https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/wedding-help-please/m-p/283957#M120833 <P>Ok- My daughter got engaged Christmas night. We are all so excited and the planning- and apparently family drama is well underway. My sister in law has assumed my niece- who is 7 years older than my daughter- and has 3 children was going to be in the wedding. The girls used to be close- but over the years their lives have changed dramatically. My daughter was in my niece's wedding but that was 8 years ago. My son was also in her wedding.</P> <P>Well- my son got married 4 years ago and his wife didn't choose my niece- because they had only met once and my niece lived on the other side of the country. One strike against us- apparently. She had her sister as maid of honor and her 2 best friends and my daughter- her future sister in law.</P> <P>Now my sister in law and my niece and her family have moved out here in the same state as we live. Once in a while my daughter and niece will go to a movie- but that is it. They live totally different lives and really have nothing in common.</P> <P>Yesterday my sister in law asked me who my daughter had chosen for her bridal party. I told her that she had chosen my daughter in law ( her sister in law)- they are very close and her future sister in law- her fiancee's sister- her maid of honor will be her best friend. Only the three girls. They want a small bridal party and she has other friends that she could also ask but her fiancee only has a couple guy friends he feels comfortable asking- so they decided to keep it family for the most part. My daughter wanted a balanced wedding party - and a small party. My sister in law- in no uncertain terms told me her daughter will be devastated AGAIN ( apparently she was upset about my son's wedding although she never said ) and as family- we are DONE </P> <P>Well what she didn't know and I didn't feel was my place to say- is that my daughter had been thinking about having my niece's two older boys be ring bearers or mini ushers. Now- I don't know what to do- I think my sister in law is being a bully and my daughter has every right to choose who she wants to stand up with her.</P> <P>Any thoughts?</P> Thu, 10 Jan 2013 15:06:28 GMT mfrctaz 2013-01-10T15:06:28Z https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/wedding-help-please/m-p/283957#M120833 <P>Ok- My daughter got engaged Christmas night. We are all so excited and the planning- and apparently family drama is well underway. My sister in law has assumed my niece- who is 7 years older than my daughter- and has 3 children was going to be in the wedding. The girls used to be close- but over the years their lives have changed dramatically. My daughter was in my niece's wedding but that was 8 years ago. My son was also in her wedding.</P> <P>Well- my son got married 4 years ago and his wife didn't choose my niece- because they had only met once and my niece lived on the other side of the country. One strike against us- apparently. She had her sister as maid of honor and her 2 best friends and my daughter- her future sister in law.</P> <P>Now my sister in law and my niece and her family have moved out here in the same state as we live. Once in a while my daughter and niece will go to a movie- but that is it. They live totally different lives and really have nothing in common.</P> <P>Yesterday my sister in law asked me who my daughter had chosen for her bridal party. I told her that she had chosen my daughter in law ( her sister in law)- they are very close and her future sister in law- her fiancee's sister- her maid of honor will be her best friend. Only the three girls. They want a small bridal party and she has other friends that she could also ask but her fiancee only has a couple guy friends he feels comfortable asking- so they decided to keep it family for the most part. My daughter wanted a balanced wedding party - and a small party. My sister in law- in no uncertain terms told me her daughter will be devastated AGAIN ( apparently she was upset about my son's wedding although she never said ) and as family- we are DONE </P> <P>Well what she didn't know and I didn't feel was my place to say- is that my daughter had been thinking about having my niece's two older boys be ring bearers or mini ushers. Now- I don't know what to do- I think my sister in law is being a bully and my daughter has every right to choose who she wants to stand up with her.</P> <P>Any thoughts?</P> Thu, 10 Jan 2013 15:06:28 GMT https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/wedding-help-please/m-p/283957#M120833 mfrctaz 2013-01-10T15:06:28Z