun, just the two of us.So we went to Disneyland and had a blast 😃.It was perfect !

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queendiva — Tue, 12 Feb 2019 17:31:17 GMT

@CrazyKittyLvr2: Congratulations to you and DH on such a tremendous milestone!

It certainly should be celebrated, but on your terms. Dinner, trip, something for your home like a new TV, mattress or other furniture that you would both enjoy using.

Congrats and enjoy!

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ALRATIBA — Tue, 12 Feb 2019 17:32:06 GMT

With our family - we rarely do anything "big." Everything is just a family affair at someone's house - no "outsiders."

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FastDogWalker2 — Tue, 12 Feb 2019 17:36:27 GMT

Totally like you - low key and NO surprises!