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2019 Resolutions....

Laura14 — Wed, 19 Dec 2018 16:26:51 GMT

Saw this on IG and thought I would share if you make any promises to yourself.

Don't Forget! You Can:

* Start late

* Start over

* Be unsure or uncertain

* Look different

* Act different

* Try and fail and still be a success

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ShowMe — Wed, 19 Dec 2018 16:36:31 GMT

@Laura14......haven't made any resolutions in years. Always hard to keep.....

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Laura14 — Wed, 19 Dec 2018 16:39:25 GMT

Me neither @ShowMe. Although every year I tell myself to calm down and not care so much. I matter too.

I have to say some recent posts on here pointing that out have helped me remember to do just that. I plan to take that thought into the new year and be me more often rather than the expectation of what I can do for everyone else instead.

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meallen616 — Wed, 19 Dec 2018 16:49:05 GMT

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deepwaterdotter — Wed, 19 Dec 2018 16:51:51 GMT

To celebrate another birthday.

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Oostende — Wed, 19 Dec 2018 17:52:15 GMT

I take a virtue or an attribute to work on through the year.

Patience, mercy, liberality, diligence, courage and endurance, and intellectual insighfulness are all things I've worked on in the past.

I worked on the last one by reading everything I can find that stands in opposition to my own preferred conclusions. Politics is an obvious venue to use, although certainly not the only one. Religion is another. It makes me better able to articulate and support my own positions, or perhaps even change them. Enlightenment is never a bad thing and that is the only way to achieve it.

I keep a small journal through the year and I write down anything inspirational when I come across it. It gives me a powerful reservoir to draw from when I need a reminder or an encouragement.

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Laura14 — Wed, 19 Dec 2018 17:58:51 GMT

That is inspiring @Oostende. I may steal a couple of these. Thank you very much for sharing!

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Drythe — Wed, 19 Dec 2018 20:02:17 GMT

@Laura14 wrote:
That is inspiring @Oostende. I may steal a couple of these. Thank you very much for sharing!

@Laura14 @Oostende

Good thoughts, to your list, I would add Tolerance.

It does seem to be in short supply.

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Cakers3 — Wed, 19 Dec 2018 20:07:56 GMT

I normally do not make resolutions.

Why start on January 1st when there is room for improvement now?

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phoenixbrd — Wed, 19 Dec 2018 20:52:05 GMT

Thank you for this contribution. I, too, work on myself and it is interesting to hear how other people choose to not only improve their lives but recognize who they are and implement their ability to grow and evolve.

@Oostende wrote:
I take a virtue or an attribute to work on through the year.

Patience, mercy, liberality, diligence, courage and endurance, and intellectual insighfulness are all things I've worked on in the past.

I worked on the last one by reading everything I can find that stands in opposition to my own preferred conclusions. Politics is an obvious venue to use, although certainly not the only one. Religion is another. It makes me better able to articulate and support my own positions, or perhaps even change them. Enlightenment is never a bad thing and that is the only way to achieve it.

I keep a small journal through the year and I write down anything inspirational when I come across it. It gives me a powerful reservoir to draw from when I need a reminder or an encouragement.

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Mom2Dogs — Wed, 19 Dec 2018 21:33:09 GMT

Every year I make a couple for my husband and he never keeps them!!

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Laura14 — Wed, 19 Dec 2018 21:41:10 GMT

@Mom2Dogs Then he needs to add that one to the list. Write that down for him!

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Oostende — Thu, 20 Dec 2018 00:15:18 GMT

@Drythe wrote:
@Laura14 wrote:
That is inspiring @Oostende. I may steal a couple of these. Thank you very much for sharing!
@Laura14 @Oostende

Good thoughts, to your list, I would add Tolerance.
It does seem to be in short supply.

Tolerance is an odd one, @Drythe. It is really only a virtue if you disagree with another person over something of significance. I mean, you've nothing to tolerate if you share the same beliefs as another.

I think kindness is more important than mere tolerance. Kindness seems to imply a certain responsibility to treat the person with whom you are disagreeing as a human being who is worthy of respect.

Merely tolerating another point of view sets the bar extremely low, although I agree with your observation that even that low bar is disregarded by most people.

Too many people want to improve their adversary rather than themselves.

That's why I think it's an odd one.

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Drythe — Thu, 20 Dec 2018 06:51:12 GMT

@Oostende wrote:
@Drythe wrote:
@Laura14 wrote:
That is inspiring @Oostende. I may steal a couple of these. Thank you very much for sharing!
@Laura14 @Oostende

Good thoughts, to your list, I would add Tolerance.
It does seem to be in short supply.
Tolerance is an odd one, @Drythe. It is really only a virtue if you disagree with another person over something of significance. I mean, you've nothing to tolerate if you share the same beliefs as another.

I think kindness is more important than mere tolerance. Kindness seems to imply a certain responsibility to treat the person with whom you are disagreeing as a human being who is worthy of respect.

Merely tolerating another point of view sets the bar extremely low, although I agree with your observation that even that low bar is disregarded by most people.

Too many people want to improve their adversary rather than themselves.

That's why I think it's an odd one.

@Oostende

You posted that you worked on a Virtue or Attribute every year and listed some you were interested in. I complimented you on your list and added my thoughts on the value of working towards Tolerance.

Tolerance allowed me to consider the value of your list without critiquing, ranking, or judgment. Your response was that my choice of Tolerance as a virtue is ‘odd’, sets a ‘low bar’, and is ‘not as important' as those you mentioned.

You might want to rethink the value of Tolerance.

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Oostende — Thu, 20 Dec 2018 12:37:16 GMT

@Drythe I apologize. I didn't mean to be dismissive of a value that you hold so dearly. I was untangling the word in my own mind.

I meant to advocate kindness over tolerance because I didn't think tolerance went far enough.

Again, I apologize for meeting your kindness with rudeness.

@Laura14 I am sorry for derailing your thread. I was thinking out loud and these forums are no place for that.

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cherry — Thu, 20 Dec 2018 12:39:13 GMT

Each day is a new, fresh, beginning, for everyone. I try to make it a better day for everyone. Sometimes it works, and sometmes it doesn't.

The important thing is to, keep on, keeping on. Each tiny improvement helps, no matter what issue you are dealing with..and no matter how small the gain, It all counts

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Laura14 — Thu, 20 Dec 2018 13:02:52 GMT

@Oostende No apology needed. I understood the spirit of the message you were trying to convey and I actually agree with it.

I think we get hung up on word choices sometimes especially when we can't hear the tone of the words which can mean different things to different people when read.

I think we all need to tolerate the differences between ourselves and each other and then lead with kindness in clarifying any if we think it's necessary to do so.

All three of us did that here and should be more than okay with ourselves.

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cherry — Thu, 20 Dec 2018 13:07:39 GMT

I think tolerance is amazing @Drythe When I hear how many times the word hatred is thrown around here, I cringe. Usually, it is directed at people they don't even know, and who have done nothing to them at all

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AuntG — Thu, 20 Dec 2018 13:15:31 GMT

This thread shows how thinking out loud can take a thread in the wrong direction.

To answer the question, I want to exercise more and lose weight with a few tweaks in my eating habits. Nothing drastic, just using common sense.

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Drythe — Thu, 20 Dec 2018 13:18:44 GMT

@cherry wrote:
I think tolerance is amazing @Drythe When I hear how many times the word hatred is thrown around here, I cringe. Usually, it is directed at people they don't even know, and who have done nothing to them at all

@cherry

I too am disheartened at how little tolerance there seems to be. I believe that tolerance allows us to listen and perhaps Hear one another, only through really Hearing comes, Understanding of differences, which can lead to Caring, Friendship, and Kindness.

But first must come at least some Tolerance for differences. I see it as a necessary building block which opens doors that otherwise remain closed.