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The sadness is exhusting

Abrowneyegirl — Fri, 06 Oct 2017 20:03:56 GMT

I do not know how much more I can take, in the last 6 days I have been informed of close friends or family (ages 25 to 71) have been informed that they have terrible terminal diseases.

The diagnoses include:

ALS

stage 4 pancreatic cancer

Breast cancer that has spread to the heart, bones, liver and brain

stage 4 lung cancer- both lungs, bone and liver

GBM grade 4 brain cancer

We are trying to digest the information and create some sort of plan to figure out who needs what help and support when.

It is such a surprise, all of these people have lead healthy, active lives and are the 'pictures of good health.' All went to the doctor with a minor complaint of "something" not quite right......

Correction --the young woman with breast cancer, she has had it for a several months now and was doing well with tx, they expected her to be going into full remission soon when she started to have a pain in her hip; instead of remission the finds were that it is suddenly spreading quickly.

We so need to have some good news! So much sadness.

I am almost paranoid now

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dex — Fri, 06 Oct 2017 20:11:03 GMT

@Abrowneyegirl I have nothing to say that can help your sadness but I wanted to send you a very long hug.I will pray for your family and friends to heal.

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Laura14 — Fri, 06 Oct 2017 20:12:13 GMT

Prayers to all and you and the rest of the support group.

Got my own family medical crisis happening but only one man down here.

Stay healthy everyone!

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NicksmomESQ — Fri, 06 Oct 2017 20:13:40 GMT

Omg!! There are no words!! Stay strong!! Life can be so cruel!!

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spent2much — Fri, 06 Oct 2017 20:18:37 GMT

@AbrowneyegirlI'm so sorry. **HUGS**

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aggravated — Fri, 06 Oct 2017 20:24:45 GMT

This is all so tragic. Very sorry. Try and just cope and support - that's all you can do.

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GenXmuse — Fri, 06 Oct 2017 20:28:35 GMT

Try to focus on how you can be a blessing to them to do something with your sadness.

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hopi — Fri, 06 Oct 2017 20:29:19 GMT

@Abrowneyegirl

Prayers for all your friends and family. You have to stay strong for them and be grateful for everything.

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kitcat51 — Fri, 06 Oct 2017 20:38:29 GMT

I'm sorry. I won't say all the things people say when they don't know what to say, nothing can make the awful news any better. All you can do is be there to listen, offer comfort & pitch in with anything that needs to be done. Been through it & it never gets any easier. The good news your looking for will come as family, friends & the health professionals all come together to help. Blessings.

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Lapdog — Fri, 06 Oct 2017 20:34:48 GMT

@AbrowneyegirlPRAYERS AND BLESSINGS for you and all of your friends and family. Hold tight and may you find some comfort here.

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goldensrbest — Fri, 06 Oct 2017 20:44:27 GMT

I am sorry, take care of yourself ,because all the worry can really effect your health.

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saltysails — Fri, 06 Oct 2017 20:50:14 GMT

It seems that cancer is on the rise in this country. I sure wish they would find a cure. I lost my brother last Friday. He was diagnosed 5 months ago with AML. The down hill is so tragic. Keep your family and friends around you and try to stay strong. I can not imagine having so many of your loved ones going thru this at once.

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Jaspersmom — Fri, 06 Oct 2017 21:15:13 GMT

First, let me say how sorry I am you have to go through this. As we all know, things are going to happen, but when they all come at once, they are overwhelming. From April to August, I had to attend seven funerals and most were for people who died way too young. I didn't know how much more bad news I could deal with. All of these deaths made me think of my own mortality (frightening) and were a painful reminder how short life is. I have no sage advice except to suggest you seek solace in family and friends. When my friends were sick, I kept in touch and visited them when I could. They amazed me with their strength and courage. I miss these people terribly, but I try to honor them by appreciating each and every day God gives me and being as kind and compassionate as I can be. <3

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Lilysmom — Fri, 06 Oct 2017 21:14:02 GMT

@Abrowneyegirl, I am sending a cyber hug to you. I lost three siblings, one on their 50‘s, two in their 60's in 16 months. Every six months there was a terminal diagnosis with months of treatment before each of them passed. It seemed I just got through one loss and another was upon me.

Pitch in, accept offers of help and take it one day at a time. I am praying for you @Abrowneyegirl. God bless. LM

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Mom2Dogs — Fri, 06 Oct 2017 21:23:08 GMT

@Abrowneyegirl, oh my, how sad and way to much to handle....take care.

Prayer is not always answered in the way we want...but 'we' are not in charge, my prayers are with you to help you deal with this awful cluster of bad news.

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qualitygal — Fri, 06 Oct 2017 21:34:02 GMT

Sometimes, there's just nothing to be said, or able to understand. We'll keep you in our thoughts and prayers. Sending good wishes to all and hugs. So sorry for the rough time everyone is going through.

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Patriot3 — Fri, 06 Oct 2017 21:35:29 GMT

I'm so sorry.......I am always the one who thinks, now there must be something I can do. I wrack my brain and finally admit that most times all I can do is pray. I pray every day for anyone who needs prayers that day for anything in their lives. Now you can be sure you are in there!

In July I lost a cousin and two classmates in a matter of a couple of weeks and it was rough. One had a massive stroke, one ALS and one COPD. All my age. Makes you take a step back. Be strong and God Bless!

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Lindsays Grandma — Fri, 06 Oct 2017 22:49:12 GMT

It is hard to find the words that will make you feel better. I know from experience how painful it is when loved ones become ill and the prognosis is dim. All you can do for them is to comfort them and help them in any way you can. You need to stay strong for them and at the same time look inward for solace during this difficult time.

If you can, take one day at a time and remember to smile and laugh, because smiling and laughing is healing. Prayers are being sent your way along with hugs.

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Nataliesgramma — Fri, 06 Oct 2017 22:54:13 GMT

((((((HUGS)))))))

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chiclets — Fri, 06 Oct 2017 22:55:30 GMT

Be gentle with yourself, you are doing the best you can.

May Angels watch over everyone.