topic Re: I'm confused in Community Chat

I'm confused

newname0 — Thu, 09 Aug 2018 18:40:25 GMT

I went to see a new doctor I was assigned to with a hypenated name and I asked him why he hypenated his name and he told me it was his wife's name. Now I can't figure out what he meant by that. My son's wife hypenated her name but my son is still using his own given name. Have you ever heard of the man taking the woman's name?

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RedTop — Thu, 09 Aug 2018 18:44:55 GMT

Yes I have heard of this. I don't know of anyone who has done it, but I have heard of it being done.

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SharkE — Thu, 09 Aug 2018 18:46:37 GMT

She must have the most money

ROFL

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dooBdoo — Fri, 10 Aug 2018 01:11:09 GMT

I know a couple who decided to use both last names in a unique (to me, anyway) manner. I won’t use their real name (it's an unusual one), but as an example: Jane Smith married John Wilson. After the marriage, she changed her name to Jane Wilson Smith and he changed his to John Smith Wilson. They wanted to honor both families’ history and ancestry in that way.😊

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CrazyDaisy — Thu, 09 Aug 2018 18:49:44 GMT

Becoming very common, mutual respect.

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I am still oxox — Thu, 09 Aug 2018 20:21:48 GMT

John Smith married Mary Ward

If he takes her name he is John Smith-Ward or John Ward-Smith

Not all the difficult to understand

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151949 — Thu, 09 Aug 2018 18:58:33 GMT

I know a couple who also did this Mary Smith married John Doe - they both changed their names to Smith - Doe so when they have children everyone's name will be the same.

To be perfectly honest I don't understand why the OP thinks that personal information about her doctor is really any of her business.

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millieshops — Thu, 09 Aug 2018 19:00:35 GMT

@newname0 Now I'm confused. Are you confused about how to address the doctor or about why he chose to use both names?

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deepwaterdotter — Thu, 09 Aug 2018 20:46:52 GMT

@millieshops wrote:
@newname0 Now I'm confused. Are you confused about how to address the doctor or about why he chose to use both names?

I was wondering the same thing. I used to work with a gentleman who married a female Methodist pastor and took her last name hypenated with his last name (Mr. Her last name - His last name). She used the same combination of hyphenated last names also.

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151949 — Thu, 09 Aug 2018 19:04:07 GMT

@millieshops wrote:
@newname0 Now I'm confused. Are you confused about how to address the doctor or about why he chose to use both names?

Just call him Doctor. easy peasy.

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hckynut — Thu, 09 Aug 2018 19:09:41 GMT

@newname0,

Yes, but not until this new era replaced "my old times"!

hckynut(john)

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Mj12 — Thu, 09 Aug 2018 19:13:17 GMT

Yes, I know someone who has done this.

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RoughDraft — Thu, 09 Aug 2018 19:13:40 GMT

@newname0 wrote:
I went to see a new doctor I was assigned to with a hypenated name and I asked him why he hypenated his name and he told me it was his wife's name. Now I can't figure out what he meant by that. My son's wife hypenated her name but my son is still using his own given name. Have you ever heard of the man taking the woman's name?

Yes, I've heard of it.

Incidentally, you mention your son using his own "given" name. That would be his first name. Are we discussing surnames or "given" names?

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SilleeMee — Thu, 09 Aug 2018 19:14:32 GMT

Latinos have been taking dual last names for quite some time. Where it gets really confusing is when a marriage happens and the wife changes her name to include his multiple last names...very confusing!!

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blackhole99 — Thu, 09 Aug 2018 19:16:16 GMT

I get the mutual respect thing, but I bet Joe Average is not taking his wife's maiden name on. It seems the wealthy, well educated, enlightened couples like that sort of thing.

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newname0 — Thu, 09 Aug 2018 19:27:20 GMT

To Everybody

It stuck in my craw because of my two grandchildren who now have hypenated names and I wanted to ask the doctor why he chose using a hypenated name. I don't think I was being personal. After all he was concerned with my personal business.

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blackhole99 — Thu, 09 Aug 2018 19:28:05 GMT

@SilleeMeeOh yes, a former girlfriend of my sons had two last names. I believe the Mom's maiden name was first and the Dad's surname was last. This darling girl was from Puerto Rico.

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Alison Wonderland — Thu, 09 Aug 2018 19:34:43 GMT

Yes. Sometimes they both take the woman's name, sometimes they hyphenate, sometimes they do something else. When Alexa Vega married Carlos Pena, they both change their last name to PenaVega, no hypen.

I think it's a great idea. It's either neither partner or the woman who usually has to have her legal documentation changed - ID, social, credit cards, etc. - and this shares that burden evenly.

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QVCkitty1 — Thu, 09 Aug 2018 19:42:16 GMT

@151949 wrote:
@millieshops wrote:
@newname0 Now I'm confused. Are you confused about how to address the doctor or about why he chose to use both names?
Just call him Doctor. easy peasy.

I totally agree, this is just none of her business.

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Love my grandkids — Thu, 09 Aug 2018 20:03:24 GMT

I'm another who doesn't think it was any of the OP's business to ask a medical provider why his name was hyPHenated. I mean, who cares?