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Jumping in feet first! (sorry long)

dulwich — Sun, 10 Jun 2018 23:36:41 GMT

For months DH and I have been sorting packing, readying for 'big' final move to be near our kids.

We have huge artwork collection, sculptures, books English fine china, crystal glasses, books - you name it not to mention photos, Xmas decorations and years and years of invoices, bills. I am looking at about 24 large packed cartons and more to go. Very tiring and emotional.

Family say they want this piece of furniture and that painting but do they really? Do we pay between $10 to $15,000 movers fees plus storage at new destination - as we are downsizing - awaiting kids to sort out what they want or not it seems their wants change weekly.

Today I made the jump - called in a house clearance/sales very nice, highly recommended local lady who - not bragging - was very enthusiastic about our home contents - and DH and I have decided to sell the lot! Sales Lady told us the dealers sale would be first and she knew they would be very interested.

Forget what the kids do and do not want- which changes daily- there are a few exceptions sentimental paintings and sculptures which will adorn our new much smaller home plus we will purchase new furniture what we need there.

The relief of this decision is enormous - now have to phone kids - who all own their own homes fully furnished - and guess what - we now start unpacking as everything going into sale. What does not sell goes to local Animal Shelter thrift shop. My main worry now - will I feel the same tomorrow / sale will be in August. Help!

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tedEbear — Sun, 10 Jun 2018 23:42:50 GMT

@dulwich----If the kids really wanted something, they would have said "I want the dogs playing poker picture". If they didn't, they don't want it. Sell it and use the money for something you and DH want.-----------tedEbear

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Bird mama — Sun, 10 Jun 2018 23:44:34 GMT

I think it's a great idea.

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millieshops — Sun, 10 Jun 2018 23:50:29 GMT

@dulwichI applaud you for making the decision and acting. Anyone who hasn't downsized significantly or moved recently just has no idea of both the physical and mental work involved.

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jeanlake — Sun, 10 Jun 2018 23:50:53 GMT

Sounds terrific -- keep it up and good luck.

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Ladylaughsalot — Sun, 10 Jun 2018 23:52:23 GMT

You are doing exactly what DH and I are getting ready to do. Estate Sale is definitely the way to go.

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Kachina624 — Sun, 10 Jun 2018 23:53:46 GMT

@dulwich. I bet you'll feel a great sense of relief when this burden of too much stuff is lifted from your shoulders.

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ellaphant — Sun, 10 Jun 2018 23:55:00 GMT

After my mother and father died, I cleared out their home and called a auction house to take the big items- furniture, crystal, china, paintings and more. My parents lived a very different lifestyle and had different taste than myself. I kept things that were important to me. I don't feel you need to spend money to ship items for your children. Let them pay for the shipping or come and take it themselves.

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Sweetbay magnolia — Sun, 10 Jun 2018 23:55:29 GMT

Do what you wish.

My Mom has gotten rid of things that I would have liked, but I respect her desire to live as she pleases, when she pleases.

It will all be water under the bridge.

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sidsmom — Sun, 10 Jun 2018 23:56:06 GMT

That has to be the best feeling!

Good for you for making this decision,

definitely a weight off your shoulders.

Good luck w/ the move!

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dulwich — Sun, 10 Jun 2018 23:58:34 GMT

Thank you for the support Ladies. The last months have been so fraught with emotions - kids want this, kids want that - then they call - no we wanted the other - DH and I ready to kill each other. Now we feel so much relief and are beginning to look forward not backward.

Thanks again, much appreciated

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puttypiesmom — Mon, 11 Jun 2018 00:01:47 GMT

@dulwich "My main worry now - will I feel the same tomorrow / sale will be in August. Help!"

Having gone through it, yes, unfortunately there will be a mourning period, there was for us though thankfully it was brief. But from time to time I do think of certain things we got rid of and it pains me. Sentimental objects that we had for many years - furniture that was made exceptionally well, etc. Feeling sad, well, goes with the territory. Good luck.

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eddyandme — Mon, 11 Jun 2018 00:04:32 GMT

I think you did the right thing! When it's my time, I want everything auctioned off and all proceeds to go to various rescues.

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Bridgegal — Mon, 11 Jun 2018 00:05:21 GMT

@dulwich

Good for you and good luck to you. It must feel liberating to have made that decision. Happy move to you.

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SeaMaiden — Mon, 11 Jun 2018 00:09:21 GMT

@dulwich Can I ask how much percentage of the sales the sales company charges? My husband will be doing this with his Mothers home and contents soon.

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Mom2Dogs — Mon, 11 Jun 2018 00:20:14 GMT

@dulwich good for you for deciding what is best for the two of you....the big question is...have you told the kids?

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Daysdee — Mon, 11 Jun 2018 00:27:59 GMT

Good decision. Enjoy your new home.

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dulwich — Mon, 11 Jun 2018 00:41:06 GMT

@SeaMaiden Our lady takes 30% for this she comes in organizes everything brings display tables, tickets everything, arranges it all - and for the dealer sales she will provide wine & cheese. After dealer sales evenings she will have two open, advertised, public sales or if necessary will conduct silent auctions too - at the end of it all she will clear and arrange transportation of any stuff left to Animal thrift shop. She has come highly recommended and is a local business lady and we have been told very honest.

@Mom2Dogs Yes just got off the phone - no great upsets as the few items we are bringing they are happy about and "Mum if you make big bucks we'll all go on a cruise". The other comments were great that means you'll get here quicker! We are thinking of getting a Winnebago for us and dogs and taking our time traveling/moving once all the sales are done then the kids can use Winnebago.

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RedTop — Mon, 11 Jun 2018 00:42:45 GMT

Just do it, and don’t look back!

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GingerPeach — Mon, 11 Jun 2018 00:52:16 GMT

@dulwich

The main thing is you asked them.

My mom wasn't even selling her house but she got rid of some things I would have wanted. She didn't tell anyone what she was doing; she just got rid of things. And one box of old comic books was mine and I never got a chance to retrieve it. (Those could have been rather valuable but that's beside the point.)

You did your part, and did it well. Now you can look forward to your new life in new surroundings. All the best!