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Amount for wedding gift

shellbeach — Tue, 10 Jul 2018 00:34:05 GMT

I am woefully not up to date on what is an appropriate amount of cash to give as a wedding gift. I was invited to a wedding and while I don't plan to attend, the groom is the son of a friend. I don't know the son well, but do want to send something to send good wishes to the couple. How much do folks gift these days?

Re: Amount for wedding gift

panda1234 — Tue, 10 Jul 2018 00:35:31 GMT

Just had the same thing happen twice this year, $100.

Re: Amount for wedding gift

happycat — Tue, 10 Jul 2018 00:41:16 GMT

It seems to me that different folks have different ideas about amounts. Anywhere from 20 bucks to 100 is what I have seen on this board. My husband's counsin's son got married, I sent him a check for 75.

A friends daughter got married, I got her a skillet like one I had and loved and gave a check for 50, I think, it was a few years back.

Re: Amount for wedding gift

Goldengate8361 — Tue, 10 Jul 2018 00:42:28 GMT

It depends entirely on your budget. $100 seems like far too much to me, particularly since you don’t really know the groom or bride.

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blackhole99 — Tue, 10 Jul 2018 00:52:35 GMT

I was giving 100 dollars for a wedding gift 40 years ago. My niece just got married and we gave them 500 dollars. Thank goodness we only have 2 nephews who are not married yet.

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Mz iMac — Tue, 10 Jul 2018 01:12:08 GMT

"I was invited to a wedding....."

"...son of a friend. I don't know the son well..."

Why the invite then? Prime example of "invite for gift." If I were in your shoes, I would send them a nice wedding card & like you, not attend. Nothing more & nothing less.

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I am still oxox — Tue, 10 Jul 2018 01:14:07 GMT

Last two weddings I have gone to I gave either 300 or 360 (20 times chai)

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ahoymate — Tue, 10 Jul 2018 01:19:47 GMT

I'm giving $25 AmEx card with a congrats card. Whoppee! Hey, if you don't know the couple that well and they are expecting a gift.....That's it. Don't expect a thank you either.

Invited but not attending the wedding.

Re: Amount for wedding gift

VanSleepy — Tue, 10 Jul 2018 01:21:31 GMT

@I am still oxox wrote:
Last two weddings I have gone to I gave either 300 or 360 (20 times chai)

OK maybe I'm having a duh moment, but what's 20 times chai mean?

Re: Amount for wedding gift

fthunt — Tue, 10 Jul 2018 01:33:39 GMT

I say..........$100 if you've been to a picnic with them - - no picnic = $50 max

(for those not understanding - clarification: if you know them well = the higher amount......don't know them but you know their relatives = the lower figure)

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kittyloo — Tue, 10 Jul 2018 01:40:03 GMT

@Mz iMac wrote:
"I was invited to a wedding....."
"...son of a friend. I don't know the son well..."
Why the invite then? Prime example of "invite for gift." If I were in shoes, I would send them a nice wedding card & like you, not attend. Nothing more & nothing less.

great minds think alike.

Re: Amount for wedding gift

kittyloo — Tue, 10 Jul 2018 01:42:23 GMT

how about this? If the invitation left out the sons name, would you know what it was right away?

If the answer to that is no.... a card is sufficient.

gift grab.

Re: Amount for wedding gift

beach-mom — Tue, 10 Jul 2018 01:47:21 GMT

The standard "gift" around her is $50-$100. I'm coming up on wedding #3 this summer. If DH and I both go, I give $100; if I go by myself, I give $50. If I know the couple well (like in wedding #2), I try to give them something from their registry.

Re: Amount for wedding gift

shellbeach — Tue, 10 Jul 2018 01:51:26 GMT

Quite a variety of thoughts! I started out thinking $50, then thought maybe $100 is more appropriate. After reading the comments, I am back to my original thought of $50 max. Appreciate all the input!

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Janey2 — Tue, 10 Jul 2018 01:52:40 GMT

I guess it depends on what part of the country you live. We always are invited to friends sons and daughters weddings..Sometimes we have never met the children. Sometimes it is a business relationship and we do not know the children. If you do not plan to go I would give $200 or $250.

Re: Amount for wedding gift

fthunt — Tue, 10 Jul 2018 01:54:27 GMT

Glad we could help - - enjoyed the posting. You are welcome!

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GinzTonic — Tue, 10 Jul 2018 01:59:08 GMT

i feel like every time this subject comes up, there is always a wide swing . It seems there are great regional differences. If we go to a wedding it’s like 400-500$ ,depending who it is...

Re: Amount for wedding gift

RollTide2008 — Tue, 10 Jul 2018 01:59:35 GMT

I think it depends on the norm in your social circle. If I don’t know the bride or groom and I’m not going to the wedding, I send a card with a hand written note expressing well wishes.

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faeriemoon — Tue, 10 Jul 2018 02:04:24 GMT

I don't think it's weird to be invited to the wedding of the son of a friend. When parents put together a wedding guest list they include their friends too if they are close to them.

If you are not planning to attend, I wouldn't give less than $100.

Re: Amount for wedding gift

Shanus — Tue, 10 Jul 2018 02:08:56 GMT

@shellbeach wrote:
I am woefully not up to date on what is an appropriate amount of cash to give as a wedding gift. I was invited to a wedding and while I don't plan to attend, the groom is the son of a friend. I don't know the son well, but do want to send something to send good wishes to the couple. How much do folks gift these days?

@shellbeach When in doubt, instead of cash I like to give a gift. Check to see if they’ve registered for things they need. Your friend may be able to help you w/ a list of where to look.