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Would you do this ???

chrystaltree — Sat, 10 Feb 2018 00:04:38 GMT

If you had a ten month old baby would you let your elderly grandfather who speaks no English and has dementia and has never visited you before...would you let him take your baby out for walk in the stroller? In the frigid cold, at that. It ended well, the police found the pair but he (of course) got lost and could not communicate with anyone and wandered the streets for hours until the police found them a couple towns over. What the @#$@% is wrong with people today!

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cherry — Sat, 10 Feb 2018 00:06:16 GMT

I think that mother should be investigated, if she actually allowed this...

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Mom2Dogs — Sat, 10 Feb 2018 00:08:00 GMT

Not a chance! I'd go with him, but not let him go alone...what is wrong with people?

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De Anna — Sat, 10 Feb 2018 00:08:04 GMT

No I wouldn't. Forget the language barrier, the dimentia would definately be the deal breaker for me.

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happycat — Sat, 10 Feb 2018 00:11:05 GMT

Nope! Wouldn't do that. And if I was that baby's daddy I would be beyond steamed.

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Noel7 — Sat, 10 Feb 2018 00:12:00 GMT

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@If you had a ten month old baby would you let your elderly grandfather who speaks no English and has dementia and has never visited you before...would you let him take your baby out for walk in the stroller? In the frigid cold, at that. It ended well, the police found the pair but he (of course) got lost and could not communicate with anyone and wandered the streets for hours until the police found them a couple towns over. What the @#$@% is wrong with people today!

No. I was basically a helicopter mother when she was a baby. My elderly father kept asking if he could hold her on his lap when I was driving him somewhere, and he got upset when I said she had to be strapped in her car seat. He was hurt I thought he couldn't hold on to her if something happened. I knew he couldn't.

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Love my grandkids — Sat, 10 Feb 2018 00:13:29 GMT

No way on God's green earth.

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Bri36 — Sat, 10 Feb 2018 00:16:44 GMT

Absolutely not.

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Laura14 — Sat, 10 Feb 2018 00:19:21 GMT

If he's never visited before, he would possibly get lost anyway, dementia or not.

And there are many stages to dementia. He is possibly only in the early stages which is why she felt comfortable letting them go for what was probably supposed to be a short stroll.

I really don't think the parents also have dementia and did what's being suggested here. No need to go think the worst of everyone. If they did, CPS will be at their door.

The parents probably thought he was perfectly capable but it didn't dawn on them that if he did lose his way he couldn't ask for help if he needed it because of the language barrier.

All's well that ended well and I am sure big lesson learned.

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blackhole99 — Sat, 10 Feb 2018 00:27:04 GMT

I would never have let either parent or inlaws keep my son until he was able to take of himself. My Mom would let my son eat junk and didn't quite get what no concentrated sweets or meat meant. When my son was 7 or so we let him stay overnight with my inlaws and when we picked him up and were driving home, he wanted to know why Grandma and Grandpa wouldn't watch Seinfeld, why didn't they like Sammy Davis and what was a Ginzo? That was the first and last time my inlaws had my son to themselves.

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FrostyBabe1 — Sat, 10 Feb 2018 00:34:23 GMT

IF I did something like that, I'd follow at a discrete distance to keep an eye on them and make sure everything was okay. If I couldn't do that, then no way.

I know that may seem crazy to some, but I've been down the dementia road with my mom. The loss of normalcy and control was devasatating for her. We did everything we could to allow her to maintain her routine, but she was never, ever unattended or unobserved. But of course, the safety of an infant would be absolutely paramount. As I said above, if I couldn't keep an eye on them, no.

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GCR18 — Sat, 10 Feb 2018 00:36:50 GMT

No. I would though go with them on a walk.

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catwhisperer — Sat, 10 Feb 2018 00:50:59 GMT

Absolutely not. People are crazy. Look at how many kooks post on these boards.

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NicksmomESQ — Sat, 10 Feb 2018 01:04:56 GMT

Not in a million years!!!!!! They would have to be escorted by someone responsible, period.

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Q4u — Sat, 10 Feb 2018 01:11:16 GMT

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No way on God's green earth.

I second that!!

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NAES1 — Sat, 10 Feb 2018 01:20:24 GMT

No, I would never allow that situation!!

Having no idea of the mother's age, (thinking she's apparently young).(??)

I hear on TV and read of the _USUAL_ BOYFRIEND situation, though, also: the single mother goes to work, the 'guy' babysits, wants to watch something on television, or sleep. The baby cries, he becomes angry, then the rest is either baby dying at his hands, or 'guy' lying to the ER, saying the baby was injured falling out of bed, et cetra.

Some women have babies like rabbits and become very frustrated.

"I believe most posters know the rest of the story".

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sheilababe — Sat, 10 Feb 2018 01:30:03 GMT

No way! Just because you can have children, it doesn't mean that you should. There really should be a test for stupidity before you can reproduce.

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Allegheny — Sat, 10 Feb 2018 01:35:37 GMT

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No. I would though go with them on a walk.

That is what I would do also.

Also, neither an infant or an elderly person should be outside in frigid, cold weather..

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AuntG — Sat, 10 Feb 2018 02:00:39 GMT

Let's hope no one says yes! I'd happily walk with them.

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KitTkat — Sat, 10 Feb 2018 02:45:48 GMT

Did the mother want something disastrous to happen? Yikes. If the baby could only talk!