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Thanksgiving pie-how to be honest with a guest

petepetey — Thu, 08 Nov 2018 11:50:12 GMT

For years and years my sister has brought one of the pies we have with our Thanksgiving meal.

It used to be pecan or chocolate.

The last few years she started bringing a pumpkin chiffon pie, which none of us care for. We like traditional baked pumpkin pie.

This year I asked if she would bring a pecan or apple pie. She said no, she wants to bring chiffon pie.

So my option, tell her the truth? Or let her bring the chiffon and I just go ahead and bake the tradition pumpkin too?

I could make apple and pecan along with the pumpkin so it looks like we are having all the pies you could want for a holiday. Can you have too many pies?

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cherry — Thu, 08 Nov 2018 11:52:01 GMT

I'd let her bring it. If no one eats any, she will get the message

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Imaoldhippie — Thu, 08 Nov 2018 11:54:59 GMT

You could do one of two things. Since shes your sister just tell her you and others dont care much of the chiffon style pie. Or just make your own and not say a word and when she has a lot of pie left she may ask why, then you could tell her. No IMO you cant have to many pies.

If it were me I would want to know that people did not like whatever it was I wanted to bring.

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Bri369 — Thu, 08 Nov 2018 12:00:08 GMT

Let her bring the pie.

I would make or buy the pies that everyone likes though.

I don't understand why you have to lie to her. Doesn't she notice that no one eats the pie that she brings?

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meallen616 — Thu, 08 Nov 2018 12:03:09 GMT

@petepetey,

Let her bring the pie, but, make sure you have other pies, desserts too!

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petepetey — Thu, 08 Nov 2018 12:06:26 GMT

I don't like to be too pushy with people, especially my sister. That does that to me

and I hate it. She is the boss or thinks she is.

In past years I knew she was bringing that pie and I would not make my traditional one. Not this year I'm making it!

I never want to hurt anyones feelings.

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cherry — Thu, 08 Nov 2018 12:11:27 GMT

@petepetey you are doing the right thing

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CAMOGIRL — Thu, 08 Nov 2018 12:16:46 GMT

I would just tell her no one cares for that kind of pie. You are not lying and that is not being in anyway hurtful. It is a pie. It is stating a fact, What is the point of bringing one that no one wil eat? To me that is not contributing anything to the meal.

If you don’t feel comfortable saying something, then don’t. Just make two of your pies or make your usual pie and have something else that requires no extra work on your part like ice cream or cookies,

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drizzellla — Thu, 08 Nov 2018 12:44:47 GMT

I do not know the "right" answer. BUT here is what I would do. Say nothing. Make the pies that your guests and you will eat.

She brings her pumpkin chiffon pie. And when she is leaving send the uneaten pumpkin chiffon pie home with her.

I always send leftover turkey or other items home with my guests. And sending the pie home with her would be a great way to get rid of it. Maybe her eating the entire pie herself will make her tire of it.

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Peaches McPhee — Thu, 08 Nov 2018 12:51:09 GMT

Hasn't she noticed that no one is eating her pie?

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Marp — Thu, 08 Nov 2018 12:54:55 GMT

1. Lel her bring the pie.

2. Make the ones that are preferred

3. Send what is left of sister's pie back home with her.

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Krimpette — Thu, 08 Nov 2018 12:55:15 GMT

Maybe she brings it because it's her favorite...and since she probably knows no one else will eat it, then more for her!!!! (I agree with supplying other choices of pies for the rest of the guests. No....I don't think you can ever have too many pies.....mainly because I love pies of all kinds!!!!

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happycat — Thu, 08 Nov 2018 12:55:29 GMT

I would make a traditional pumpkin pie myself.

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dex — Thu, 08 Nov 2018 12:57:50 GMT

I would tell her not to make a large pie as most of the family prefers the traditional pumpkin which you will be adding to the desserts."..said in a non confrontational tone of voice to make sure she doesn’t have hurt feelings and hopefully she will change her mind and offer a different pie choice.

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AuntG — Thu, 08 Nov 2018 13:01:52 GMT

I'd accept whatever she brings and make one other pie, probably an apple one.

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Yahooey — Thu, 08 Nov 2018 13:08:53 GMT

Our gathering is small - 9 people and I usually make dessert. I always do more than one and have experimented in the past. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. I'm the first to say - okay, this will not be made again. Same with side dishes - etc.

We are quite honest - there are picky eaters and may not try it. I'm all in for leftovers which are the best since the day of - it is too much food.

I once made a Banofee Pie and the crust was rock hard. Can't even cut it with a knife - it was hacked into pieces. It was tasty if you have good jaws. Some that didn't have good teeth or want to save their teeth ate the filling but wouldn't attempt the crust. I laughed and jawed my way through.

My brother's family even took some of the leftover pie - he msg me that he is jawing the pie the next day.

You can always ask your sister - we MISSED your pecan pie - can you bring that in additon to the chiffon pie. If she says no - and it is on the table - she can't say she wasn't forwarned.

There can never be too many desserts.

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faeriemoon — Thu, 08 Nov 2018 13:12:59 GMT

@Marp wrote:
1. Lel her bring the pie.
2. Make the ones that are preferred
3. Send what is left of sister's pie back home with her.

Ding, ding, ding!!! We have a winner!

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faeriemoon — Thu, 08 Nov 2018 13:16:50 GMT

When you have the same guests for a holiday year after year, you have a fairly good idea of what they are going to bring. My SIL used to bring a pie from one of her kid's fundraisers every Thanksgiving. Frankly, I never thought they were very good. Eventually I would just make my pie(s) or desserts not even caring what kind of pie she would bring because there was a good chance no one was going to eat hers anyway.

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haddon9 — Thu, 08 Nov 2018 13:18:21 GMT

Do you give your guests take home care packages? I do since I don't want to have a ton of desserts around for me to eat...DH doesn't eat sweets, my kids leave and there is only me to eat a lot of cake & pie! I give my guests lots of the left overs.

You can give your sister her pie back when she leaves....maybe she'll get the message if no one eats it.

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aroc3435 — Thu, 08 Nov 2018 13:21:51 GMT

@petepetey

My answer would be to let her just bring her pumpkin chiffon pie and you set out the other desserts of your choosing that you know the rest of your folks prefer.

For some reason she wants to bring what she wants to bring--who knows why. She has some reason for her choice but you may never know what it is.

As much as I love the Thanksgiving meal itself the most important thing to me has always been the gathering of family and friends. Life is too short to bother your head over a dessert item.

Just enjoy the day and the blessing of having loved ones around you. You never know when someone will be absent from the board in future years.