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Sad time

Wiscfan3 — Sun, 29 Oct 2017 23:47:17 GMT

My mom passed away last year on Dec 16. This time of year is starting to bring up many reminders of her last couple of months. She had cancer and had to go into assisted living in September of last year. There were many problems including a week in the hospital for a broken hip and surgery. I miss her so much. Now sadly my mother-in-law is in a similar situation. She has cancer, had pneumonia, and is now in a nursing home. She is with hospice and I am afraid that she does not have much time. I feel like I am living last year all over again. It is just such a sad time for my family.

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catwhisperer — Sun, 29 Oct 2017 23:51:31 GMT

@Wiscfan3...I am so sorry for what you are going through. It's scary and heart wrenching. (((Hugs))).

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fluffysmom — Sun, 29 Oct 2017 23:52:34 GMT

I am so sorry. It is so difficult. My parents were gone on Dec. 16 and then Jan 17.Two forms of dementia. Let yourself have time to heal when you can. Nothing prepares us for this.

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Susiequeue — Mon, 30 Oct 2017 00:19:06 GMT

So sorry for your loss last year and your current situation with MIL. At times one does feel a bit pounded by the universe. An actual body blow........

I lost my 62 year old sister 12/15/16, so I hear you, every single thing is a reminder.....l

hurting still,

best wishes to you and yours,

SEC

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CareBears — Mon, 30 Oct 2017 00:19:37 GMT

@Wiscfan3 My father passed away on December 23, 1995, such a hard time to lose someone you love as their absence is felt during what is supposed to be the happiest time of the year, it still hurts I will not deny that, but as time has rolled on, I choose now to celebrate my Dads love of the season, he loved coming over to our home as I decorate tevery room and always make sure I have a festive home and attitude, as my Mom was the same way also, I lost her back in 1990. Yes I still get sad not having them physically here, but I feel their presence with us during the holiday, and I know they look down from heaven at our celebration and can feel that we carry on the traditions that we had growing up and can look into our hearts to know that they will never be forgotten. I pray that you find comfort, and I pray for your MIL, please know you are never alone as long as you have faith, and believe in the magic of the season

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Q4u — Mon, 30 Oct 2017 00:19:44 GMT

I lost both my parents over the holidays, one on Dec 17 and the other Jan 14. I think that there's a huge happy party "up there" over the dear Lord's birthday because it seems that a lot of those that we love are called to heaven during this time....

It's been 20 years and I miss them every single day.

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ptagirl — Mon, 30 Oct 2017 00:21:53 GMT

I am so sorry you are going through this. I know how hard it can be and am feeling your pain.

I lost my mother twenty six years ago ... three days after thanksgiving...and my dad in January seven years ago. The holidays are never the same, but I have many beautiful memories....

My SIL is now in hospice care full time and is expected to be with the lord soon...it will be a great relief for my brother and neice, as this has been a long struggle for all...and she will be with her other daughter and her parents up above without pain...

I know things are very sad and difficult right now, but they will get better over time... All you can do is be there for her and let her know you care...

All my blessings in your time of need..

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123SuzyQ123 — Mon, 30 Oct 2017 01:09:59 GMT

Hugs to all of you going through this loss, some of which are very recent and very fresh. My Mom has been gone 38 years, and I still think of her and wish I could talk to her. Please know that many of us know what you are going through, and wishing for healing for all of you!

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Wiscfan3 — Mon, 30 Oct 2017 01:14:47 GMT

Thank you so much for the responses. All of your words and stories have touched me and given me strength tonight. I am so blessed to have had a wonderful loving mom and also a mother-in-law who I love with all my heart.

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qvcfreak — Mon, 30 Oct 2017 02:43:38 GMT

I can truly feel your pain. My MIL passed away in August 2009 and Mom passed away 5 months later in January 2010. I miss them both every day. I send you (((HUGS))) and blessings

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ZoetheCat — Mon, 30 Oct 2017 02:59:30 GMT

@Wiscfan3 wrote:
My mom passed away last year on Dec 16. This time of year is starting to bring up many reminders of her last couple of months. She had cancer and had to go into assisted living in September of last year. There were many problems including a week in the hospital for a broken hip and surgery. I miss her so much. Now sadly my mother-in-law is in a similar situation. She has cancer, had pneumonia, and is now in a nursing home. She is with hospice and I am afraid that she does not have much time. I feel like I am living last year all over again. It is just such a sad time for my family.

So sorry you are having a hard time @Wiscfan3. I think time does help although you never "get over" losing a parent.

My dad died on December 17, 2006. Hard to believe it's been 11 years!

I find it so interesting the things that bring memories to the surface. People will often say to me that it is sad that my dad died during the holiday season and how it must be difficult for me during that time of year. But, actually, for me that is not the case. My dad never really loved Christmas. He thought it had become too materialistic. He did love Thanksgiving, though, and he was such a great cook. We have all tried to replicate his stuffing, but we never quite get there!

My dad really loved summer. He and my mom gave us the land where we built our house, which happens to be about 300 yards in back of my childhood home (where my mom still ives). Dad used to love to mow our lawn. And so, 11 years after his death, I find that the time I miss him most is when i am out mowing the lawn. I still see him out there in his element, loving the warm sun and happy to help us by taking care of the grass. Such bittersweet memories.

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gidgetgh — Mon, 30 Oct 2017 09:54:48 GMT

@Wiscfan3 wrote:
My mom passed away last year on Dec 16. This time of year is starting to bring up many reminders of her last couple of months. She had cancer and had to go into assisted living in September of last year. There were many problems including a week in the hospital for a broken hip and surgery. I miss her so much. Now sadly my mother-in-law is in a similar situation. She has cancer, had pneumonia, and is now in a nursing home. She is with hospice and I am afraid that she does not have much time. I feel like I am living last year all over again. It is just such a sad time for my family.

@Wiscfan3- I'm so sorry about the loss of your mom last year. It's very hard to lose a parent and now you're mother in law is sick. I don't know if there's a good time of year to face losses and challenges like this, but definitely heading into the winter and holidays is especially tough.

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Nataliesgramma — Mon, 30 Oct 2017 10:26:36 GMT

(((((HUGS)))) to all who lost friends or family recently.......

Makes it especially hard during the Holidays I know...

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Financialgrl — Mon, 30 Oct 2017 10:44:58 GMT

@Wiscfan3 wrote:
My mom passed away last year on Dec 16. This time of year is starting to bring up many reminders of her last couple of months. She had cancer and had to go into assisted living in September of last year. There were many problems including a week in the hospital for a broken hip and surgery. I miss her so much. Now sadly my mother-in-law is in a similar situation. She has cancer, had pneumonia, and is now in a nursing home. She is with hospice and I am afraid that she does not have much time. I feel like I am living last year all over again. It is just such a sad time for my family.

I'm sorry for your loss. Your story (broken hip/pneumonia) is, sadly the same thing that happened to my father - and many elderly. My dad broke his hip, had it replaced but never recovered after that and died 2 weeks before Christmas - 4 years ago and for the first 2 years after that Christmas time brought up those memories but as you know, time may not heal all wounds but it usually gets better for most of us.

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meallen616 — Mon, 30 Oct 2017 11:09:29 GMT

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AngelPuppy1 — Mon, 30 Oct 2017 12:37:24 GMT

@Wiscfan3 wrote:
My mom passed away last year on Dec 16. This time of year is starting to bring up many reminders of her last couple of months. She had cancer and had to go into assisted living in September of last year. There were many problems including a week in the hospital for a broken hip and surgery. I miss her so much. Now sadly my mother-in-law is in a similar situation. She has cancer, had pneumonia, and is now in a nursing home. She is with hospice and I am afraid that she does not have much time. I feel like I am living last year all over again. It is just such a sad time for my family.

@Wiscfan3

My heart is with you and I pray for strenth for you. I just lost my dear mother a few days ago. It was a long, long, painful struggle for her. So, I know how you are feeling. I am terribly sorry that your MIL is going through this. Gather strength from your family and prayer. My best to you.

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Jamma — Mon, 30 Oct 2017 12:48:00 GMT

@Q4u wrote:
I lost both my parents over the holidays, one on Dec 17 and the other Jan 14. I think that there's a huge happy party "up there" over the dear Lord's birthday because it seems that a lot of those that we love are called to heaven during this time....

It's been 20 years and I miss them every single day.

My Dad died Dec. 19 and my Mom Jan. 16 many years ago. I lost my Hubby Dec. 22, 2015.

Jamma

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Patriot3 — Mon, 30 Oct 2017 12:52:28 GMT

@Wiscfan3 wrote:
My mom passed away last year on Dec 16. This time of year is starting to bring up many reminders of her last couple of months. She had cancer and had to go into assisted living in September of last year. There were many problems including a week in the hospital for a broken hip and surgery. I miss her so much. Now sadly my mother-in-law is in a similar situation. She has cancer, had pneumonia, and is now in a nursing home. She is with hospice and I am afraid that she does not have much time. I feel like I am living last year all over again. It is just such a sad time for my family.

@Wiscfan3 I'm so sorry you have to go thru this. I think it always seems worse at the holidays because we equate that time w/happiness and now you're facing this sadness.

Be strong and you will get thru this! Sending hugs!

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IMW — Mon, 30 Oct 2017 17:24:39 GMT

So very sorry for your loss. We never forget and the hole in our heart remains but it scabs over so the pain isn’t so raw.

The sadness is a reminder of how much she meant to you, and means to you. How great a love. I, too, miss my mom, aren’t we fortunate to have had such a mother/ daughter relationship in our lives?

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Wiscfan3 — Tue, 31 Oct 2017 00:05:11 GMT

My mother-in-law passed away this afternoon. Thank you all again for your thoughts, stories of your own loved ones and your losses, and your prayers. I was so sad and down last night and just knew that today was going to be the day we lost her. I am glad that she is no longer suffering and she and my mom are together in heaven watching out for us from above. I just can't believe that a year ago I had 2 moms, and now I have none.