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Very Upsetting Day....

nana59 — Tue, 04 Sep 2018 00:31:04 GMT

Last November my granddaughter lost her best friend at the age of 16....sudden sepsis...it was, and still is, a very painful time....she would have been a Senior in high school this year....and starting soccer season....when she died, her friends and members of her soccer team painted a large rock at the high school purple-her favorite color-and they all signed the rock....with their handprints. this morning it was vandalized...covered with white paint....it was on the local news and brought tears to my eyes.....who would do such a senseless act....WHY......little did i know when i saw it on the news, my granddaughter and her friends were already there repainting this beautiful memorial to a beautiful soul.....i'd love to be the judge in the courtroom when they catch the punks responsible for this heinous act.....just had to vent...

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Annabellethecat66 — Tue, 04 Sep 2018 00:40:34 GMT

@nana59 There's nothing to say except I'm sorry.

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september — Tue, 04 Sep 2018 00:42:36 GMT

I'm sorry too. There are mean, heartless people out there. Also, more good ones than bad. I'm sure this will get fixed

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DukeBlueNan — Tue, 04 Sep 2018 00:47:58 GMT

Very sad and I'm so sorry.

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shopperqvc — Tue, 04 Sep 2018 00:49:06 GMT

The schools here at one time had statues, and every year an opposing school would paint the statue whatever their colors were. Finally the school boards got tired of it and took down the statues. Then there were benches, and yes, they got painted. No more benches. Now each school has a big rock. The opposing school upperclassmen paint that rock. There must be 50 coats of paint on all those rocks. I know it's sad that they painted a memorial to a classmate. Maybe that rock wasn't supposed to be painted over. Possibly a plaque saying it's a memorial might help.

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nana59 — Tue, 04 Sep 2018 00:52:39 GMT

@shopperqvc wrote:
The schools here at one time had statues, and every year an opposing school would paint the statue whatever their colors were. Finally the school boards got tired of it and took down the statues. Then there were benches, and yes, they got painted. No more benches. Now each school has a big rock. The opposing school upperclassmen paint that rock. There must be 50 coats of paint on all those rocks. I know it's sad that they painted a memorial to a classmate. Maybe that rock wasn't supposed to be painted over. Possibly a plaque saying it's a memorial might help.

it was never painted before....just a large natural stone along the road leading to the high school......

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MoJoV — Tue, 04 Sep 2018 01:31:47 GMT

@nana59 That really is so stupid and typical of teenage behaviour. They think they're being rebels. But more are like your granddaughter doing what's right. These kind of memorials are important to them at that age. Sad about the loss of her friend,so young.

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ms traditional — Tue, 04 Sep 2018 01:40:03 GMT

@nana59 try to cap off your day with the comforting thought that your granddaughter did the right thing. you must be very proud.

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handygal2 — Tue, 04 Sep 2018 01:47:38 GMT

Punks. Just remember, what goes around comes around.

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nana59 — Tue, 04 Sep 2018 02:49:27 GMT

@ms traditional wrote:
@nana59 try to cap off your day with the comforting thought that your granddaughter did the right thing. you must be very proud.

thank you....i am so very proud of her....it breaks my heart that she has had to go through the pain of losing her best friend....and now this......i often tell her my love for her makes me breathe......

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nana59 — Tue, 04 Sep 2018 02:48:43 GMT

@handygal2 wrote:
Punks. Just remember, what goes around comes around.

it can't come around fast enough for me.......

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phoenixbrd — Tue, 04 Sep 2018 08:46:41 GMT

@nana59 Your granddaughter is very lucky to have you as a gammy. I'll bet those who created this heinous act aren't so lucky to have loving family relations. You can be at peace by focusing on your love for your granddaughter and her caring friends. The universe has a way of righting all actions and I'll bet, in time, those who were so callous will regret their decision. But you don't need to spend your energy in that direction. I have so much respect for your ability to love and care so much for your beautiful granddaughter.

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happycat — Tue, 04 Sep 2018 09:07:26 GMT

I'm sorry @nana59. You must be awfully proud of your granddaughter. She sounds like a class act.

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violann — Tue, 04 Sep 2018 10:05:26 GMT

Please tell your wonderful granddaughter that there is NOTHING that can defeat the beautiful spirit that these young women have exhibited in memory of their friend.

Whether their memorial is defaced again or not, it will always be a symbol of their devotion to a comrade who is no longer physically with them, but is most certainly with them in Spirit.

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AuntG — Tue, 04 Sep 2018 10:47:41 GMT

One of the most common themes in literature is 'man's inhumanity to man'. I don't understand vandalism either; it costs taxpayers so much money to repair.

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Peaches McPhee — Tue, 04 Sep 2018 14:16:43 GMT

Believe it or not, this happened locally a few years ago. Anyone from Rochester NY area remember this? The rock was along Route 390 south of Rochester. It was a painted tribute to a soldier who had been killed.

It was defaced, and some local college students confessed after it was reported on the news. They were ashamed of themselves and had done it while drunk, and tried to make it right by repainting it.

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Qshopper1991 — Tue, 04 Sep 2018 17:05:31 GMT

Sad we live in a world where people can't respect things anymore.

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threecees — Tue, 04 Sep 2018 18:13:28 GMT

So sad. Reminds me of when rotten people vandalize a cemetery.

When the bad people are caught they should do all the clean-up and repair with

all of their money.

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shoesrme — Fri, 07 Sep 2018 02:38:54 GMT

@nana59: My daughter’s fiancée died of cancer at 25. A few of my friends brought over a tree and we all planted it. It is a Rose of Sharon tree and now is quite tall. I often think of him and enjoy watching the birds nest in the tree. Perhaps your granddaughter might consider planting one for her friend too.

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RedTop — Fri, 07 Sep 2018 03:22:35 GMT

Last summer, this county saw a lot of revitalization efforts to local ugly spots and eyesores. One hot Saturday, a volunteer crew spent more than 8 hours painting over graffiti in one very remote hangout spot.

That very night, a group of recent high school graduates vandalized that area, and destroyed all the hard work of those volunteers. Little did they know their senseless act was caught on a litter control camera!

All of those kids were identified, mandated to appear at a certain time and place where they got to watch themselves in action, then scrape and repaint what they vandalized, plus do other hours of community service. It was Karma at its best!