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All dressed up????

151949 — Fri, 22 Jun 2018 19:38:34 GMT

Going out for a casual dinner with friends. It is very hot & humid so I decided to wear a tank style maxi dress because it would be cool, and my crochet shrug.So - 3 people have commented on how I am so dressed up. - Why did I get so dressed up? etc. Since when is a t shirt jersey tank dress dressed up? What is wrong with our society when putting on a simple, plain dress and casual sweater is all dressed up.Jewelry - garnet stud earrings - silver mermaid pendant and a silver with enamel seashell bracelet I bought at cracker barrell.

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RoughDraft — Fri, 22 Jun 2018 19:47:37 GMT

What's wrong with our society? That could take hours or days to answer but I don't think it has anything to do with what those three people said.

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deepwaterdotter — Fri, 22 Jun 2018 19:50:33 GMT

What is considered 'dressed down' in your area? Here in Wisconsin, I would consider the outfit you described as appropriate attire for a Friday fish fry. Enjoy!

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SandPiper — Fri, 22 Jun 2018 19:52:02 GMT

I totally understand what you’re saying. A couple of weeks ago we went out with a few couples and they said “whoa you didn’t have to dress up for us”. I was wearing a short sleeve striped maxi dress and sandals. Nothing special. I don’t get these comments either.

But heck I was comfortable and I felt good. I will wear what I want.

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bikerbabe — Fri, 22 Jun 2018 19:52:59 GMT

For me that would be dressed up, especially considering I don’t wear dresses of any kind. LOL.

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tansy — Fri, 22 Jun 2018 19:54:37 GMT

How were the others dressed? I’m guessing a tee and capris, in which case you are dressed up but who cares?

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kittyloo — Fri, 22 Jun 2018 19:53:45 GMT

first let me say, i always have a dress on. long, with a shawl, duster, or wrap of some kind, and am accessorized.

I think that for some people if you are not wearing pants, or shorts, you must be dressed up. Is it unusual for you to wear a casual dress?

Just take it as a compliment, that you looked nice. Maybe it was more not that you were overdressed, but they made no effort.

I get comments on my attire almost daily from strangers.

usually in the form of a compliment.

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cotton4me — Fri, 22 Jun 2018 19:54:06 GMT

Your outfit sounds pretty. I think wearing a dress, even a casual one, can seem dressier.

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sunshine45 — Fri, 22 Jun 2018 19:58:41 GMT

dressed up to some may be dressed down to others may be a regular outfit to still others......it really depends on the individual and it doesnt sound like they were criticizing you.

just say "thanks, i love dressing this way."

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GenXmuse — Fri, 22 Jun 2018 20:06:14 GMT

Just take it as a compliment and not read societal ills into it. This is the least of society’s problems.

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Diva on The Q — Fri, 22 Jun 2018 20:24:12 GMT

Maybe your friends wished they had dressed up a little more.

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luvdoodles — Fri, 22 Jun 2018 20:25:47 GMT

I understand where you are coming from. If I showed up to dinner at a restaurant to meet friends they would consider that dressed up. Even eating out most people are in jeans or capris and a t-shirt this time of year, at least around here. I do own one maxi dress and only wear it when I am on vacation somewhere. In our area everyone lives a very casual lifestyle even when eating out. I would not mind having to get dressed up once in awhile though.

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aggravated — Fri, 22 Jun 2018 20:26:09 GMT

I am the only person in my office that wears dresses or skirt outfits to work 99% of the time. It's a law office too. Most of the others look okay, no one looks outstanding and a few are now wearing yoga pants - go figure. The Yoga pant wearers look as though they are going to the mall or sit outside somewhere and that 's putting a positive spin on things. I don't know what happened - guess they are "comfortable." Personally, I wish they would put a little more thought and effort into their work outfits. Wonder what they dress down in while not here?

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chrystaltree — Fri, 22 Jun 2018 20:26:12 GMT

That's not society. That's just the people you hang with....lol Granted, people do dress much more casually today but your outfit is just as casual as jeans and tee. It's just more appropriate for the weather. Having said that; I hear that from one particular person all the time. I like to dress up and sometimes I do over dress a bit. I'd rather look good.....than not good enough...lol

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haddon9 — Fri, 22 Jun 2018 20:33:54 GMT

Maybe to some any time a woman wears a dress it's considered "dressed up" more so than wearing a pair of capris.

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Tinkrbl44 — Fri, 22 Jun 2018 20:56:42 GMT

@151949 wrote:
Going out for a casual dinner with friends. It is very hot & humid so I decided to wear a tank style maxi dress because it would be cool, and my crochet shrug.So - 3 people have commented on how I am so dressed up. - Why did I get so dressed up? etc. Since when is a t shirt jersey tank dress dressed up? What is wrong with our society when putting on a simple, plain dress and casual sweater is all dressed up.Jewelry - garnet stud earrings - silver mermaid pendant and a silver with enamel seashell bracelet I bought at cracker barrell.

@151949

Sounds like a pretty outfit, but the crochet shrug probably appeared "lacey" so maybe that's why you got the dressed up comment.

You didn't mention what type of restaurant or what the others were wearing. The women probably just threw something on ..... and later felt underdressed. Not your problem. JMO

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kaydee50 — Fri, 22 Jun 2018 20:58:18 GMT

When I wear a dress because it's cooler than any sort of pants, my DH will say "what are you all dressed up for" so I do think for some people just the idea of wearing a dress or skirt is being dressed up.

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Zhills — Fri, 22 Jun 2018 21:10:47 GMT

Then add a crocheted shrug and jewelry and, sure looks like you made the effort to be 'dressed up'!

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Kitlynn — Fri, 22 Jun 2018 21:31:45 GMT

I think being very dressed down for all occasions is what is in right now. I personally feel like you should just dress how you feel and what suits your own sense of fashion, style and what is appropriate for an occasion no matter how big or small. Fashion should be a personal style and you shouldn't feel like you have to do what anyone else does nor should you worry about others opinions. It is not going to change the world one way or another. Fashion should be fun and enjoyed. I am sure you looked fabulous and hopefully you felt great!

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Trinity11 — Fri, 22 Jun 2018 22:03:22 GMT

@151949 wrote:
Going out for a casual dinner with friends. It is very hot & humid so I decided to wear a tank style maxi dress because it would be cool, and my crochet shrug.So - 3 people have commented on how I am so dressed up. - Why did I get so dressed up? etc. Since when is a t shirt jersey tank dress dressed up? What is wrong with our society when putting on a simple, plain dress and casual sweater is all dressed up.Jewelry - garnet stud earrings - silver mermaid pendant and a silver with enamel seashell bracelet I bought at cracker barrell.

3 people are not "society." I would not pass judgement on "society" at large because 3 of your friends consider wearing a dress "dressed up".