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Respect for people

goldensrbest — Fri, 13 Jul 2018 16:57:35 GMT

If you know of a person that shows no respect to others,does that make you not have respect for them?

Re: Respect for people

MoJoV — Fri, 13 Jul 2018 16:59:57 GMT

I give what I get...simple as that.

Re: Respect for people

deepwaterdotter — Fri, 13 Jul 2018 17:02:11 GMT

I aspire to be civil to all I encounter, my respect is earned.

Re: Respect for people

Free2be — Fri, 13 Jul 2018 17:05:45 GMT

Knowing "of" a such a person and actually knowing them would give two different answers. Even then, few people respect nobody at all as most people have someone in their lives that matter enough that a generally disrespectful person would behave better toward that one or more person(s).

I try to avoid developing blanket attitudes.

Re: Respect for people

golding76 — Fri, 13 Jul 2018 17:18:07 GMT

Dear goldensrbest,

Your question makes me question my own behavior because I tend to freeze out people who show disrespect for others. But that is a form of disrespect itself, isn't it? I can naively believe that, deep down, we can all find mutuality and common "kumbaya" feelings. The truth is, some people do have petty or ugly natures and it is wise to protect oneself from such people. That is life.

So, yes, I do lose respect for those who evince disrespectful behavior.

For better or worse, I have an instinctive sense of who is a good-hearted person and who is not. I can "smell" those whose life's purpose is to upset others or to make others uncomfortable or unhappy. Do I respect such people? No.

A big "however" is that I can change my mind about someone. An individual might initially be what I consider disrespectful. but, over time, mature into a better human being. That does happen on occasion. (At this time, I am living this experience. Several decades have passed since I dealt with a certain someone who has now become a very compassionate and respectful human being. Something changed her, and I do not know what it was. At one time, she and I were at odds and now we are allies.)

Re: Respect for people

SahmIam — Fri, 13 Jul 2018 17:13:44 GMT

No. To do so would make me a hypocrite and there is nothing I despise more.

Re: Respect for people

Shanus — Fri, 13 Jul 2018 17:17:02 GMT

@goldensrbest wrote:
If you know of a person that shows no respect to others,does that make you not have respect for them?

@goldensrbest If they show no respect to ME, then I have no respect for THEM. I have no control how people interact with others.

Re: Respect for people

Imaoldhippie — Fri, 13 Jul 2018 17:33:43 GMT

I have no respect for them and I distance myself from them.

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Burnsite — Fri, 13 Jul 2018 17:36:10 GMT

Yes, it's about the only thing that leads me to give up on someone.

Re: Respect for people

DiAnne — Fri, 13 Jul 2018 17:39:48 GMT

@goldensrbest wrote:
If you know of a person that shows no respect to others,does that make you not have respect for them?

Absolutely! I was raised in a family where manners and being respectful of others was paramount.

Re: Respect for people

QVCkitty1 — Fri, 13 Jul 2018 17:53:32 GMT

If someone that I'm with is rude to a server, we are done. It tells me all I need to know about their character, and I can't deal with that kind of behavior.

Re: Respect for people

TaylorBrown — Fri, 13 Jul 2018 18:27:08 GMT

Pretty much.

Re: Respect for people

Greeneyedlady21 — Fri, 13 Jul 2018 20:31:33 GMT

@goldensrbest wrote:
If you know of a person that shows no respect to others,does that make you not have respect for them?

Yes because respect is earned. If they show no respect for others then they haven't earned my respect. By ignoring that fact and respecting them, to me that's endorsing their behavior and lack of character.

Re: Respect for people

January121 — Fri, 13 Jul 2018 21:06:47 GMT

I don’t associate with people who don’t respect others 🙃

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hsawaknow — Fri, 13 Jul 2018 22:45:35 GMT

I always give people a 2nd chance. I dont know if they are having a bad day or going through a hard time. But if they are always rude, then thats it. I dont respect them and have nothing more to do with them.

Re: Respect for people

AuntG — Fri, 13 Jul 2018 23:02:43 GMT

@QVCkitty1 wrote:
If someone that I'm with is rude to a server, we are done. It tells me all I need to know about their character, and I can't deal with that kind of behavior.

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That is a gauge I use too @QVCkitty1. I don't mean to patronize people, but I go out of my way to thank the bagger at my grocery store who has some challenges and is out there working every day.

Re: Respect for people

seaBreeze — Fri, 13 Jul 2018 23:16:55 GMT

@goldensrbest

Your nic made me think of what I learned in school ... "do unto others." I guess that is a golden rule to follow. I know we are supposed to take the high road when we are wronged, but that's difficult for me.

Re: Respect for people

lovesrecess — Fri, 13 Jul 2018 23:45:32 GMT

I respect others as people.. I may not respect their behavior or beliefs..they must earn my respect in other areas.

Re: Respect for people

RedTop — Fri, 13 Jul 2018 23:58:46 GMT

Yes, but my good cause situations applied to a blood relative and an ex in-law. I washed my hands of both, and never looked back.

The blood relative died 7 years ago, and I hadn’t spoken to him since 1998. None of my immediate family attended his funeral.

The ex in-law moved out of state earlier this year. She finally gave up and realized she was no longer considered part of the family.

Re: Respect for people

LoveMyBaby — Sat, 14 Jul 2018 00:58:25 GMT

@QVCkitty1 wrote:
If someone that I'm with is rude to a server, we are done. It tells me all I need to know about their character, and I can't deal with that kind of behavior.

Ditto.