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Is this odd?

Shorty2U — Fri, 04 May 2018 04:14:43 GMT

I'm wondering what you all think of this. (My husband thinks I worry over nothing a lot and I do at times but..)

We have newer neighbors across from us (a couple that looks maybe late 30s?) Every morning (mostly just weekdays) at 410 AM till almost 5, the man sits out on the slate walking stones (leading to the house), sometimes the dog is with many times not..

He is staring at our house the entire time (right across from him). And their whole house is dark when he does this. No lights.

He then (like clock work!) goes in the house 3 to 4 minutes before my husband leaves for work. (because my husband didn't see him when he left for work! which made me look like Im dreaming this lol. till I finally told my husband to look from our bedroom window!)

To that my husband says so what maybe he cant sleep (like me) and is getting fresh air) At 410 AM in the dark?

I have insomnia so a lot of times i am up when my husband gets up (at 4AM) and so I look out front from the bedroom (just a habit I have when I get out of bed and when I go to bed). So that's how I see this.

Keep in mind its pitch black and he doesn't have always have his dog out like i said (more not than does). PLus they built a big fence in the back for the dog, so why would he take the dog out front when he does have the dog with him insrtead of the back yard?

Also I noticed the woman leaves for work at 8. He doesn't leave till 10 or 11 so why is he out front after 4 AM staring at our house?.

Lastly we only know our new next door neighbors (very nice young couple). Because no one around here says hello or talks to each other! (Something I found weird since moving here 11 years ago because i lived in the city where people were friendly!)

So I know nothing about these neighbors across the street. BUT its starting to get creepy and me looking over nonchalantly out the bed room window I feel like Mrs Kravitz from Bewtiched! (Yes i actually peek out the curtains from bedroom window! lol. and there he sits staring over at our house)

Anwyay is this is odd or creepy or much ado about nothing? My husband says who cares as i said? But my husband goes out back in the pitch black and puts bird seed before work in the dark, putters around out front some days taking the trash bag (all from 4 to 5 AM) Well it worries me (about anyone approaching him not the neighbor) because hes so naive a lot of times! Im from the city originally and have more street smarts!

Anwyay this guys creeping me out.

So is this guy creepy or not creepy?

Re: Is this odd?

Catty2 — Fri, 04 May 2018 04:18:20 GMT

My first thought is maybe he is meditating. Other than that, it is kinda creepy.

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YorkieonmyPillow — Fri, 04 May 2018 04:30:28 GMT

This may be a dumb question but if it's dark outside, how can you tell he is staring at your home? @Shorty2U

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on the bay — Fri, 04 May 2018 04:34:28 GMT

could he be smoking? or reading something? Some people wake up really early and just like to be outside maybe?

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sunshine45 — Fri, 04 May 2018 04:41:10 GMT

meditating, praying, relaxing......maybe he is a morning person and just enjoys being outside and tuned into nature.

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bikerbabe — Fri, 04 May 2018 04:41:17 GMT

I would say just because he’s looking ahead doesn’t mean that he’s specifically staring at you and your home. After all, you did say that his house is across from yours? So if he’s out front, your house is straightahead right? Someone else made a good point how can you even tell if it’s dark outside? I would also say insomnia.

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bikerbabe — Fri, 04 May 2018 04:41:59 GMT

Or this Is when the dog gets him up to go outside every morning.

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Shorty2U — Fri, 04 May 2018 05:20:37 GMT

@YorkieonmyPillow wrote:
This may be a dumb question but if it's dark outside, how can you tell he is staring at your home? @Shorty2U

There is a street light in our development. (its a country development of homes)

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Kachina624 — Fri, 04 May 2018 05:21:44 GMT

If all you have to do at 4am is peak through the curtains to stare at the neighbor who is staring at you, you need to get a hobby. My guess is that he's smoking or drinking his coffee, but it really would not concern me in the least. Consider him to be your personal, private security guard. You'll have no prowler in the area as long as he's sitting outside.

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thyme Patty — Fri, 04 May 2018 05:25:54 GMT

30 minutes outside when it's dark is weird...but, never know, could be waiting for his dog to finish up business in the backyard. LOL on the bewitched comment.. Could he see you peeking out the window? Be safe.. probably nothing to worry about.

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Shorty2U — Fri, 04 May 2018 05:31:44 GMT

@bikerbabe wrote:
Or this Is when the dog gets him up to go outside every morning.

Yes I thought of the dog getting him up. But they just built a huge fence to fence in their yard out back, so why would they let the dog go on their front grass? And the dog isn't with him all the time. Usually people turn their head (look down or whatever) whether they're facing straight sitting or not. He stares until 457 AM (right before my husband leaves) Also hes not on his steps or porch. Hes sitting on the slate slabs that lead up the grass (If they weren't there he would be on the grass). I dont know maybe he is meditating. I never saw anyone sit like that like a statue staring straight.

And im up at 4 AM a lot because i have insomnia. I sleep at like 5 to 10 or 11 AM since I dont work. anymore. And my husband gets up at 4 AM for work!

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RoughDraft — Fri, 04 May 2018 05:33:15 GMT

Maybe his wife snores. Maybe he's an insomniac like you. Maybe you should ask your physician for some sleep aids.

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Shorty2U — Fri, 04 May 2018 05:41:15 GMT

@RoughDraft wrote:
Maybe his wife snores. Maybe he's an insomniac like you. Maybe you should ask your physician for some sleep aids.

I cant take sleep aids with my other medications. I was told to turn off electronic devices before bed which works sometimes. Also I dont drink caffeine, because If I do I dont sleep for 24 hours. I started getitng insomnia when my dad died 7 years ago.

Anyway about the guy I have no clue but its weird to me, because A I wouldnt be sititng outsdie at 4 AM anywhere alone now days. And B the way he stares so maybe he is meditating.

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mcducky — Fri, 04 May 2018 05:41:48 GMT

He could be talking to someone on the phone or listening to an audiobook. No telling what he's doing. If you're curious, go over with a cake or cookies and welcome them to the neighborhood. Joking say I noticed you are up at the crack of dawn. Me too.

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RoughDraft — Fri, 04 May 2018 05:47:08 GMT

@Shorty2U wrote:
@RoughDraft wrote:
Maybe his wife snores. Maybe he's an insomniac like you. Maybe you should ask your physician for some sleep aids.
I cant take sleep aids with my other medications. I was told to turn off electronic devices before bed which works sometimes. Also I dont drink caffeine, because If I do I dont sleep for 24 hours. I started getitng insomnia when my dad died 7 years ago.

Anyway about the guy I have no clue but its weird to me, because A I wouldnt be sititng outsdie at 4 AM anywhere alone now days. And B the way he stares so maybe he is meditating.

@Shorty2U I'm sorry that you're having problems sleeping. I know it can't be fun. However, if you're really obsessing about this man harming you or your family without any provocation, something else is wrong here, which I am not privy to.

Perhaps introducing yourself to your new neighbors might help allieviate your anxiety.

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x Hedge — Fri, 04 May 2018 05:56:48 GMT

If you think he's watching your house & property, I suggest you search for what he's looking at.

Is there something happening in your yard that's worth watching?

You're describing that hour of the day when birds start singing the dawn chorus, rabbits visit their hidden nests to nurse their babies, critters of the night can be seen slinking around on their way back to their daytime hiding places.

It's a peaceful, grounding time to sit silently outside.

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Scooby Doo — Fri, 04 May 2018 07:44:02 GMT

My neighbor across the street from me does the same thing but during the day. He's a widower, about 83, with nothing to do. He goes outside to the front patio and stares at my side of the street. Then he goes inside for a while, then comes out again. I consider him my own private neighborhood watch. He's been doing it for years.

I tick him off though when I go outside to mow the grass in shorts and a t-shirt with no bra. He goes in the house and slams the door behind him. lol Maybe he thinks I should be wearing a prarie skirt and bonnet.

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mistriTsquirrel — Fri, 04 May 2018 12:16:39 GMT

I had a neighbor like that when I moved into my house. He would sit on his lounger all day, with his dog on his lap. It was like he was sunbathing, but he was always directly facing my house, and I felt like I was being watched sometimes. It made me nervous to go outside and weed the front bed and things like that, because I felt like he was staring at me.

I don't remember what caused me to talk to him the first time. As it turned out, he was a nice old retired guy who liked being outside with his dog. He was friendly with neighbors all up and down our street. Even neighborhood kids would go over there to talk to him and see his dog. In the end I felt safer with him out there.

He passed away at the end of 2015. He was an avid runner who used to run every morning. But when I talked to his wife, she said he had died of a blood clot. He was supposed to be on blood thinners for the duration of his life, due to a previous blood clot. He did not take his medication, and it killed him. I miss seeing that old guy, and I feel bad for his wife. She's a really sweet lady.

Anyway, I understand why you feel creeped out. But maybe there is a simple explanation for what he is doing. I have sat out on my porch at odd hours before, or I will sit in the grass. Sometimes the stillness is what I need to clear my mind. I don't know if my neighbors have seen me do that, or if they think I'm weird. I am weird, so I guess there's no reason to pretend otherwise. Maybe that guy is weird too.

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Lucky Charm — Fri, 04 May 2018 10:04:24 GMT

Yes, it's creepy.

And there's nothing wrong with you looking out your windows--ever. (Some people just go through life with blinders on, I guess.)

I think it's weird he sits on the slate. Does he do this when it's cold outside?

What I would do is, get a flood light (maybe off the garage) and direct the lamp his way to 'light him up'. And as soon as he comes out, turn it on. Every morning.

I would want him to be aware that your aware of him staring at your house.

No, there's nothing illegal about what he's doing as far as sitting there, but there's nothing illegal of you making it known to him that you know that he's doing it.

Hopefully, he stops. I would be creeped out.

eta: I have insomnia--maybe--once a year. And BINGO, tonight was the night. Fast asleep by midnite and woke up at 3:22 a.m. Am heading back to bed now! ugh

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ID2 — Fri, 04 May 2018 10:06:52 GMT

MYOB.