topic Re: A new person in Community Chat

A new person

LTT1 — Fri, 24 Nov 2017 16:18:40 GMT

Have you ever known anybody who made themselves into a completely “new” person?

Fascinating to me, but at first kind of weird, a girl did this one summer of our college days.

Went away for the summer... came back totally unrecognizable.😮

I’m thinking about this....I asked her what happened?

She replied that she thought it over and this is how she turned out. Who does this?

Re: A new person

Desertdi — Fri, 24 Nov 2017 16:22:31 GMT

*I* did it myself many years ago. It was pretty drastic, and even my mother didn't recognize me.

Re: A new person

deepwaterdotter — Fri, 24 Nov 2017 16:25:40 GMT

Did they take on only a new physical appearance, or did they also experience a personality do-over? Did it include surgical procedures?

Re: A new person

AuntG — Fri, 24 Nov 2017 16:29:05 GMT

Not quite sure if this fits your answer but I am surprised how one friend turned out. We both grew up in the country, not at all rich or fancy. This is judgemental, but she was homely and B student at best. She is now a corporate lawyer in a large east coast city and a big patron of the arts (opera and symphony). I guess once out of high school, some people just flourish.

Re: A new person

sidsmom — Fri, 24 Nov 2017 16:29:45 GMT

Funny you should mention this.

I was talking to my friend, who lost over 200lb, about this recently.

We know many, many people personally & online who have

changed their diets & changed their mindset when they

became healthy, healed themselves & lost weight.

Depression, bad attitude & just cranky mindset...gone.

They look different; their attitude is positive...

they’re a completely different person.

Their whole persona has changed for the better

when their life is full of gratitude.

How can you not want some of that?

💛🌼

Re: A new person

Group 5 minus 1 — Fri, 24 Nov 2017 16:40:34 GMT

I knew a woman who did this years ago. Went to Florida and came back about a year later. She didn't change her appearance as much as her personality. I always wondered about what happened.

Re: A new person

kaydee50 — Fri, 24 Nov 2017 17:18:25 GMT

I wish some people I know would make themselves over especially personality wise!

Re: A new person

SilleeMee — Fri, 24 Nov 2017 17:29:34 GMT

I can see how someone can change their physical appearance but change their personality?? How does one go about doing this? Is this even possible?

Re: A new person

Newgate — Fri, 24 Nov 2017 17:39:31 GMT

I was not at my best in high schoold or even for a few years after! I was shy, quiet and not real secure! It was not until after I was married and had 3 children that I became a much more friendly and more secure!

I think maturity helped me. Some people told me that I seemed so much different! I feel I just had to grow up!

Re: A new person

Mominohio — Fri, 24 Nov 2017 17:53:59 GMT

I think this can happen to people, especially if there is a big change in their life.

A big weight loss, a divorce, a big move away from family and friends. a marriage, or simply the waking up one day, and not liking the person they see in the mirror.

Some people dream or have many years of intentions of changing in some way, and something one day is the motivator to get it going. It can be something someone said to them (positive or negative), it can be things they see going by in their lives that they want, it can come out of necessity as they find they have no other choices in some particular area of their life.

Sometimes those changes are for the better, and sometimes not.

Re: A new person

Noel7 — Fri, 24 Nov 2017 18:13:00 GMT

It’s called Reinventing Yourself. Fascinating, imo.

Re: A new person

Shawnie — Fri, 24 Nov 2017 18:25:11 GMT

It wasn't a physical change but years ago a girl I knew went away, gave up her baby. She was a different person when she came back. Very sad how teen pregnancies were handled then.

Re: A new person

NicksmomESQ — Fri, 24 Nov 2017 18:46:17 GMT

I had a friend about 18 years ago who was an extremely devoted mother of 2 young children.Her husband died suddenly of a heart attack at age 50. After she collected the life insurance she had quite a bit of plastic surgery, dyed her hair, & lost weight.

She suddenly morphed into a different person.She started drinking & partying with men.She would leave her kids alone. There were many times I went over to her house to feed her kids.On many occasions her kids slept at my house because she was to drunk to care for them.

Luckily her kids grew up & have good lives today.They always check in with me to see how I’m doing.I can tell they are grateful that I was there for them.

She remarried.Her kids are on their own.We are no longer friends!!

Re: A new person

willdob3 — Fri, 24 Nov 2017 20:14:42 GMT

@sidsmom wrote:
Funny you should mention this.
I was talking to my friend, who lost over 200lb, about this recently.

We know many, many people personally & online who have
changed their diets & changed their mindset when they
became healthy, healed themselves & lost weight.

Depression, bad attitude & just cranky mindset...gone.
They look different; their attitude is positive...
they’re a completely different person.

Their whole persona has changed for the better
when their life is full of gratitude.
How can you not want some of that?
💛🌼

@sidsmom @LTT1

I’m not sure this is what OP meant... But it is similar to what I did. I changed inside first, learning to love and believe in myself. That made other, healthy lifestyle changes possible. The result has been an extreme weight loss and a wonderful mindset & attitude that has improved everything in my life. Priceless.

Re: A new person

Vickiv — Fri, 24 Nov 2017 20:33:58 GMT

It’s something how we can turn into a new person. Maybe it’s losing weight,new hairstyle, different clothes and even a new attitude. How about a new husband or a new boyfriend that could make us into a new person also. So many ways we can change but the most important thing is we must always stay true to what is in our heart that is something that you can not change into a new person.

Re: A new person

mac116 — Fri, 24 Nov 2017 22:49:37 GMT

A former colleague and her husband did that several years ago. Weight loss, personal trainer, adult braces, and new wardrobes over the course of a little over a year. They were so happy and they looked fantasic! I wish I could get motivated to do the same.

Re: A new person

LTT1 — Fri, 24 Nov 2017 23:47:46 GMT

@deepwaterdotter

Since I didn’t know this girl personally I can’t say much about her personality. (the one who changed herself)

When I saw her, I had to ask who she was.

I believe she went from rather studious-looking to WOW looking. I think she was a drama major (might explain a lot).

She ditched the glasses and changed up her hair. The way she carried herself was different somehow. More outgoing (I had always known her to be shy and mousie).

When I spoke to her she said it was just something she decided to do!

Those that knew her seemed perplexed. It must have taken her every minute that summer to become a different person inside and out.

Re: A new person

chrystaltree — Sat, 25 Nov 2017 04:01:12 GMT

I don't think it's uncommon. We all change over time but sometimes people change drastically over a short period of time. Sometimes a loss or an illness or some other life change makes people reinvent themselves.

Re: A new person

ROMARY — Sat, 25 Nov 2017 04:35:11 GMT

A few C and D teen students we knew married 'up'. Way, way 'up'. They did have great personalities. And they definitely 'changed'. They met their ideal spouse for them, and were given the opportunity to excel in their goals, their lives. A person doesn't have to be an A++ student to excel and be an ambitious contributor to society. Their adult kids have done very well, too. Ambition counts. A lot. (Well, $ doesn't hurt either. And 'contacts' come in very handy. That's for sure.)

Re: A new person

Kalli — Sat, 25 Nov 2017 04:33:50 GMT

I've changed over my lifetime, from a quiet, somewhat reserved person to someone who's more likely to speak up and not put up with stupid stuff. But I think the op is talking more about a quicker change in someone.

Anyway, I'm sure if I saw some folks who haven't seen or spoken to me in many years, they'd be shocked I'm so opinionated now! 😉

ETA My sis who used to be rebellious, independent and daring, is now more like I was and I'm more like she was. We've switched roles.