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NO TRUER WORDS

catlover — Sun, 24 Jun 2018 16:50:41 GMT

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twocent — Sun, 24 Jun 2018 18:12:44 GMT

Have to say my husband is (of the people who live in the same state as I. My female best friend lives in another state. )

Long story and not for here, but I will always long to have had a loving Mother. She was anything- but. Father was even worse and she supported him in it.

Happy for you to have been blessed with a wonderful , loving Mom.

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151949 — Sun, 24 Jun 2018 17:09:01 GMT

My Mom & i were very close. When I got married the second time she asked me if she could be my MOH. How could I possibly say no? Yes, she was my very best ever friend - not counting husbands - they are lovers , much different than friends.

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Spurt — Sun, 24 Jun 2018 18:26:32 GMT

@catlover

Although I have some long time friends that are like sisters, I must say my mom was my best friend---we had a lot of interests in common and fun times together, she passed away several years ago and I do miss her.....

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Love my grandkids — Sun, 24 Jun 2018 17:57:58 GMT

Those of you who have good mons, count your blessings, whether she is your "best friend" or not.

I had a horrible, cold, self-centered, nasty "mother."

She died in 2003 and we didn't and don't miss her

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twocent — Sun, 24 Jun 2018 18:17:24 GMT

@Love my grandkids

I sadly can relate, all too well. Sorry you experienced this too. You never get over wondering what it would have been like to have had a loving , affectionate parent.

Don't want to turn what can be a beautiful thread too negative , so I will leave it at this.

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qualitygal — Sun, 24 Jun 2018 18:22:45 GMT

@twocent, Sending you a cyber hug. You deserve one today.

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OKPrincess — Sun, 24 Jun 2018 18:52:52 GMT

I was so blessed to have had a mom like I did.

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twocent — Sun, 24 Jun 2018 20:10:50 GMT

@qualitygal

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bootsanne — Sun, 24 Jun 2018 21:04:49 GMT

@Spurt wrote:
@catlover

Although I have some long time friends that are like sisters, I must say my mom was my best friend---we had a lot of interests in common and fun times together, she passed away several years ago and I do miss her.....

@Spurt .....You just brought tears to my eyes. My mom's been gone for almost 40 years and I still miss her immensely. Plus I'm a catlover so this was too much.

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cherry — Sun, 24 Jun 2018 21:11:04 GMT

I treasure my mother, but, many people didn't have that relationship. Some of the people here ,I admire the most went through hell, because of their mother

So, lets not just assume everyone had a great mom

For those that didn't have a good mother,. I think you mothered yourself , the best that you could, and consider yourself hugged by me. You are a good person

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suzyQ3 — Sun, 24 Jun 2018 21:13:11 GMT

For many, yes, there are truer words.

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Foolywooly11 — Sun, 24 Jun 2018 23:40:52 GMT

Sooo true!

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viva923 — Mon, 25 Jun 2018 19:55:52 GMT

I left home when I was 17 (yes I did graduate from high school).

My mother and I never bonded in any way shape of form.

I wish my mother liked me better than what she did.

I was never able to give my mom what she wanted (glory,,graduating from a prestige college,marrying a very rich man —am still married to my husband for 48 yrs now —blue collar worker) and other accolades she so desperately wanted. She got all these accolades from my 3 sisters so I wasn’t exactly on her good list

I see all the people who loved their mom and was close to them and in a way I am jealous of them, I wish I could have a closeness I always wanted

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Hooty — Mon, 25 Jun 2018 20:13:54 GMT

I just don't understand why most people think "everyone" had a family life like a Rockwell painting, it's just not realistic!!!

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occasionalrain — Mon, 25 Jun 2018 20:32:07 GMT

I find it unkind and thoughtless to publicly brag about one's mother, husband, children...it serves no purpose and the only ones who care are the mothers, husbands and children getting accolades and those who are hurt by it feeling left out and deprived.

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blackhole99 — Mon, 25 Jun 2018 21:38:30 GMT

@occasionalrainI hear you. That being said, people like to brag about many things, that's human nature, especially with women. We like to give credit and praise where it's due. My Mom and I were not close as in girlfriend close, but she did the best she could do as a Mother, which wasn't too great. I loved her anyway, but no matter what I did I could not make her happy and did not realize until I was in my 50's that that was not my place. Those of us who had crappy parents will always long for what we missed no matter how old we are. What I did learn from her was to choose who you love wisely, I did and married a great guy.

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MoJoV — Mon, 25 Jun 2018 21:56:24 GMT

@bootsanne you replied my thoughts as I sit here with tears in my eyes. @Spurt such a sweet,true photo. 😢

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151949 — Mon, 25 Jun 2018 21:59:21 GMT

When I hear the song "The Dance" by Garth Brooks I always relate it to my parents. They have been gone 27 years now and it is still an ache in my heart.

"I could have missed the pain , but I would have had to miss the dance."

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Mominohio — Mon, 25 Jun 2018 23:35:45 GMT

My mom and I didn't start out as best friends, she insisted she was my mother, not my friend. And I'm glad she did.

Girls and teens don't need a best friend nearly as much as they need a mom who will keep them on track.

As we've aged, we are more like friends, but still there is a mother/daughter dynamic that is much more needed by both of us, than the friendship.

Either way, she is the strongest, most stable and dependable person in my life. Always has been. Always will be.